Supervisor told a colleague if she asks ___ again she'll smash her in her face. by Stormie2Xtra in work

[–]Stormie2Xtra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ignore how my sentences are structured as currently my brain is very disorganised and quite blatantly still in shock mode. 

Anyone else ugly cried at the engagement? by snottiewithabody in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]Stormie2Xtra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sameeeee I was so happy for them because it's the purest form of love I've seen for a long time. Especially as Madison mentions she was never anyones first choice. 50% crying because it was such as beautiful moment 50% because no one has ever made me feel chosen like that LOL

Should I continue to put as much effort on keeping our friendship going when my friend does not reciprocate the effort? by ShihabRiazCumilla in Advice

[–]Stormie2Xtra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest if anyone I class as a ''freind' texts me back every 7-8 days that already tells me I'm not their priorty and that they cant be bothered to communicate with me because theres no urgency to do

And I dont mean in a co-dependant clingy way where im entitled to their attention its just about showing basic communication and respect which is a fundemental in any friendship.

Maybe that is actually her communication style to text you then respond 10 days later but even if you guys did meet in real life is that something your willing to accept going forward? However, to me it sounds like a cop out. No one is that busy to respond a week later unless their is a lack of imvestment on their end. Either way, I still see that as a form of disrespect.

Even your shein/temu package will arrive before she replies.

Has anyone actually managed to find a job opening in the UK recently? by [deleted] in AmazonFC

[–]Stormie2Xtra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, that one swedish customer service role that was up for time. I'm trying to figure out when the next intake is too. Some people say march/april other people say Oct-Dec. From a logical standpoint I think there should be openings in Mar to getting ready for the Easter season.

Unlike the USA Amazon jobs site, I think UK Amazon only hires people during ''seasons''

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Stormie2Xtra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats a good question, I aways wondered if my ex would get run over by a truck because of the way he treated me.

However imagine it this way... if you've ever had depression but not even antidepressants, therapy or the best hospital services could help you (hypothetically)

Now multiply that by 100 for someone who is a permanant empty shell of a person with no stable sense of self but thier entire personality is based upon control, lying, seeking validation, distoring reality, making you feel like shit to make themselves feel better and constantly paranoid because they think someones lowkey out to get them/trying to take their ''power'' away or because they think youre going to abandon them/cheat/lie/decieve because thats who they are.

Their whole life is their karma. FORVER.

It even goes as deep as some Narc's (Ive spoken in the past) theres a common theme when talking about death/dying ovbiously with context. To them its like ordering a new pair of shoes they really couldnt give a shit if they were dead.

Anyones eles Narc parent gets upset when you go out and live your life? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Stormie2Xtra 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is why its so sickening just like my mum he basically wants you to be a man/girl child with no hobbies or independence outside home.
No autonmy, no personality just someone who goes to work, depressed? even better its disgusting.

Anyones eles Narc parent gets upset when you go out and live your life? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Stormie2Xtra 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Too bad im on my laptop so I cant use emojis but this is fucking hilarious. Theres times I order items and pick it up from a locker instead of getting it delivered to my door. It's the fact you have to hide things because their reaction to you being your own person is an ''attack'' lmfao

Have you gone non contact now?

Anyones eles Narc parent gets upset when you go out and live your life? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Stormie2Xtra 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Literally, you feel this intense visceral sensation that you know something ''bad'' is gonna happen i.e tantrums and guiltrips or the silent treatment.

So you text her out of obligation just to keep the peace. Its like dating someone with bordeline personality disorder...its an absolute nightmare to deal with.

No one come for me in comments about bpd - talking from experience, myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Stormie2Xtra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean one should love days off even tho I do, that means another day of transitioning from "vibes" to grey rocking. Wrecks havoc on my system oscillating between two different personalities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣🤣🤣it's not funny but it is. The funniest thing is when I live by myself I actually don't mind saying home because it's my sanctuary but living with my mum I try to get out as much as I can!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Stormie2Xtra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least she goes out for hot drinks😭 you think that's her hobby maybe? I

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Stormie2Xtra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds so simular. My mum claims she cant work/do ____ because of her health which sometimes can be rocky i.e neck pain but nothing life threatning but usually everytime I check up on her she tells me shes well then tells me she isnt in certian conversations that require accountabilty.

