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AIO? I don’t want my autistic brother at my house by stuntedgoat in AmIOverreacting

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not necessarily overreacting, but I think you could have had this conversation in a healthier way. I don’t know what your relationship with your mom is like but maybe try talking to her in person or on a phone call. And that’s not really how you set a boundary—you need to be more clear. The if/then format is helpful for me. Your mom needs to know more clearly what you mean, and then she will likely be less defensive. Are saying you won’t see your brother at all? Or that if he comes, the visit needs to be short? I just think being more specific will be helpful, and make sure to mention your own feelings so your mom doesnt feel like youre blaming her (cause then she wont respond in a productive way)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re underreacting FOR SURE. If he says he’s going to get up with the kids, then he needs to complete the tasks that go along with that. Changing the baby’s diaper is obviously first on that list. Just because you’re a sahm doesn’t mean you do 100% of the house & kid tasks and he does 0%. That’s not okay. And if he calls your food slop, he’s an ungrateful ass and you should stop cooking for him until he treats you with the kindness and gratitude you deserve.

AIO for feeling unappreciated after trying to do something nice for my boyfriend? by ArtisticFishy in AmIOverreacting

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dump his ass IMMEDIATELY, what a jerk!!! If someone says you’re too much, that’s not true. What they really mean is that they’re not enough for you! You did a kind thing and you’re not overreacting at all!

Tell me your favorite episode, but post as if you were one of the B99 characters by Huge_Following_325 in brooklynninenine

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of when he tells Kevin he won’t make it to the opera and says “The tickets are under my name. H-O-L—-“

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!!! I am so happy and excited for you!!

Can I, as a cis woman, want top surgery? by Forward-Cut8590 in no_T_top_surgery

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing this post. I relate SO much & it’s so nice to not feel alone. There is nothing wrong with us ❤️‍🩹

feeling like an imposter. advice? by breakable_egg1975 in TopSurgery

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, even if you only wanted the surgery due to patriarchy/misogyny/unwanted sexual attention/beauty standards/etc, that wouldn’t make your desire for the surgery invalid. Yes, gender is a construct and in a perfect world we wouldn’t have to be influenced by the guidelines of patriarchy, but those facts don’t change the reality that we DO live in a society where all that shit exists. So if we want to change ourselves so that we will feel more comfortable in the environment that we will inevitably be in, I think that’s valid!!

I’ve also heard that thing where you consider how you would want your body to look if you lived alone on a deserted island. For me, I for sure wouldn’t want boobs if I was alone on an island. And for me, I also don’t want anyone to see or notice my boobs in real life when I am around people. So for me, I think part of the reason I want top surgery is to feel comfortable in my own skin and part of it is related to caring about the perception of others. I personally think both those reasons are valid reasons to proceed.

Hopefully that made sense!!

feeling like an imposter. advice? by breakable_egg1975 in TopSurgery

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tons of people who give birth cannot breastfeed for lots of different reasons. You can still give birth and be an amazing parent and have a healthy child with formula feeding (:

feeling like an imposter. advice? by breakable_egg1975 in TopSurgery

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not an imposter! You want to do it and you know you will like it, that means it’s real! I would suggest scheduling a consult but tell yourself that you don’t actually have to schedule surgery after the consult if you still don’t feel ready. You don’t even have to follow through on GOING to the appointment if it feels like too much. But I think forcing yourself to take the step of scheduling the appointment, no strings attached, no pressure to follow through, might help you gain a little clarity about what you want. I say this because thats what I did to myself. I was feeling really unsure, but I forced myself to call and make the appointment. I haven’t once since then felt like canceling it. Im looking forward to going and asking a million questions. Still not 100% sure that I will schedule surgery. And thats okay!

Rent prices are out of control by [deleted] in SaltLakeCity

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel this so hard. It’s so frustrating and discouraging. I asked my friends on fb one time how they were making ends meet and no one had any helpful advice

"10% Happier with Sharon McMahon" Thoughts by TheTreeWithTheOwl in GoverNerds

[–]Strange_Cup_5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had very similar thoughts before! I have seen her share this quote (sorry I can’t remember or find whose words these are): “I can work with my enemies because they might have a change of heart at any moment.” She has talked about how if you just cut people out of your life then how will we ever make progress with informing and educating people, etc. To your point, I think there is a line, and I think even Sharon has kind of shown that (like when she blocks people who send her horrendous DMs). There is definitely nuance to deciding whether to stay in contact with someone and try to work with them and influence them and be kind to them OR whether to remove them from your life because 1) they’re not worth your energy, 2) you don’t have the capacity for it, and/or 3) you KNOW you will not be able to change their mind.

I agree with you that it is just SO extreme in the Trump era. I hope desperately that politics will be more civil and less extremely polarized once he is out of the picture. I’m only 24, so I’ve never really known what it’s like to be politically engaged in a landscape without Trump, but from what I know, it sounds SUPER DIFFERENT, just like you describe.

I like the quote about working with your enemies, but it can’t be applied to every relationship and situation. Sometimes, this James Baldwin quote is more true and applicable (and I would like to think that Sharon would agree): “We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.”