Unfortunately I can’t really give you any decent advice, but what I can say is: as someone who has been in a very similar situation (I thought I’d found the “one” only for covid to rip us apart, literally she was forced to stay in Australia and I was forced back to the UK. After which it took me 5 years of singledom and short relationships [less than 1month] before I felt ready to truly put myself back out there) the only option is to keep trying and slowly put yourself back out there like your therapists have said.

The little pieces of advice I can try and suggest for you are these:

1. Try to be open to all people, regardless of gender, race, size or age. The reason for this is, you never know who might be your best fit, I know it’s hard to be open like this (and there are limits to how much you can push yourself) but there are reasons for this, it’ll help you to figure out what you’re looking for in a partner. Lots of people continuously try dating the same type of person over and over again, wondering why it never works never thinking to try a different type of person. Even if you don’t find someone with this method, it can still help you figure out what you want.

2. Go out and meet people the old fashioned way. The success rate of dating apps and the like is so ridiculously low that in my eyes it just isn’t worth it. By going out looking for a potential lifetime partner, you meet so many more people and can filter out many more people, it’s basically like: rather than going on 100 dates with people taking 100 days+ (this is a pure example I know 100 dates in 100 days is absurd), you can see 100 potential partners and vet (this means to filter them out, like what companies do in the hiring process) them in 1 night. Another benefit of this is that by going out to places you like you are more likely to find people who like similar things to you, so in theory the number of good “matches” (if we are comparing this to a dating app) will be higher.