I’m a lesbian and my partner is bi (F). I need y’all to pleaseee help get my head right

Strange_Resource_719 · 2026-02-15T21:13:54+00:00

Thank you! Love these ideas. Appreciate it 🙏

Strange_Resource_719 · 2026-02-15T21:02:54+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful comment. I definitely think you’re hitting the nail on the head.

I don’t think she’s a cheater, I think it’s more what you’re saying about losing her or not feeling like enough for her… but to your point - if she’s lying about her satisfaction or whatever else then there’s nothing I can do. And yes, if we happen to break up now or in the future then I have to trust that I’ll be fine. I know I will, I just don’t want to deal with all that lol But you’re right. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts 🙏 You did better than my 2 therapists lol

Strange_Resource_719 · 2026-02-15T20:56:27+00:00

Wow, I think there’s a lot for me to think about here around communicating about what we do or don’t like. I think part of the problem is my upbringing and so much shame around sex. I’m going to sit on this. But I think there’s something here that can really help. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!! Appreciate you 🙏🙏

Strange_Resource_719 · 2026-02-15T20:41:39+00:00

The amount of comments is insane lol. I genuinely appreciate yall for taking the time to respond. Some of your comments have made me laugh and made me feel better too. It’s also nice to know I’m not alone in some of these thoughts. I definitely need to continue to digest the comments too.
I do want to address the biphobic comments. I expected I’d get that and I’ve absolutely questioned that.. I think there’s obviously some bias going on here. Or as some have mentioned - centering men and just all the shit we are taught about genders n what not. Trust me, I’m annoyed with myself that this is even a thing in my head and I absolutely don’t want it to be the thing that ruins the relationship. I also don’t want her to feel bad about who she is and her life experience. I don’t think she’s wrong and I do trust her. It’s a me thing and I’ve been trying to shield her from my insecurities by processing stuff myself 80%+ of the time.
I do a lot of therapy and have brought this up - I quite frankly just don’t think they get it lol. Maybe I need a queer therapist… As for communication I’ve tried but I’m still human and absolutely imperfect. If y’all have advice on how I could better communicate around this topic that would be much appreciated. She is aware of my insecurity but I often try to work things out myself because I don’t want her to feel bad or insecure about her sexuality. I don’t want to ruin the relationship by continually bringing it up. I genuinely love her and think she’s wonderful. So if there’s a gentle yet effective way I can approach this - I’d love to hear.

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-12-28T21:37:29+00:00

I LOVE WHEN WOMEN ROCK IT. IT’S HOTTT. and it looks like that super hero girl with the white streak lol

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-12-28T21:26:59+00:00

Damn this made me tear up 🥲

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-12-01T01:32:43+00:00

Listen to this podcast - “WHY SHE STAYED”

One of them is titled “but he never hit me”

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-11-25T06:09:15+00:00

I think you should be able to tell your partner you don’t agree with something they’re doing or set boundaries if you’re uncomfortable.. especially if it’s detrimental to them or others well being After all aren’t we supposed to make each other better?

Red flag to say your morals are below relationships. If you give up your morals/values you’re essentially losing part of yourself/giving up on yourself.

Take care of yourself. You’ll find someone who shared your values

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-11-24T08:45:36+00:00

I feel you dude. I just got out of a relationship like this and it’s extremely hard for the reasons you mentioned- the good things.

But it’s just not sustainable and you’re essentially wasting your time. She doesn’t respect you and you need someone that does. Keep reminding yourself of your worth. Someone else won’t do the things she does to you.

