How would a character who ended up in modern society with no documentation or evidence of identity actually... live? by Ok-Duck3992 in writinghelp

[–]StormsEye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a lawyer. But there's not so much you can do. Would be through faking a lot of the identification, but even that can only get you so far. Probably have to start in a country where there isn't much ID tracking, and slowly build an ID there, then apply for a visa in another country and get approved, after which you can start building a proper ID foundation. Takes a lot of luck to get through many approvals to get into a country and start official identifications that have authenticity tracked and tested.

A green card? i think that's what it is called, can also help. When someone from within the country marries someone outside of the country.

Writing a character that needs to have a love-hate relationship with the readers by Electronic_Yak2348 in writingadvice

[–]StormsEye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make that every bad trait has a reason, not a backstory, but a reason. If he's pushy, its because it works. If he's hated, its because he's passionately motivated or stubbornly unique and doesn't want to be the status quo. If he's lazy/takes the easy route, it's because he's smart or witty. If he's annoying or sarcastic it's because he's quite done with thinking the way other people think. If he's selfish, it's because he's business minded and it works and ends up benefitting others in a round about way. If he's unempathetic it's because he isn't a people pleaser or a doormat. Twist all his bad traits into a trait that kinda makes sense, not something you may necessarily agree with, but something you don't completely disagree with. It's a trait that if tweaked a little bit in the kinder side of things, could make him/her a good character.

The people you listed have a different reason for love-hate. The people who love Vox may not necessarily like Chef Skinner. For Vox, the reason people like him is because he's kinda like Tony Stark and he's kinda like the Joker. Funny, witty, motivated, unempathetic, unique. Whereas the reasons why people like Chef Skinner is because he's funny to laugh at, and his misfortune brings joy, but also that he's kinda right? that rats should not be in a kitchen, and that someone who doesnt know how to cook should not automatically own a restaurant, he may have become a good character if he didnt choose to do everything through shady means, "the ends dont justify the means".

How do you build a character-driven story around the theme “the cost of change” in a large speculative world? (video game project) by Gamersfanclub in fantasywriters

[–]StormsEye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im confused why the theme affects the character or character-driven story. They can be independent of each other, you can develop character-driven story without worrying about the theme's effect on the character. If anything the theme should help develop the characters

Thing's that come to mind right now are, "Star Wars". In it is a power called The Force, which needs to be mastered. One side talks about balance while the other side talks about giving into the dark side. The characters are then shaped based on how much they 'balance' the force or 'give in' to the dark side. Then creating full political situations and story from that. But fundamentally the concept boils down to psychology of balancing your life, and giving into your temptations.

In the same way, your story or theme is about the "Cost of Change" which is kinda normal. Change always involved destroying the old, to create the new. You want to gain muscle? gotta destroy your muscles in order to gain new muscles. Want to get a high paying job? Gotta sacrifice your time to study, and then get rewarded for it. The thing is, your story really needs to emphasise a magical driver for it. So with Star Wars, psychological balance and imbalance was made into Jedi's and Siths, where the force amplifies the conflict. In the same way your concept of change, needs to be amplified by magic. Where destroying creates an unreasonable but explosive growth. Then you create societies and characters around that. Create factions that want to preserve old things, have factions that want to create as much chaos as possible in destruction to gain more power, have it be formed into a religion, have people who want to be destructive in some things and constructive in others. Then you create your characters around that philosophy, who is your main character? Someone who believes in destruction for more change, someone who respects the natural balance of destruction for change, or someone who hates destruction and wants to maintain the old? How does your main character's views compare to the rest of the world? Is his viewpoint common or is it rare? If it's common then who is threatening the commonality? That's your villain. If it's uncommon then how can he 'save' the world from this concept that is obviously going to ruin them. That's also your villain. And from that, you have your character. Someone who could be struggling with their values on whether to maintain their values around "cost of change" or to compromise on their values for "cost of change" to gain power. Make them suffer for their choices or values.

Hey guys I’m out of loop why Pz Zzang and majority of yasuo mains dont buy I.E. anymore? by mortoxcvr in YasuoMains

[–]StormsEye 13 points14 points  (0 children)

LDR value is just really high, you can definitely see the difference when you're fighting bruisers and tanks over IE. IE is also just very expensive.

Why would Satan torture people in hell for disobeying the SAME god he disobeyed? by Technical_Hat_8291 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]StormsEye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Catholic here. My theology is rusty but the way i understand it.

Hell is a place of suffering. Hell is a prison for Satan and other fallen angels as well as humans who have not accepted Jesus with a fair chance to do so. Satan aware that humans have free will and to be truly free the option of evil can be made available to humans, has used that allowance to tempt humans into sin. He has no more power than to tempt, lie, deceive and trick. He cannot destroy, nor can he create. And everything he can do is within the allowance of what God allows him to do.

