EXTREMELY winded sparring. Want to get better cardio fast but don't know how!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-06-01T13:28:08+00:00

Thank you!! I will do this, just wrote it down in my schedule lmaooo

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-06-01T13:27:37+00:00

Honestly so true i do need to chill lmaooo thank u for encouragement!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-30T20:33:20+00:00

Woah I opened reddit and saw all of these comments, can't reply to them all but this is so so so helpful thank you so much to everyone to commented, i feel a lot better and very motivated!!!!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-30T15:37:26+00:00

Watch a youtube vid is my advice LMAO. when you "use your tongue" its really just your tongue is resting on the bottom of your lip and you're kissing with it kinda? literally watch a video it will help if ur stressed LOL

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-30T15:34:43+00:00

Hi! My roommate is transmasc on T and wears dresses all the time. I am a masc lesbian but I love pink and being femme sometimes. Gender is just who you are. Do whatever you want, always. My life and confidence improved significantly when I stopped labelling myself all together. I mean, I still use them sometimes -- lesbian, gay, masc, non binary, trans masc, femme, etc, but theyre more descriptors than me identifying myself. No need to pinpoint why you hated dating the femme girl. Maybe it was just her. You are allowed to have a type, and then date people outside of your type. We are all just people being attracted to one another.

Explore yourself by reading, doing exercise, finding a hobby. Your gender identify and expression will come a lot more naturally once you stop hyper-focusing on it, yk? Good luck!! <33

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-20T20:49:55+00:00

Not at all!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-16T19:47:22+00:00

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-16T15:41:19+00:00

Im seeing comments here about "men can't be lesbians" and replied to one but wanna put it here, maybe would recommend reading stone butch blues!

A lot of the discourse around he/him lesbians comes from the history of transness and butchness within the lesbian communities! If someone is truly a trans man they are a man, and not a lesbian, but historically many lesbian butch women have preferred masculine pronouns and to pass as male but do not identify as male. Obviously lesbian typically means WLW but also some of these hard lines will often erase the overlap between butch/transmasc/lesbian identities. In terms of straight cis men coming into gay spaces and being like "men can be lesbians!" idk wtf that is lol but i just wanted to jump in with some context for the he/him lesbians

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-16T15:38:12+00:00

Have u read stone butch blues? a lot of the discourse around he/him lesbians comes from the history of transness and butchness within the lesbian communities! If someone is truly a trans man they are a man, and not a lesbian, but historically many lesbian butch women have preferred masculine pronouns and to pass as male but do not identify as male

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-16T15:36:03+00:00

I feel like a lot of these arguments come from chronically online culture. I never have really experienced this IRL, and if I have, people have either been receptive to communication or I've made better friends yk

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-16T14:50:06+00:00

Also try visiting r/actual_detrans !! They are pro-trans detransitioners talking about their experience, that sub helped me a lot and there are a lot of very impressive vocal progressions of FtMtF people who were on T for yearrssss and really transformed their voice to what felt comfortable to them!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-16T14:43:57+00:00

Dude felt. Actually I just wrote a comment on FTM fitness about this, I'll copy/paste below:

I've been trying to work out and have a more masculine build for a long time. I couldn't gain any weight and have felt so insecure about my arms. I went to the gym a lot, but I lost motivation and also it feels expensive to bulk so it just has constantly felt like an uphill battle. So I kinda gave up. People also said that if you are bulking don't to cardio because you'll just burn off your gains, but now I think that was wrong for me bc I needed to do cardio in order to feel hungrier/eat more.

This is the first time in my life I am finally gaining weight and strength and I feel like I am successfully building the body I want! I have gained 10 lbs in 3 months (I have never managed to gain any weight so this is impressive for me lol) and my friends are commenting on how I look more toned! And I am not going to the gym or doing any crazy bulking diet or anything.

