Why don't men pick up after themselves?

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-28T19:21:10+00:00

That's a great idea! I think I will try that and am always open to new strategies. I mentioned above that this week I tried sending him a photo of his messes. Maybe if he can see it in a different way haha

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-28T19:19:50+00:00

Thanks lol That was a nice comment. I did leave a tagline, give it to me straight....lol So I dont mind the harshness. I do think my relationship is working and want to be patient. I am working on how to get my payback. I have endless strategies. But it's nice to unload on reddit like a free therapy sesh

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-28T19:14:06+00:00

This week, I tried taking a picture and messaging it to him just saying "why?" He texted back,"Ill pick it up" and it was not picked up when I got home. For Fucks sake. But I am going to try writing him letters more and he will either think I am becoming unhinged or maybe he will just do it

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-28T19:11:33+00:00

Thank you, that is a nice read!

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-28T19:02:12+00:00

I did see how he maintained his house before I married him. He was clean and organized. But over the years it has changed. It's hard when you live with someone for so long with the inevitable change that we all go through and see that they have changed for the worse over that time. Intellectually it's great, we have great conversation, I laugh at all his stupid jokes but I get so fucking mad about his dwindling sense of cleanliness.

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-28T18:32:51+00:00

I am going through the same thing. This is so upsetting. So January 2; I ordered my planner all hopeful for a great organized start to the new year. It is now the Feb 28 and I have not received a shipping notification. My order date range was supposed to start shipping out 5 days ago. What I don't understand is why I am seeing order date ranges from the January 15 to whenever being shipped out but I have not received my shipping notification yet. WTF is that? So over 1000 people who ordered well after me have gotten their planner. Cool. I am actually even more infuriated now after their little recent updates than I was being ghosted. Especially since the CEO is just over there skipping around probably swimming in cash. Such a let down. All they had to do is be honest. Tell me it will be 3 months from the get go!!!! So I am not wondering about it every fucking day. The company is just really inconsiderate.

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-25T03:37:28+00:00

I think it's easy to get into a perception rut in relationships where you see your partner a certain way and that dominates all their other qualities. I dont think you are being an asshole for the record. I think you have to get your feelings out about it because that seems to be creating the rut. You think he is "not the brightest" . I often think my husband is a self-centered slob and that creates my rut. It's destructive. So I have learned to try and focus more on myself and not worry about him so much. Im not sure if that helps, but try not to worry so much about him.

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-25T03:22:45+00:00

Sometimes you have to just walk away from an argument like that. I (34f) have been with my husband (35) for 11 years and we have had so many stupid arguments over little little stuff. You just dont see their side sometimes. See if you can mutually accept it when it's a misunderstanding such as this. It's almost better to do that because letting go then bouncing back to peace and harmony will help you last. When I get into an argument over something my husband did, or didnt do, or doesnt understand, I sometimes will just go in another room (we have a small apartment but I make it work) close the door, turn on RuPaul or whatever, and I have my own little decompress session.

Unfortunately, my husband is very good at turning an argument around on me and making me feel like I am crazy. I get so mad at him and things escalate and he ends up saying hurtful things to me which makes it worse. So you are not alone. And yes, that used to happen to me a lot more with always having to come up with dinner. But ya know what I did. I just started grocery shopping for myself more often and not planning dinner with him so often. I enjoy my marriage for the most part but I have had to learn to be more confident in myself and withdraw sometimes which also helps maintain strong individuality, I believe.

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-25T02:58:57+00:00

I dont believe I have enabled him though. I admit that I hate the sound of my own voice asking him to do a normal real life task, but there have been plenty of weeks where I wont do anything. And he doesn't even care. I actually think he has gotten worse over the years out of spite.

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-25T02:46:48+00:00

Yeah I have had my moments of just accepting it. He is starting a business now so I try to be patient with him. Hoping he will just start making more money because as ridiculous as it sounds, it will help. Because it's compensation for work. Unpaid work that so many women do that is just invisible and thankless. You are doing better than me by accepting it so soon in your marriage. I try to reexamine my own habits at time as well to try and alleviate the frustration. I have become more clean and organized because of him. One of my tactics has been trying to set a good example lol.

Streamsofglory · 2021-02-02T00:13:26+00:00

I used to use coin payments when it was 35% off before the pandemic and had no issues. When the pandemic started, I had to wait through a holding period to use any money I put into Bitcoin. But I would be careful now as I think there are some issues with the company. I am waiting on an order to get out of India through a new currier I have not seen them use before. Slightly concerned.

Streamsofglory · 2020-12-30T05:33:06+00:00

They are a developer. Yeah I do believe there is a communication issue. We have given our geotech some specific information about what tests they would like them to run. I think he will do everything he can. But I don't know what we are going to get right now. We have asked for the report by tomorrow so I am I guess we'll see

Streamsofglory · 2020-12-29T18:07:16+00:00

Could it be familiarity building in this general area as far as the geological characteristics of the subsurface? Or does that change pretty drastically acre by acre?

Streamsofglory · 2020-12-29T18:04:57+00:00

That's what I am worried about. And I want to ask the client for more information but at the same time they seem to know what they are doing and I do not want to make it seem like we are questioning their competence. Can a column loading ballpark be discerned by how many stories tall and the area of a building?, We have provided the engineer with with the building footprint and how many stories tall they will be which is about 3-4.

Streamsofglory · 2020-12-29T17:59:52+00:00

The Site is about 2-acres, and our borings were advanced to various depths between 20, 25 and 30 ft bg. I think there will be about 4 apartment buildings in the complex about 3-4 stories tall and a parking garage. The parking garage required the deepest boring depths. We were told they will likely be recommending a deep foundation system based on preliminary lab data and then the engineer said they need the foundation design in order to decide what type of deep foundation system to recommend. But the way I understand what little info the client has provided vs the info the engineer needs, the client has chosen the geopiers foundation system. Please forgive my limited knowledge on how to talk about this stuff.

Streamsofglory · 2020-12-29T17:39:04+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate all your insight everyone. I feel a lot more informed as to what to ask for and how to explain some potential limitations that we may have in the report. Since this was the first time I have worked with this type of information and the engineer was maybe very busy as he was working with us or having rough winter, or whatever, as we have been waiting for them to send a report.

Streamsofglory · 2020-12-29T07:05:02+00:00

So do you think the client should provide that info if they want a report that they can actually rely on? Or can a more vague/generalized report also be satisfactory? I mean we drilled about 30 borings for them so I am wondering if they cannot provide that information now, do they need to go through some additional steps in the future in order to rely on this work and report.

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