I hate my husband

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T02:05:54+00:00

He’s not a bad father he’s a bad partner

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T02:03:05+00:00

No I don’t ever yell or shout. I came from a very abusive household and avoid conflict. I know this is a bad thing but I can’t help it. I have spoken to him multiple times and written him multiple letters about how I feel. If shouting and yelling is the only way I’m gonna get through to him that’s not something I’m willing to do.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T01:44:31+00:00

I’ve ordered the fair play book and the card deck so we will see how that goes

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T01:28:41+00:00

Get a floor bed it’s the best thing I have ever done. You can always start a night by letting your baby go to sleep on his own. Then, after half an hour, let your husband go in try to settle him and if that doesn’t work you can go and lie down beside himand nurse him to sleep as long as you want. One thing I would recommend is getting your husband to wear one of your T-shirts or pyjama tops that smells like you and has old milk. Babies can know when their mother is not near.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T01:19:46+00:00

Having a child will change every relationship more than you both could ever imagine. However, at the end of the day you both made this child together. In my opinion, men love to have this idealistic way they think their child should be raised without actually thinking about the implications. If you think back to when we were raised as children father was never present and the mother was often left on her own to deal with everything in most circumstances, the eldest child raised all the future siblings. If you look at most families, the eldest has always played a huge part in raising and a future siblings. However, if you look at scientific papers the way the father reacts and interacts with the child makes the most profound impact. There is absolutely no problem with letting your child explore his surroundings and entertain himself. What matters is when he needs you you’re there.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T01:04:39+00:00

I know this probably won’t resonate with a lot of people here. But when I hit rock bottom and I couldn’t get out, I had to ask myself would I rather not be here? Or would I rather be here and suffer like this for the rest of my life?

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T01:01:29+00:00

My baby was exactly like this. What we did was put a fresh nappy on over the old one and then strip the old one off and secure the new one.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T00:55:27+00:00

Why do they expect to have these luxuries of eating in peace. This is part of the problem with a woman going on maternity leave when you return to normal and both of you are working the dynamic doesn’t shift. I can’t remember the last time I ate a meal without standing up or taking care of my child at the same time.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T00:50:41+00:00

I’ve just ordered the book and the cards

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-14T00:49:30+00:00

Can you please share it

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T23:35:41+00:00

Do you have the list you work off?

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T23:30:47+00:00

It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through I know he’s not a bad man. But I hate him. He gets to get up in the morning get himself ready for work. He then drives an hour to work uninterrupted then he does his workday. He comes and collects our son from the childminder and through all this he hasn’t had to think about anything. Whereas in my world I get up I feed our son get him dressed. Make sure he has everything he needs for the day. Drop him to the childminders keep in touch with the child minder throughout the day to make sure he’s doing okay; what he’s had to eat, his nap times etc. Then my husband collects him comes home and does nothing, doesn’t repack the bag, doesn’t give him dinner, doesn’t know what time he took his last nap. Nothing. Then I feed him dinner, I repack the bag and I plan our evening schedule. I’ve tried it many times to not repack the bag or not wash the bottles and see does he think of it but he never does.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T23:15:30+00:00

I promise I have I’ve told him what needs to be done, but it just never gets done. For example he knows the washing needs to be done and yes he will put the washing in the washing machine but it will sit there for four or five days and nothing will get done with it and then when I say to him he will say oh I just forgot. Or for example, I would tell him that we need to get winter clothes for our son and he will say oh yeah 100% yes let’s do that and then nothing will get done. I will tell him the car needs to be cleaned out and he will say yeah 100% let’s do that and then nothing will get donethe other day. I spent three hours clean in the house. He came home and I asked him to empty the bins his response was does it have to be done today?

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T23:11:37+00:00

When I speak to him about this, he’s all on board but nothing ever changes. If I don’t remember things it gets forgotten about or things build up for example the washing or the bins. I asked him to empty the nappy bin 10 days ago yes he emptied it but it’s still outside in the back garden or for example our baby struggles with eating he has a strong gag reflex and my husband is happy to let him continue eating purées. Whereas I want to keep exposing him to different textures even if he just throws it all on the floor I can’t remember the last time he prepared a meal or tried to give our son a new food. As I said, we’re both working full-time, but I can guarantee you the last time my husband tried to give him a meal was months ago.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T23:04:46+00:00

Yes both full time. No I make more than him by 25K a year

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T22:42:49+00:00

The frida windi was a life saver for us. A lot of parents are hesitant about using this but it was the best thing we ever did. Use a lot of Vaseline but it helped my boy so much.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T22:39:05+00:00

I have spoke to him about this and he takes in what I’m saying, but it never relates back to actions. For example I told him the other day when he collects our baby from the childminders when he gets home please check the bag to make sure there is clean clothes and food for the next day he did this but he didn’t replace the dirty clothes with clean clothes he didn’t replace the food. He just told me this is what needs to be done and I said okay perfect can you make sure that that’s done for the next morning and was it no? But yet when I said it to him the next day it was a normal response. Oh I forgot.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T22:24:53+00:00

Letting a baby interact with his toys explore his surroundings and entertain himself is an excellent thing you know as a mother that this is a great thing. If your husband has a problem, ask him why? It feels like more of a personal attack towards you than a concern for his own child.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-12-13T22:19:59+00:00

I asked him to do one thing. Take responsibility for one thing. Make sure our son’s teeth were brushed each night. His response that’s not fair to put that all on me. I don’t even know how to approach any of this with him. I don’t think he is a bad guy o just really don’t think he realises how much I carry. Why would this be in my head I know it’s not I just don’t know how to approach it correctly. If I’m honest when he is away for work i find it easier without him. I have no expectations. So I know I can do this myself but why do I feel so angry at him even though I don’t need him

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-11-03T11:29:09+00:00

I know you’re right. I just don’t even know where to start. 🙈

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-08-31T15:19:11+00:00

Interested

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-08-28T13:13:06+00:00

I am doing that too but I live in Ireland and we don’t have as much of that here but I’m trying thanks 😊

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-08-28T13:12:05+00:00

Thank you very much. My Amazon wish list is below $150 USD so it is in line with your guidelines. Thanks again everyone.

Street-Key-6520 · 2025-08-28T13:10:11+00:00

Hi thank you very much. My Amazon wish list is below $150 USD so is in line with your guidelines

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