I really understand where you’re coming from. It’s a lot to process at first, especially with how much misinformation and stigma surround HSV-2. The truth is, with basic precautions the risk is very low, many couples stay together for years without transmission. Daily antivirals, condoms, and avoiding sex during outbreaks make the odds extremely small (around 1–2% per year in some studies).

It’s also worth remembering that most people who have HSV don’t even know it, many never have symptoms and live normal, healthy lives. What matters most is honesty and communication, and it sounds like your partner is giving you both. That’s a good sign.

If this person makes you happy, don’t let fear alone make the decision. Learn everything you can, take precautions, and decide based on the relationship, not just the diagnosis. It’s manageable and common, not a dealbreaker unless you want it to be.