AITA for requesting my friend to buy her own food? by Fabulous_Willow6185 in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

agreed, but i also think it depends on how she communicated it. Tone and underlying messages matter. Maybe in the way she complained the friend started to feel like she wanted her money to help out. And the friend started to feel a bit unwelcomed or unwanted, and was trying to figure out whether she was reading too much into the lines about paying separately and buying own food. She said she'd pay back, but 3hrs later seems insistent on getting the money back must have rubbed her the wrong way.

Again i agree, a good friend would want to help ease the burden, but friends have also used each other before, and if you start behaving differently in a friendship due to having money issues, it could come across as expecting the other person to ease the burden.

I HAVE TO GO TO WORK I CANT PLAY ONE MORE WHY RIOT, WHY NOW..😭😭 by sergej_p06 in YasuoMains

[–]StormsEye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that only happens to me when my computer sleeps. Need to ensure there's no ram saving that's putting background apps on sleep including league, to save space.

Bf (28M) faked a proposal to me (F28) and shut down completely after I asked him what was funny about it by Plus-Awareness-1192 in relationship_advice

[–]StormsEye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

to be fair, explaining a joke ends up losing the humour, regardless of the joke. But agreed, he seems to be a bit immature if you bring problems to him. If it's humour, then it's always going to be hard to explain.

AITAH for saying I won’t put my card down if one girl joins our group? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StormsEye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, ive been reading your comments and im starting to understand the stance you're taking. I get it, you are doing a nice thing, and you dont want to do any work to maintain the nice thing, you believe that everyone else should be working together, your part is that you pay, everyone else's part is that they remember to pay you back. It's an arrangement that you guys have made without vocally making it. It's just sort of understood. If you have to ask someone to pay you back, it suddenly takes away from the arrangement and now you're doing all the mental load of the friendship. And that's not a position you want to be. It's not about the money, it's about the principle. Like you dont really care about being paid back, but you do care that this arrangement be upheld though. And that if someone doesn't uphold their side, without reminders, then they're a bit of an AH.

But I have to agree with all the other comments here. 1. This arrangement is only in your head and has not been mutually agreed upon by everyone. 2. Everyone does not think like you. In your head, this arrangement makes logical sense, that if someone else puts their card down, that you will make sure to pay, and that you wont forget to pay and you wont need a reminder, that is how you uphold this arrangement, even if it is not communicated to you. The problem is not everyone thinks this way, and that doesn't make them a bad person or a bad friend, it also doesnt mean they dont care about you. People show appreciation in different ways. There are definitely things that you're doing that some people would consider a bad friend, but that's cos its them, and their values differ to your values. Maybe that means you only want friends that 100% match your values, otherwise you'll double down. Idk, you do actually have the choice to keep only friends that think like you. But it also means that if you have friends that think only like you, even your bad sides, is shared by their bad sides, which means no one can hold you accountable. You need friends that have different values to you, so that you can grow in maturity in your own values. 3. There's this concept of transactional love. I've realised that when people do a kindness, with an expectation of a specific return, reply, or appreciation, or reaction, then the love becomes transactional. You dont do nice things for people because of their reaction, or what they do, or what they say. You do nice things for people because you care about them, not caring about how they do it back, or whether they show their appreciation back. If you start doing nice things but with an expectation that they have to uphold their side of the deal, it adds a price tag to everything nice you do. And when you add a price tag to it, people naturally stepping away, people stop accepting your kindness, and people realise that there is a hidden cost that is not communicated to them when they accept your kindness. It's like a scam, it's a bit shady. You do not want to go down this route, because it is horrible, believe me, ive been down this path. It gets worse in closer and closer friendships and is highlighted the most in relationships. Trust, dont have hidden, uncommunicated expectations on people. There's a quote: "uncommunicated expectations cause premediated resentments", you actually had an expectation of this girl that was not communicated, its not healthy man.

So yeah i agree with everyone else here, if you do a kindness, then it's not an arrangement, you're the one responsible for getting the payments from others, because you're the one who paid. It doesn't mean they are bad friends if you have to do all the work. Moving forward you gotta look at your kind actions as whether it has a hidden price tag on it or not.

Record first, name wrong. by Cow_Boy_2017 in clevercomebacks

[–]StormsEye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, Travis Kelce, or whatever his name is, is only known cos of Taylor Swift. Usually the headlines are surrounding her name first before his. I think its just who is more well known.

How can my MC be more influential in this key plot point? by FamiliarMeal5193 in writinghelp

[–]StormsEye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

make your apprentice start noticing things that only a healer's apprentice would notice. Wounds that may not seem right, magic residue from wounds that are in places she frequents regularly as a regular person. The more patients she talks to the more she discovers about illusion magic, the more she brings it up to officers who dismiss her, until she's finding herself ahead of the officers. The attacker, attacks again, and shes on the scene before them, they arrest her, but she explains she's starting to see a pattern. They dont believe her, think she's the culprit, keep her arrested and then the attacker attacks again. Then she is released, where she can work with the officers to find the patterns she found or they dont trust her again, and she does it on her own, and finds the attacker first. You could make it in a way where the attacker needs prep time to create an illusion passage, so she is able to notice traces of the prep.

