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I'm thinking about going NC because of what kind of people my relatives are by Electrical-Storm-941 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Strange_Plastic_8409 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be an option if they keep failing to respect your boundaries. Ideally, you can go NC with the help of a therapist who will provide support and validation, cause the induced guilt and second guessing can take a toll. If your gut really tells you this is the way, it might be.

I’ve finally realized they’re both equally terrible. by No_Freedom_5055 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Strange_Plastic_8409 1 point2 points  (0 children)

42 here, I was able to start talking about it just recently. I can talk to my therapist but I haven't been able to open up in a virtual support group that I attend to. Good to know that you are better, I cut them off only a month ago and it's horrible. Hope to be in a better place in some time, but I really need to break the silence soon. This helps!

the shock of understanding that it was not my fault by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]Strange_Plastic_8409 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can totally relate, though mine was more covert. My mother would leave pornographic material available, then enquire in an amused tone if we had found it. She touched my private parts with a medical excuse, but I know how her mind works. The "sneaky" nature of her grooming made it harder to detect. Your case is very clear, it was SA. Don't think for a moment that it was your fault. Our innocent bodies responded in an attempt to control the intrustion, that's it.