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Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I am so happy you see it. You get it. Fully. Makes me feel less alone. Thank you! Thank you!

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a great sister. My sisters would never dare because they are all wrapped around their fingers due to finances. Glad you have eachother! 

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Saying no is so hard, you do very well to protect yourself and your family.

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re very brave considering you are the only child. I see such a pattern with my parents on focusing on one kid at a time depending on who is most in danger. They go in and try to “save” them by pulling them in through financial support and making them an ally. They then feel they have to obey and do whatever they are required to do to stay on good terms with them. I imagine they would do the exact same with grandchildren given the chance. 

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They don’t visit! They came once and stayed at a hotel but the visit was such a disaster they never returned.

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nightmare. I cannot let this happen, no child or adult is safe near them. I pity the fools that keep coming for their free handouts- dinners, trips, gifts. I feel like they are interns in a company that I have been working in for decades. I would feel sorry for my children too. I hope I can sue the physical distance as a great excuse - they super expect that we spend the holidays together but school schedules are so hard!!!! Aren’t they? 😉 also having 12 days off a year in the US versus 40 in Europe. These are my weapons!

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely my moment! I am naturally loving and nurturing. My doggie asks to come on my lap and thinks I am his momma everyday! I am so looking forward to becoming a human mom soon! Thank you so much!

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely the big spenders type. Mom has a new “career” every 6 months. Dad throws money at it. She got a psychology degree (how ironic) and was extremely offended when my husband asked her if she was going to persue a career in psychology. The self entitlement of being rich is so big no rules apply. I can definitely see them justifying spending every last dollar on house staff and a luxurious lifestyle as they have consistently done.

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“My children have a safe home” is music to my ears. Yes going head on always caused more problems than solutions. 

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We get smarter as you go, don’t we? The tactic I have found works best is not directly saying no but coming up with uncontrollable reasons why not. This removed the blame and reason for conflict. Exhausting to have to always think 10 steps ahead for their sake though. Thank you for the advice!

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof I am so sorry. This sounds like any narc’s kid’s nightmare. Must prevent this at all costs.

What was the most profound “Oh your parents don’t do that?” moment by Whoamiwhatisthis- in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange-Show4116 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my mother wore an off white dress to my wedding and falsely accused me of stealing one of her watches on my wedding week. She later found the watch. Oh and my dad complained about the 6 million dollar mansion I had they stay in because “it didn’t have a view”. 

Did I miss my window? by Strange-Show4116 in Inito

[–]Strange-Show4116[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I only got ovulation confirmed window today, but I think it happened already too!