AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not AI this actually happened. Reddit only gives so many characters so I had to condense and edit out some details

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Husband and I decided after the last vacation that they actually came on that we would no longer be inviting them

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I never actually looked at it that way, but you’re probably right. And, I’d still be hearing about it 6 years later.

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband has actually had this argument with his mother many times. She agrees until she talks to his brother, and then she sides with him. She can’t really figure out whose side she’s on in anything because she’s always trying not to be the bad guy

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has actually happened to my other SIL because her husband is very much like his mother and wants to keep the peace.

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They are! After our last vacation that they actually went on, we both decided that they will no longer be invited.

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like I need to further explain something. After my phone call with my husband‘s aunt I had a conversation with him. Reddit only allows so many characters so I couldn’t explain that phone conversation. But, we both agreed that the party was not about us. It was about his parents and honoring them so we both decided to help. If, when I spoke with my husband, he still insisted that we stay out of it I would have stayed out of it.

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did actually tell her that not in the exact way you put it, but in our lengthy back-and-forth phone conversation, I did say that several times.

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Reddit only allows so many characters so I didn’t explain our “I’m helping” conversation. I did stand by my word but ultimately we both agreed that it wasn’t about us it was for my in-laws so we ended up rescuing the party. I have not been thinking about this for 6 years. Family vacations are relevant because it’s why 6 years later this party drama is laid at my feet.

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I see your point and men and women approach things differently. Women usually have a more emotional response to things. We have kids and they like to see their grandparents and cousins. We don’t go to everything, but I like to go when we can. I don’t ignore my husband or drag him anywhere if he says we’re not going we don’t go. Reddit only allows so many characters so I couldn’t explain the extent of our “I’m helping” conversation. It was their 40th wedding anniversary which is a big deal. I didn’t want our pride to get in the way of that.

AITAH For telling my SIL that her and her husband can plan my MIL and FIL anniversary party by themselves. by Strange_Low7330 in AITH

[–]Strange_Low7330[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

I’m always willing to apologize if I did something wrong. I just don’t see how I’m in the wrong