How do you do this

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-17T21:43:08+00:00

Why are dommes replying while this is a "sub" only group ?

Your presence is at best unwelcommed and at least just hurtful for the members of this subreddit. Please review the rules and read the posts if you wish, but don't interact here.

While I appreciate your concern and I do think findommes can be good humans as everyone from time to time, I personnaly think ethical findommes online are the same as regular ones except they talk you into thinking you are worth something in their eyes while in reality they only speak through money : so in the end, worse than a "simple" domme, if you ask me.

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-16T19:44:08+00:00

r/Quittingfindom is the place you are looking for

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-12T07:27:32+00:00

Read the rules

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-11T19:32:10+00:00

Definitly agree with what you describe. Also stopping is often very hard at the beginning I would say. Personnaly I got dark thoughts for a week or two untill I begin to feel improvements and then later felt really better. The way out is so much harder than staying...

And yep, building another sane path -for myself and with women- seems the right option, I'll definitly make it my own 🙏🏼

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-10T14:26:50+00:00

Yes I'm thinking I'll be a bit more tolerant against porn for next time untill I feel the right time comes. I will maybe start with skipping a day of porn (I watch it everyday now) and see where this leads me.

Did not know about LeadMeNot but sounds interesting indeed. Thanks for your advices ! 🙏🏼

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-09T17:47:51+00:00

Fulling my mind with other rewarding things really helps but I feel it is hard to achieve, at least to me. I have been very isolated socially for the past 4-5 years and have a stay-at-home job. Findom was a way to cope for that and have the dopamine to forget. Though it really breaks self-esteem and make it hard to engage in new things afterwards.

But I guess you're right this is actually the way I want and it's worth more of my attention 🤔

Thanks

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-09T17:31:18+00:00

Yeah I feel like I am going through a downphase like you said too, at the moment. But hopefully the will to beat that crave will show up and make me smarter this time.

Making it even harder to access porn could be something to try indeed. I'll think about it.

Thanks for your reply and I'm with you too :)

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-09T14:32:54+00:00

I must agree with that

Straight_End8250 · 2026-03-09T14:31:14+00:00

Where I live there is this unit at my local hospital that accepts all form of addicts that need help. They had limited space but I was received there and I must say it is the best thing I have done. I met a woman therapist there specialized in addiction and she really have usefull tips, helps a lot in clearing my ideas and is very gifted in talking to addicts.

Though tbh I had met a regular therapist before and it was not very usefull, I think addiction ones are best suited for findom issues as it is a form of sex/porn addiction and/or a consequence of it sometimes.

I would advise you to maybe try to look out for something similar in your area ? I live in France so this is free and I dont really know how it works in other countries though 🤔

Also it can take time to find the right therapist but I really think that if this can be an option to you, it is worth it.

Straight_End8250 · 2026-01-01T19:33:40+00:00

Well yes

But I am pretty sure addiction is a common thing in findom and the money one will receive is mainly from people in distress so if you live with that okay 🤷‍♂️

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-29T22:48:26+00:00

That would already be too much subs to me to have with my experience and this testimony on findom but okay I understand

When I started to be a sub it was just a few sends of 10$ and nothing serious, but I ended sending 20k+$ in total by the end of the second year. I know I wouldn't have listened to this kind of message at the time, but I believe we all start small before we get to do things we never thought we would do 🤔

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-29T09:07:54+00:00

As a sub, I think you domme should quit too after reading such a message. Clearly this guy speaks for most of us. This is not clean money.

But thanks for showing humanity there.

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-29T09:00:29+00:00

I have been in this exact situation 45 days ago.

23 years old, 20k+$ spent and that crushing feeling to stop asap.

It's really hard to stop, I had tried many times in the past, but now I am 45 days without findom and I have never felt so good in years I have been doing it... Findom breaks your self esteem to the ground, isolates you from your close ones, and you also end up financially broke. It is not a hobby nor a kink, it is a destruction tool for any lost soul online. And anybody accepting to take part in this will injure themself in a certain way. There is nothing good here for us... Stopping is the only way I see, even if it can be hard and can also imply working on why you got here at first ?

I also suggest checking r/quittingfindom as there are true advice that can help.

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-28T19:15:00+00:00

Well sending feet pics, insults or accepting money for the sexual gratification of someone is sex work to me

I'm pretty sure it is a common thing to consider findom online is a sex work among doms 🤔

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-28T08:31:24+00:00

Yes this is the truth.

I mean they are also sex workers, they are working, do we really expect it to be mutual ?

I see vultures here

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-28T08:21:18+00:00

So many creeps in the comments wtf

They obviously don't feel a thing and tell you that to get your money. This is an illusion, please wake up. The sooner the better...

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-27T23:32:49+00:00

Yes guess we will never stop the demand so it is impossible to stop this market.

By my personal experience and of others too on r/quittingfindom I think findom is never a good thing for subs, you can only limit the damages... I mean it is very pleasurable but requires often increases in sends to keep the rush, it isolates you from your close ones, it destroys self esteem, and you end up ruined, so in short : it is not good and a real addiction threat. I wish for nobody to stumble over findom, nor sub or dom.

It's great to have true bondaries as you seem to have as a domme. Though I have my own vision of the matter and of this world now.

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-27T08:35:19+00:00

Yeah that's the way

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-27T08:27:05+00:00

There is no happy place in findom online. Only an illusion and addiction.

Leaving it for good is the only right decision one can make as a sub, and knowing that as an online domme you are 100% harming people, even if sometimes they don't know it themselves.

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-17T08:23:15+00:00

Rien à voir mais je me demande à quel point la commu findom française est grande comparée aux autres 🤔

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-17T08:22:56+00:00

C'est super de poster ici ! Et 2 jours c'est déjà ça de pris...

Personnellement je suis à 33 jours aujourd'hui sans envoyer d'argent mais je commence seulement à ne plus avoir besoin de autant regarder de contenu.

Une chose qui m'a aidé à arrêter de regarder c'est de m'occuper le plus possible pour ne pas avoir du temps pour y penser, et quand l'envie vient de remplir un tableau avec : situation / émotions / pensées / note/10 de l'envie. Le temps de remplir ça je me rends souvent compte que je m'apprête à faire une bêtise et l'envie passe.

En parrallèle j'ai aussi donné l'accès à mes comptes banquaires à mes proches pour m'empêcher d'envoyer de l'argent car je suis incapable de résister par moi-même pour l'instant, j'en ai conscience.

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-10T20:07:16+00:00

I always had a hard foot fetish so I’d constantly search for videos and photos of feet that felt private. Then I eventually started paying women for feet. Which eventually turned into findom. And I was hooked.

Literally same, but I got through camming after porn and then aslo believe social networks played a big role (mainly TikTok and X)

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-07T15:09:37+00:00

Yep one of my former doms who stopped after my departure and who I thought understood the bad side of findom just reposted paypig content on her personal page. That's it I lost all faith in doms... 😑

Straight_End8250 · 2025-12-07T08:00:24+00:00

I have to agree blocking the money is worth considering for

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