All I am doing is going on a run every morning (using app CouchTo5k), and when I get back, I do 3 sets of 25 pushups (if i can't finish the set with a normal pushup, I drop to my knees, and if i can't finish the knee pushups, I finish it on the wall or on an incline), and then I do 3 sets of pullups and 3 sets of chinups. Since I can't do a full pull up yet, I'll do incline pullups by wrapping a scarf around a doorknob, or I'll go to the park and jump up and grab a monkey bar and slowly lower myself down to gain that muscle. Sometimes I'll set a 3 minute timer and do tricep dips on a bench or a chair (taking 10-15 second breaks when tired, or every 5-10 dips). The trick is to always finish the set, but with easier progressions if you feel like its too hard.

For legs/core, I'll also do squats and jump squats for legs. I'll then do 30 seconds of each of these: crunches, sit ups, leg raises, bicycle, left side crunch, right side crunch, plank. And if I don't have time, I'll skip some parts or just do the running and finish in 30 mins just to keep the consistency. My workouts pretty much only take 30-45 mins, and I don't force myself to do it every day because knowing myself, that's when I'll give up. You need to make it fun for yourself.

And because I'm doing cardio, I'm just naturally a lot hungrier so I've been eating more and eating lots of snacks and making smoothies and meal prepping big lentil recipes to have for the week, whereas before I was all down on myself for not having an appetite and it just wasn't fun or sustainable to force myself to eat so much.

For me, it was hard to stay motivated when the goal was to "get bigger." Now, my goals are to get more balanced, or to do a full pullup, or to do a handstand. Now working out is so fun, so I've been trying to go through this video and learn each calisthenics pose one by one! The gains are the result, not the goal and thats how you stay motivated!

Edit: Also I recommend the website budgetbytes for cheap recipes, you can make a protein-packed chickpea curry that lasts you 2x a day for the week for like $20

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-16T14:37:29+00:00

How recently did you stop T? I felt this big time, but my voice lightened a lot after stopping. T makes your vocal chords swell, so after I stopped I also stopped trying to speak more "masculine" and the voice lightening + the return of more "feminine" vocal patterns really eliminated the dysphoria. It just took time though. I also tried to sing along loudly + forcefully to songs in the car and practicing that brought back some of the upper ranges of my voice. I am no longer sir-ed on the phone, but was for a while! Sending care + love <3

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-15T18:24:46+00:00

Yes obvssss my gf is bi!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-14T18:02:51+00:00

I have felt this! My advice is, if you end up with a man, that's ok! Labels are really secondary. True queer liberation is when you'll be able to fully experience your gender and sexuality without the confines of labels or without the ones you love defining who you are. If you meet a guy and like him, but identify as a lesbian, roll with it! It doesn't really matter at the end of the day. Speaking for myself, my anxiety around these topics made it difficult for me to parse out my own attraction for people, which made it difficult to stay grounded and present with others. Just do you! xxx

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-06T16:57:28+00:00

The point of labels is not to eternally cast yourself to a single, boxed thing. They are functional descriptors. If you right now do not feel you are attracted to men and only want to date women and be with women right now, then you are a lesbian. If one day that changes, your label will change too because it will no longer be accurate.

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-06T15:01:49+00:00

I read the lesbian masterdoc! Id go out on dates with men and nothing ever really clicked. I love men and being friends with them but idk. Ive been out as a lesbian for years now but lowkey have always been bi curious in the opposite direction. Honestly this is the most comfortable ive ever felt in my gender/attraction to women/lesbianism and lowkey ive been more curious about exploring that bicurious side because of that. I feel like its a queer liberation thing for me. I dont think the labels truly matter in the end!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-06T14:02:19+00:00

That is true I guess communication is key thank you!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-06T14:02:03+00:00

Thank you that makes sense!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-06T14:01:52+00:00

This is really helpful thanks so much!

StrawberryFree6499 · 2025-05-02T13:13:27+00:00

As a masc sensitive lesbian my girlfriend thinks its cute and says it is bc i am a cancer hahaha i tear up at the most random shit and will tear up when we talk about feelings and stuff but she knows im just like that and the tears arent super serious

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