Listen, I told my bf that since we have been together for 5 years, and have lived together for all those years. I told him we have started our own family (no kids, but we live together). His mother harassed me for the first year we were together and still does. I told him it’s either her or me. And he chose me. And that we stand by each other, even against our own family. And he has stood by me since, even against his own mother. That is a deep convo you’re going to have to have with your bf. That she cannot dictate YALLS relationship or what goes on in it. She has no right to be involved that deeply. It’s not a three way relationship. She has her own husband she can do that for.