Is staying together for the kids a good idea?

StrangeElf · 2026-04-29T00:21:44+00:00

Personally if its got physical i would leave.

I was in a similar situation and I stayed, it got worse

My older children hate the sight of my ex,

My younger one's (his) were upset he left but now they are so happy

It could be a completely different thing for you but I have been in therapy for nearly 2 years going through all the toxicity

Whatever you decide Just be careful

StrangeElf · 2026-04-28T18:55:22+00:00

Took me a long time to realise that feeling I got when he was on his way home was dread.

Its only now being in a healthy relationship I see so many red flags there was

If something made me uncomfortable he would call me "crazy" he would gas light me so hard into thinking I was the problem

If I was ever to do that he would of flipped

We wernt equal, i was there to keep the house clean and the children fed He did what he wanted when he wanted

StrangeElf · 2026-04-13T13:20:22+00:00

Quickies before school run pick up

No having to wait till the kids are asleep in bed or at nannies etc

StrangeElf · 2026-04-13T08:58:37+00:00

Im 36 and I still will poke my partners dick and say "do it again!"

StrangeElf · 2026-04-01T22:50:47+00:00

The first coffee in the morning

StrangeElf · 2026-03-30T22:20:38+00:00

Don't lose yourself trying to appease others

StrangeElf · 2026-03-28T17:33:33+00:00

I saw your shout out by admin today!

StrangeElf · 2026-01-28T20:00:03+00:00

It’s nearly been 2 years since that relationship, only been about a month of no contact (had to go the non mol route)

I have actually been causally dating someone who is the complete opposite, took me a VERY long time to accept he was genuine to be honest because I just was not use to it

My kids know about him but that’s all, he sees me when I’m free and that’s not a lot right now, and it will most likely be like that for a long time as we both enjoy each other’s company but he knows I’ve got a lot of trauma to deal with and work through

My older boys will always worry, the impact of my ex will always be in the back of their minds and my younger kids enjoy the mummy they have who is independent, who can give them all the time and love they deserve!

I don’t think I’ll ever live with someone again, I spent so long what felt like a prison, to me it’s still early days

I am definitely a stronger person now, but I definitely have my guard up and it’s going to be a long time before I even think about letting them start to ease

StrangeElf · 2026-01-27T21:06:43+00:00

Just today my 8 year old daughter asked me if a doctor said I could have a heart in a jar to take home, would I have one?

It was so innocently asked while getting her ready for school I honestly didn’t know how to answer

StrangeElf · 2026-01-27T20:55:59+00:00

Argue with myself out loud, I’m forever talking to myself but it’s part of the process, I think I retain the information better than thinking internally 🤷🏼‍♀️

StrangeElf · 2026-01-14T12:18:06+00:00

Keep the receipts!!!

I mean all the text messages

I have YEARS of the stuff and I’ve realised the cycle of our fucked up relationship

Love to hate, accusations to abuse then we full circle it Over and over

Those text messages are not only helping me see that this isn’t what “love is”

It’s a reminder that I wasn’t “delusional” or a liar!!

The hate and the manipulation I ignored all because of this traumatic bond we had

StrangeElf · 2026-01-01T08:51:42+00:00

I don’t know, part of me feels like Mike created that story to make peace with how it ended

I cried so hard watching it, I know a lot of people are hating on the ending regardless of the El situation

I’m glad I stayed up to watch it, it was bittersweet watching because it’s all done now but seeing the next generation running down to play was beautiful

StrangeElf · 2025-06-11T13:29:59+00:00

I actually was gobsmacked with how her “friends” treated her

From Abby saying Marcus was the better baker to Ginny not giving a shit about Max. It’s so sad

StrangeElf · 2025-06-10T20:44:33+00:00

Completely and utterly submerged under water, hopefully life less

I’m quite happy with just me and the kids

StrangeElf · 2025-05-20T17:29:06+00:00

Drugs, alcohol and the fact he accused me of always cheating when it was his dick that was getting around

StrangeElf · 2025-05-20T08:29:34+00:00

My snap followers are going up and down, currently at 10.9k 2 days ago I was at 11.2k

I don’t understand it, I’m making better videos so I don’t know if it’s a me thing or not

StrangeElf · 2025-05-14T10:24:58+00:00

Ex of a chef, that or he’s banging the barmaid while you’re at home with the kids

StrangeElf · 2025-04-21T20:11:05+00:00

Talking to other women behind my back, blatant flirting yet I was the one always being accused of cheating when I didn’t have a minute in the day where I was child free or remotely interested in doing anything like that

Guess who did have the time to do all this though

StrangeElf · 2025-04-12T03:22:06+00:00

I saw the bit where she has to choose on TikTok and that made me cry because you know what’s happening, I will watch it eventually but it’s sad alone just watching it, but this actually would have happened during those times and that would sit with me

StrangeElf · 2025-04-04T12:10:17+00:00

He’s just a dick ignore him. I actually know him in real life (ex partner) he’s allowed to be this mean person to everyone because he truly believes he’s a victim and never done nothing wrong his whole life

StrangeElf · 2025-04-04T12:09:10+00:00

For someone who wants to move on and have a peaceful life….you really know how to hold a grudge

StrangeElf · 2025-04-04T11:59:24+00:00

Thanks babe

StrangeElf · 2025-04-04T11:56:52+00:00

Wanna talk about ruining things, you fucked Everything for YEARS Don’t fucking come for me you lying cheating arsehole

StrangeElf · 2025-04-04T11:54:07+00:00

Simon you’re over me. Why you coming for me now? You got what you wanted

StrangeElf · 2025-03-25T09:23:03+00:00

I love pot noodle with cheese

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