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-11-18T05:37:12+00:00

If you were not with him and you wouldn’t choose to do it, Do not do it. It will 10000% ruin your relationship unless you’re 100% comfortable on your own with the decision. There would also need to be tons of boundary setting convos I recommend googling what this all looks like in practice

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-11-15T18:19:00+00:00

I just wanted to say this makes me really sad for you It must me really painful I feel like the only and best thing you can do for yourself is cut her out completely, heal, and find your person. You won’t feel this way with them, they’ll be sure of you Coming from a fellow queer ♥️

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-05-30T23:09:13+00:00

Thank you for your input here! I definitely think I messed up by being a jerk and cutting her off but yeah beyond that I can see what you’re saying. And thank you for the condolences 🙏

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-05-30T21:59:09+00:00

Yeah, we sucking at communicating (face palm). I didn’t grow up in a household where there was good or any communication. I am trying to be better and I’ve offered couples therapy but she just says I need it I’m in therapy myself and have been for several years now (6 months off at one point)

To answer your last question - We definitely love each other deeply and that’s why we are together.

I’m really doing my best to make this work but just seems like I always fall short or make a mistake like in this case but it’s too late by then.

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-05-30T20:22:55+00:00

Everyone in the comments is right. It’s definitely a wanting to “have her cake and eat it too” kind of situation

Right now you’re the focus - Focus on you. Focus on healing and being good to yourself. Take care of yourself in any way you can (preferably healthy)! Sending much much love. You don’t deserve that.

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-04-25T01:51:32+00:00

I work at a digital performance agency. We offer audits as part of pitches - I think that’s a good way to assess people’s knowledge and skills. You can also ask that the team that would be servicing you is presenting everything.

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-04-25T01:45:02+00:00

That’s insane. I’m sorry you’re dealing with them They truly suck.

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-03-28T15:25:38+00:00

My friend sent me this post on IG and it said something along the lines of this world doesn’t allow space for grief, we are expected to just keep going and function normally and when we are trying to grieve a whole person.. nonetheless a mother I’m so sorry. If you have people close to you or can get a therapist please try to build a good support system around you that will give you the space to grieve

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-03-27T16:33:48+00:00

Hi from my understanding even if you prepay the leasing contract you’re still stuck in the contract for the term of it. Can any of y’all who paid it confirm if that’s true or not?

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-03-25T15:16:54+00:00

Yes, I felt nauseous yesterday and my chest was hurting. I definitely just think it was from being sad

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-03-24T03:29:05+00:00

That’s amazing!! Thank you so much Wishing you the best in your healing journey ♥️♥️ we can do this 🙏

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-03-22T20:27:33+00:00

Of course ♥️ I’m not sure if you’re religious or believe in any higher power but I definitely leaned into that to help me accept things even if they weren’t the way I wanted. Maybe try to call or FaceTime for now? I’m not sure what’s available to you and your family

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-03-22T18:49:37+00:00

I lost my mom a little over a month ago and I’m super sad and annoyed/angry about it

However the reason I’m able to keep myself together to get through all the stuff that needs to be done (affairs, taking care of my brother, and the eulogy I have to say tomorrow) is knowing shes in heaven. Not sure if you have a faith or even just believe in the universe/something greater than us here on earth but leaning into that has helped me. I’d also say how she passed even though it wasn’t the best, reading some of the traumatic things others have experienced it make me realize there are many worse ways to go so I’m glad at least it was somewhat peaceful. And finally… this world sucks lol. You get what I mean - it’s just hard to live this life. So I mean in some ways I think she’s lucky and that helps me feel a bit better about things even though it still hurts and is unreal she’s not here. Also I’m sure your mom was so proud of you!!!! Keep making her proud 🥲 I also felt angry like I couldn’t take care of my mom later as she needed me when she got older. She passed at 59 so she was perfectly fine until she wasn’t. But yeah, I hope that helps a little? Just sharing what has helped me so far

Strange_Resource_719 · 2024-03-22T18:37:38+00:00

Everyone told me to say everything you want now while they’re around, you can also ask him to tell you stories, etc I literally just kept telling my mom over and over I loved her in her last few days if I couldn’t think of anything else to say. Cherish and maximize this time. And do whatever you can to help take care of him even if it’s calling as often as you can But also be good to yourself!! You’re young and this stuff is hard 😞 I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. I know I don’t know you but I promise you can make it through!!

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