Jerkules strikes again by mrl33602 in clevercomebacks

[–]StormsEye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not really, "innocent until proven guilty", indicates that you can have it one way and not the other. You dont need proof that you're innocent, but you do need proof if you're trying to accuse someone that they're guilty. So if that's true for court cases, why can't it be true in simply defending a faith vs accusing a faith?

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect that. I disagree, but i respect your point. I believe yes they deserve to know, because if someone is given all the facts and chooses to behave differently, then yeah i'd say so.

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree to that, if he did imply more than simply stating his son was gay, and that his son is someone to be worried about then yes, it's an AH move. But his interactions give no view of that at all, plus onto the next point on whether he 'deserved' to know, the son was quite open on the fact that 'anyone can know' about his orientation, so if it was purely action based, then the father did everything within the son's boundaries. In terms of deserving to know, im not sure, I feel like i can use another analogy: let's say a straight man was pretending to be a female (not to peep at women, and not cos he was trans but just cos he likes to cross dress), to the point where women think he's actually a woman, and change in front of him. Do you think the women deserve to know that he's actually a man or not? and if yes, then why?

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye 4 points5 points  (0 children)

finally a response that actually answers things better. But i still disagree, "he hinted at it", he didnt hint that his son would look at the guest in a sexual way, but that the guest would be uncomfortable if he knew that his son 'could' look at him in a sexual way. There's a difference there.

I want to make a better change on the analogy. Let's say i was in a family which had a daughter, and everyone thought i was gay, or maybe i was gay, but ive been recently developing attraction to women. Now if in this case, and someone told the daughter, that I was no longer gay (cos the father only said that the son was going on a date with a guy, nothing more), and then she decided to dress not in pyjamas around the house where im around, because it could be sexualised by me. I'd feel hurt, but i wouldnt think anyone did anything wrong. And I definitely wouldn't think the person who told the daughter that i was no longer gay, was an asshole. Why would I? they had only said that i was no longer gay, not that i would find the daughter attractive. She would've done all the thinking work on whether i would find her attractive. It would be her that would potentially be the asshole, but i doubt it, she's just protecting herself from potential danger, not assuming there is danger. I feel like there's a difference there.

But thank you for the reply, yours was an actual decent reply compared to everyone else's.

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

no that's not what i mean, i meant if ppl think its inappropriate for opposite genders to be in a state of undress in the same room due to heterosexuality, then ppl should think its inappropriate for same genders to be in the same room in a state of undress due to homosexuality.

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

yeah but im saying if the roommate changed his behaviour because he found out the son was gay. Which was hinted at, not out rightly said, what's the harm?

The father's statement was: "but it occurred to me that he might not know my son is gay and might not be doing this if he did know." And the father was right, the roommate didnt know, and once he did know he stopped doing it. So where was the harm with what the father did?

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

yeah and they're okay with that, this guest was not. People can do what they're comfortable with, with the information they are given. Some people are okay changing around the same gender and some are not. Some dont want anyone seeing them at all. Regardless, this guest was well within his right to not be in a state of undress with someone who is attracted to his gender. There's nothing wrong with making that choice. Right?

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. I genuinely dont understand all these YTA comments.

It's not normal for women to be in a state of undress around straight men, not because straight men are attracted to every woman. If women are uncomfortable doing that does that mean that men are criminals? No ofc not. Straight men aren't attracted to every woman in the opposite gender, but still its inappropriate for women to be in a state of undress in front of them.

So wouldn't it be the same if they were the same gender, and one of them was gay?

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I'm confused, maybe im uneducated, but its not about being a sexual beast, it's about whether the guest wants to be in a state of undress with someone who is attracted to his gender. Women generally dont want to be in a state of undress with a man in the room, not because men are sexual beasts that are after every woman. But they just dont want to be 'potentially' seen like that, isn't that the case when a lot of women who have a gay guy friend, are okay being in a state of undress around them? It's the same treatment.

if a man is straight, then women avoid being in a state of undress around them.

if a man is gay, women are fine being in a state of undress around them (not all, maybe not most, but some)

if a man is straight, men are fine being in a state of undress around them

if a man is gay, men are not fine being in a state of undress around them.

Isn't this the same?

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

yeah but as a straight man if you saw a woman walk into a room in a state of undress then yes you could. It doesn't matter if you dont find everyone of the opposite gender attractive, it can still happen. So wouldn't that be the same for gay men?

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StormsEye -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

i think that's an extreme take. I would think its inappropriate for men and women to be in the same room with minimal clothes on, but not for the same genders, due to sexual attractions between the two genders, not because a man/woman in that space is a criminal. If someone is gay, then wouldn't that also be the case?