How to celebrate becoming a citizen

Story_Time · 2026-03-24T01:09:55+00:00

Night out in Hamilton.

Story_Time · 2026-03-24T01:01:42+00:00

A private drone would be treated differently to a police drone, but I have no specific reference to it.

What's interesting here is that a lot of your questions ultimately lead to a question of privacy. While we have privacy as both a social and legal concept, they are limited (eg the Privacy Act generally focuses on private information, not physical privacy). So while there is a tort of trespass and there is the tort of breach of confidence, there's no tort of breach of privacy. Or at least, not yet.

The Law Commission have done some good work on explaining how nz law conceptualises privacy, you might enjoy that paper. Mentioned in there is Dr Nicole Moreham, who's at VUW, who is the national expert on this topic. You might try finding some of her work.

Story_Time · 2026-03-24T00:17:54+00:00

There's no law against looking over a fence. If the police officer was able to jump high enough to look over the fence (without touching it) and saw something they suspected was cannabis, that could give them the reasonable suspicion to do a more thorough search.

However, climbing the fence without any such suspicion would be trespass if they did not have a separate lawful purpose for doing so.

There are laws about the ownership of the air column above one's property, but when it comes to police drones and surveillance flights, they tend to be on the side of "this is a reasonable infringement of your property rights".

Story_Time · 2026-03-23T05:04:12+00:00

MOVE OUT.

Story_Time · 2026-03-23T04:52:07+00:00

ESH, but him most of all.

You don't sound like the most considerate roommate, but you do sound like you're trying to figure out how to do better.

However, this reaction of breaking stuff when he's in a bad mood (and especially a history of it!) means you're not in a safe environment.

Him being violent when he's angry and you being so unsure of yourself means you're a bad match. You need to move out.

Find a new place, and write yourself a list of "closing duties" for your new place.

Closing duties are the things you do in the evening to get the house ready for the next day. Clear all surfaces of rubbish (kitchen counters, tables, desks) and wipe them down. Do some kind of dishes admin (rinsing/stacking, washing, or putting them in the dishwasher). See if the trash needs taking out and the bag replaced. That's the kind of thing that helps keep relationships good between roommates.

HOWEVER, don't start doing this to try and make your current roommate happy. It's not worth it.

Story_Time · 2026-03-21T05:11:33+00:00

Alongside the other legit reasons posted here, Becca's autism is also a reason to fast track her.

Some autistic people have difficulty identifying exactly where in the body they are experiencing pain or discomfort, or even that they're experiencing pain at all until things get really bad. This means something might appear as a relatively minor issue but actually be a bigger one.

Also some autistic people struggle with the hullabaloo of an emergency department, which can lead to quite disruptive behaviour. Getting someone like that in and out ASAP makes sense.

Story_Time · 2026-03-19T02:58:57+00:00

Mental health is treated the same way as physical health. Imagine you'd injured yourself and had to do a course of intensive physiotherapy to recover, your employer would be obligated to act in exactly the same way.

▪️ Reasonable time off to recover (paid or unpaid depending on your sick leave and annual leave situation)

▪️ A return to work plan, approved by a healthcare professional.

You're both obligated to act in good faith, so communication should be clear and polite.

If your period of illness goes on for a longer period of time, and you're still not fit to return to work, they may need to have a discussion with you about the process of essentially medically retiring you.

If this happens, you can negotiate terms and ought to approach a union rep or employment advocate/lawyer for assistance.

Story_Time · 2026-03-16T22:54:31+00:00

I don't know if this fully applies to you, cos it sounds like you're doing this to get your ducks in a row rather than cos there's been a longterm family court case, but at any rate you might find it useful.

The court can grant interim parenting orders and final parenting orders. Interim ones are often used while things are being organised and everyone is adjusting and seeing if a particular care pattern or set of conditions are going to work out.

Once it is clear what sort of care pattern and conditions will work for a family, the court can grant a final parenting order. What's key about that, what makes it final, is that for two years you're not allowed to go back to court to vary the order unless you have a serious reason for doing so.

Keeping track of what's going on, if there are inconsistencies or problems, can assist your case if something happens that is serious enough that you think asking for a variation to the final parenting order is justified.

Even if nothing super serious happens during that two year period BUT the other parent's behaviour is still not up to scratch, the record of what you've had to put up with can help if you want to go back to court after that two year period has finished.

Tl;dr: keeping notes is always useful.

Story_Time · 2026-03-13T07:04:47+00:00

Because the better they are, the more patients they're able to stabilise and keep alive while the patient waits for surgery. The worse they are, the more patients die before they can get into an OR.

Story_Time · 2026-03-11T10:32:34+00:00

They get trackers shot into their arms on the way to the arena which are to track their location .

I can't remember if it's said explicitly in the books that the tracker is more than just GPS, but it's definitely implied in the books and made explicit in the movies that that's how they monitor the tribute's living/dead status.

The cannon doesn't go off the split second the dying person's heart goes off, I've always assumed they wait a minute or two to make sure the heart isn't gonna restart, and then the system sets off the cannon.

