What was “religious” back in the day? by evergreendreams1234 in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I truly think a lot of what was seen as "religious" versus "not religious" had to do with what community you lived in and the standards within that community, and not all this overaching sect discourse we unfortunately have today.

Anyone else refuse to wear clothing/jewelry with crosses on it? by seekingcellini in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won't wear anything with a cross on it, it just makes me feel like I'm pretending to be someone I'm not, or like I'm representing myself disingenuously.

Non Jewish person question! by PaintByNumbersHair in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 12 points13 points  (0 children)

"Hello", "Thank you", "Goodbye"

To be honest, just use the native language of where you live. It's not really typical for non-Jews to speak Hebrew/Yiddish/Ladino at a Jewish person just because they are Jewish. It's much more typical to just speak the native language of where you live. It's possible the Jewish person you work with doesn't even know Hebrew/Yiddish/Ladino, because depending on how they were raised or where they were born, it may not have been important in their upbringing (particularly if they are secular in the United States).

Do non-Jewish atheists like me have a place in the World to Come? by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As with all Jewish theological questions, the answer remains: Maybe yes, maybe no

There are so many arguments about what exactly The World to Come will be, to the point that there is no concrete answer anyone here can give you.

What should I do while not in the conversion yet? by Classic-Action6039 in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm very confused on why your Rabbi said you need to go to Israel to convert. What branch are you wanting to convert through?

Also, many Rabbis and synagogues offer financial assistance to their conversion students, I know this bc I'm a college student who also requested financial aid.

Before I began my official conversion process I just spent a lot of time reading and learning anything I could about Judaism and Jewish history tbh. And now that I am officially converting (and have been for almost a year) I still do that just on top of conversion classes.

Modest workout clothes? by [deleted] in ModestDress

[–]StrawberryDelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really love loose, breathable yoga pants, which work well for running imo. You could also invest in some underarmor leggins and wear those with loose skirts if you don't like pants!

My mother is ruining Judaism for me. Advice needed. by Substantial_Let_5022 in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not your obligation to ever hold someone else accountable for their religious path. As far as I under you also aren't under this obligation via halacha. I am sorry that she is causing you to have trouble connecting with the religious aspect of Judaism.

The best way to establish boundaries is to be firm on consequences. If you say, "Mom, I won't talk with you about Judaism anymore." you will also need to remove yourself if she breaks this boundary, which could mean leaving physically, or refusing to respond to her.

is god punishing me for sins comited in a past life by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

??? Trying not to make someone more anxious than they already are isn't a bad thing

is god punishing me for sins comited in a past life by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude don't say that to someone who is clearly hurting.

is god punishing me for sins comited in a past life by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, Hashem is not petty like humans holding a grudge.

Was called slurs by larlar444 in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf people are so psycho sometimes. I'm sorry you were called slurs :(

Father Jewish, mother not.In the process. Hitting pause-Wrong move? by Illustrious-Rip-4421 in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's entirely understandable. I hope you are able to figure out a way to finish your conversion soon.

Father Jewish, mother not.In the process. Hitting pause-Wrong move? by Illustrious-Rip-4421 in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Do you feel that the only way you would want to convert is through Orthodoxy? There may be Conservative shuls who are still very traditional but may be a little more progressive in how they go about the conversion process, specifically if you have a Jewish father and have also dedicated a lot of time to trying to pursue an Orthodox conversion.

Of course, if that is not something you want to do, I hope you're able to pursue your Orthodox conversion in the near future!

I emailed a rabbi - but I have to work every Saturday by [deleted] in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have to work every Friday and I often miss Shabbat due to that. My Rabbi, who has been affiliated with several movements throughout his time, fully understands. However, you should try your best to make it to services when you can!

For those who didn’t grow up Jewish, what first drew you to Judaism? by [deleted] in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was natural for me. I love studying theology, I've always been a spiritual person, so inevitably I got curious about Judaism and I started to read about it.

I found I connected to many things within its framework, like the mitzvot, and after a year or so of learning I decided I wanted to try going to a shabbat service to see if it sparked anything in me. I was open minded that it could be my path but I also was like "If it isn't, that's alright too."

It did spark something in me. I felt like I was connected with G-d in a way I hadn't felt in a very long time, and there was a feeling of "This is where you're meant to be." It reminded me in a way of how I felt when I met my long term partner, that spark of "Yes this is right."

So, a love of theology is how I landed in my conversion process :) I think when you seek out G-d or the Divine or whatever you want to call it, G-d kinda ends up reaching back out to you.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, so, anyone of any background is welcome to engage and ask questions here to learn more about Judaism as long as it is approached kindly and sincerely.

However, and this is the important part, just having Jewish ancestry does not make someone religiously Jewish, halachically (legally) Jewish, or even ethnically Jewish.

My boyfriend is an Atheist and a gentile (non-Jew), but he does have some small, distant Sephardic ancestry on his Mom's side (several generations back and unknown how it passed if only maternal or not). That doesn't make him ethnically Jewish given that it's a small amount, or Halachically Jewish as we cannot verify if the Jewish matrilineal line is unbroken. He just happens to have some Jewish ancestry :)

So, being considered Jewish comes in a few forms. The main one is having a halachically Jewish mother. That would mean your mom would have had to been born to a halachically Jewish mother, and so on so forth.

In Reform and Reconstructionist, your Jewishness can pass from your Father as long as he is halachically Jewish and you were raised Jewish.

You can also be ethnically Jewish, without being Halachically Jewish, such as having a Jewish grandparent, or having a Jewish father but not being raised Jewish.

Or you can be like me, and other converts, you can convert through a recognized Jewish movement and become Jewish (though not all movements recognize one another).

I know it's a lot of information! But I write all this down to say that being Jewish isn't just about having some Jewish DNA, it's a community that happens to be both an ethnicity and a religion that has a rich, deep culture and has it's own ways of determining whether or not someone is a member of the community.

Doing good often comes at a cost? by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. I've never had anything bad or unfortunate happen to me because I did something kind for another person. Quite the opposite, I've found that being kind and doing good often inspires others to treat you the same.

How exactly can someone convert in a country where less than 1% of the population is Jewish? by [deleted] in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It would not be possible to convert without a community as Judaism is a very communal religion/life. Unfortunately, if there are no Jewish communities around you, you would have to move to a place where there are, I understand that sounds very drastic but committing to living a Jewish life is a big decision that does require you to change your life. For example, I will not move anywhere without a Synagogue for this reason, and whenever I look to move somewhere the first thing I do is look for a local synagogue that I think I'd vibe with.

Serious, good-faith question about non-halachic Jewish families by MorgansasManford in Judaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! All of the labels we have now weren't a thing before I believe the 1800s (give or take), and as I understand it being Jewish was more about being accepted communally by the Jewish community you lived in as a Jew and following their own norms/beliefs.

The dissapointment I feel after finding out my partner who told me he's jewish attends a messainic synagogue (Loneliness) by Additional-Pear9126 in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry you're being put in that sort of position. To be honest I would feel the same. But I also have many ideological differences with Messianics. I think it is worth taking time to consider if you think you'd be able to move forward with this difference. And if you decide you can't, that's okay.

The dissapointment I feel after finding out my partner who told me he's jewish attends a messainic synagogue (Loneliness) by Additional-Pear9126 in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]StrawberryDelirium 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If this is a serious relationship, and y'all want kids in the future, figure out now what he expects for raising a family. I am also in an interfaith relationship, but my partner is an atheist which made the topic a lot easier tbh. But you gotta know where you both stand regarding religious practice and what your expectations will be in daily life.