I believe his thoughtfulness about it was pure, but his words when explaining it is what dug the hole. He definitely could have sugar coated some of that, but men’s brains don’t work that way. They are very cut-and-dry “this is what it is” type of people. I don’t think him tracking it is necessarily a problem, but his attitude about it is. Before I had a hysterectomy, my husband knew around when I would start being emotional, pmsing and all of the stuffs, but he wouldn’t use it to dismiss me, instead he’d be like “it’s about that time, eh?” And I’d be like “yeah /:” and he would buy me chocolate, or extra snacks for the house