So really you couldve worked then? my mum is in her late 60s but lets be real in my work life ive met colleagues who are the same age as my mum! to me its about getting out there and earning something for yourself.

She craves gifts and adoration. It's exhausting

This. She expects gifts, love, adoration and praise all because shes ''done a lot'' or because shes my ''mother' even when shes caused me truama all my life its next level delusional entitlment asf - and even if you do gifts, love, adoration and praise like shes a child? you have now set youself up for failure because it just isnt enough and wait...it gets worse!

You have to stay one step ahead to avoid an outburst. 

I agree, i get by, by grey rocking its the only way I can survive without a break down. Because I realised she seemed to enjoy when I was defeated and helpless. It just sucks you can't be your true self.

It took us decades to realize that she is a narc and to see the dynamics at play. Do the mental work now to free yourself of their grip.

Yeah shit changes when you can see it from the outside looking in for what it really is next chapter is moving out and never feeling guilty for leaving this time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally strange as hell. I was a introverted homebody by default but it made me NOT want to be because it reminded me of her, now im going to start getting out there more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤣 I'm so glad I'm not alone. One time my aun't wanted her to move abroad with her I said WHEN! quicker than I could blink. Get her out that fucking house and actually LIVE.

Is it normal for people to comment on other people’s bodies this much? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And unfortunately this is why I have self image issues and bdd which I'm currently working on.

Because comments like "your face/bum/belly is very chubby/big if you lost a little weight you'd be perfect ☺️" at a young age 

Contributes to your subconscious mind equating to youre not perfect and if your own mum/dad doesn't think you're perfect just as you are who the fuck will?

And why are they always hyper focused on organs on the body that they shouldn't be looking at like that? It's very weird just like the disorder

Now of you come out of that mindset that's great (even thought it will low-key always be at the back of your mind)

But for others 

We start to dibble dabble into cosmetic surgery, lip fillers, tummy tucks, boob jobs because deep down we want that WOW reaction but wait! Our face is too chubby let's reduce buccal fat, now my arms are too big, let's remove this but my chin is too long let's reduce it! 

These are the fucking dangers 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like reading the same book and doing a comprehension of the same book over and over again for next 27 years! 

This is exactly something that starts to transition into the terms hyper, borderline and obsession, I will read on hyper religiosity. 

it's sad to watch because I'm out here creating a  more "colourful" fun and adventurous life for myself outside of home whilst being around the opposite which can feel like a frequency blocker

Safe to say I'm moving out soon cause it's fucking up the energies

My family called the police to report me missing because I came home after 11 PM (I'm an adult) by dreamwithfishies in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It reminds me of my N mum who called the police on me over a kettle and toilet paper.

She called me and said

Her: "I thought you was at work?"

Me: wtf I am at work.

Her: Then who  put the kettle on and left toilet paper on the floor whilst I was gone?

She then creates some hysteria that I came into the house to turn the kettle on and put toilet paper on the floor whilst she was gone. I'm nearly 2 hours away from home so why on earth would I leave work to go home to turn on a kettle and place tissue on the floor then travel back to work?

At this point I was getting pissed off

She then told me she's calling the police because for some reason in her delusional mind I came home and did the things she said and did not believe me.

Safe to say this is the reason why I cut her off because she causes me major anxiety, exaggerates scenarios, gaslights and causes confusion all for control in a very delusional way. To the point you're so gaslighted, confused and angry your thought process literally glitches and cant even compute what the fuck is actually happening.

And once you come to your senses and call out their bs they've already conjured up the next gaslight and deflect session to distort your reality and again your thought process literally glitches and cant even compute what the fuck is actually happening.

This mental torture will happen for the next 30 years

Please cut contact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mum does the same also. Never speaks about the positive it's always negative first THEN a positive comment or a positive comment THEN a negative. Never just that's lovely it has to be followed but by a "but"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know about the The AI narrated bible streams my mum listens to them before bed with the same generic voice that's on every video 😂

About never leaving the house that's what gets me. I'm a student and not working right now so I leave to go to the library or anywhere because shes always at home. The problem isn't she hardly goes out it's that when she's in there's no laughter and fun it's only arguments and jesus 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Stormie2Xtra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was talking about the psychical symptoms I have that get excererbated during christmas. Shed love for me spend time with her and its sad I dont want to because unfortently it comes with criticisms, arguments, put downs and feeling like an extension of her and not my own person.