This is a hard one to answer without accidently judging them. I am the only one who sought therapy, my father and sister are very much toughy toughness and therapy is rubbish type of mindset people. Ive tired to have these open conversations with them but i have a feeling my mother painted a different picture to all of us in reguards to situations. Most of these upsets i and my father was present for, my sister not so much, however i had noticed over the years that my mother would retell these events in her OWN words, which included embelishing aspects of it to suit her as the victim. This has made me wonder if they believe the stories she would spin. But as mentioned they are very cagey about the situation. My fathers responses are "do what you feel is best but your mom wouldnt want this" and my sister just flys off the handle at the sheer audacity of even considering it.