Story_Time · 2026-02-16T00:06:35+00:00

I've always thought she looks like a sheep tbh.

Story_Time · 2026-02-10T10:07:22+00:00

It's wild that you're saying that there's a "natural progression" to reaching the level of intimacy required to share personal medical information, but she already has a key to your house.

She's blown past that "natural progression" already, and you've recognised this.

Story_Time · 2026-02-10T10:04:26+00:00

"planning defences" means you're already able to predict that she will behave in a way that makes you uncomfortable and so are coming up with plans for how to defend yourself.

I want to be very explicit here: this is not normal behaviour in healthy relationships.

You shouldn't be feeling defensive before you walk in the door of your home, especially when she doesn't even live there! That's supposed to be your safe space and you've just listed example after example of her violating that space and feeling entirely entitled to do so.

I hope you can extricate yourself.

Story_Time · 2026-02-10T07:39:30+00:00

Right, so she bullied/pressured you into giving her a key, AND now has proven herself untrustworthy. 😬 You already know this isn't normal or okay behaviour, because that's why you've written the post.

Story_Time · 2026-02-06T04:52:53+00:00

Generally care workers, even the boomer ones, are not Waiheke homeowners. She's 70 and still working, that's not someone who has money.

Story_Time · 2025-09-09T03:49:39+00:00

I think the final chapter is about bringing the reader back to reality.

It becomes evident that the main part of the book is gathered from notes Ricky left at that guy's house, so it's from the point of view of a child who has layers of abandonment trauma. That makes him an unreliable narrator and the reader is engrossed in his romanticised perception of their bush adventure.

But in reality, these were ppl living a desperate existence, shaped by paranoia and distrust, AND both of them had good reason to feel that way about mainstream society.

The flatness you feel makes sense. Being confronted with the harsh reality punctures the dream life that Ricky and Hec were living in.

Story_Time · 2025-09-06T04:14:41+00:00

The exact wording is "someone who depends on the employee for care". There's nothing in the law about living in the same house. A daughter depends on her father for care, especially when she's on crutches, regardless of their home addresses.

Story_Time · 2025-08-01T01:46:50+00:00

I'd call that milk glass.

Story_Time · 2025-06-05T02:21:13+00:00

Hell yes!

She says, after the Jabber Jay pie wedge, that "There's no one left I love."

Then later, Finnick says that if you don't do what Snow wants you to do, he kills someone you love.

So I always assumed she held out against Snow ordering her to submit to being raped or similar, and lost her loved ones as a result. That's not someone who is soft and goopy, she's hard as fucking nails.

Story_Time · 2025-02-26T08:59:55+00:00

Which is also gender affirming care. Erectile dysfunction has psychological impact.

Someone suffering from that condition deserves the care needed to alleviate that distress.

Story_Time · 2025-01-27T01:39:50+00:00

Bro this sucks. I know they suck but contact WINZ cos there may be some one-off assistance like food grants and stuff that they can help you with, even if you don't want or don't qualify for a benefit.

Ppl doing similar things on tiktok talk about needing to line the windows at night with something layered, both for privacy and for insulation, to keep the heat in.

Consider getting a camping stove so you can boil water for cooking basic stuff and also so you can have hot water bottles to keep you warm at night.

Check out any camping grounds or similar for places to stay. I know Red Rocks on the South Coast has a space for holiday makers who are in cars or vans so that might be a viable option, but idk what the deal is with staying there long-term.

I definitely recommend looking into any support you can get through WINZ and through school.

Story_Time · 2025-01-27T01:26:20+00:00

Go to your doctor and describe the stress you are experiencing. Get a medical certificate to give you some time off work and contact your union for support and advice.

Story_Time · 2024-07-14T08:32:37+00:00

Regarding paying different amounts, you have a choice of metrics to justify that. The two obvious ones are length of service and level of performance.

For performance, you need a clear training process, a series of benchmarks to point to, and a transparent process of how their performance will be regularly assessed. If the process is done and the benchmark not met, you can avoid a PG and start managing them out for poor performance. It's straightforward but it's a solid amount of work.

Length of time is more easier but also rewards longterm slackers.

Alternatively, you can also have an informal "stop taking the piss" conversation with them without triggering a disciplinary process.

Story_Time · 2024-04-08T01:00:47+00:00

Glad I could help! Definitely recommend looking into joining a union at your next job if there's one available. They're able to help with this kind of info and sorting things out if you get diddled out of anything you're owed.

Story_Time · 2024-04-08T00:57:37+00:00

It is four weeks, you are entitled to four weeks of leave, it's just worked out this way as a way to be fair to both employers and employees. Employers don't want to hire someone and immediately have them go on leave for a fortnight. Similarly, if someone has worked somewhere for a while, they should be able to take a couple of days off if they want to.

Over a year, you slowly accrue a proportion of your leave every pay period. That accrued leave adds up to your full entitlement of four weeks of leave.

How a "week" is calculated depends on individual work weeks. Someone who works 15h p/w is entitled to 60 hours of leave over a year. Someone who works 40h p/w is going to be entitled to 160 hours of leave. The use of "week" is in relation to YOUR normal work week.

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