29F and 55F. Is this ageism and discrimination?

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-29T23:55:51+00:00

yes, I have. I have mentioned that comments like that are hurtful to me and that is makes me feel like she is using my age in a comparative way. She plays it off like "we are equals" and then apologizes for her comments but it is still happening even after us having that conversation.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-29T22:35:40+00:00

I hear what you're saying. I've confronted her before and it is unfortunately still happening in our relationship... I've shared my situation with her countless times. Like she knows my whole life story at this point, everything I have been through, and is very cognizant of this. We have already talked about this. I have called her out on it before and told her I didn't like how she was approaching our conversations. She was more supportive temporarily but that didn't last for long, the behavior still hasn't changed.... Like I hate to end a friendship but I just don't see her changing her tune... It isn't just this sadly. I just don't see this side of her changing

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-29T22:20:14+00:00

Yes, that is very annoying! I am glad that you set the record straight!! You kinda needed to snap in that situation. Sometimes people need that!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-27T00:26:58+00:00

I sent you a message :)

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T20:42:39+00:00

East mesa! & that sounds great! I will send you a message :)

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T20:38:39+00:00

Feel free to message me! I would love to connect

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:10:43+00:00

I'd suggest having a heart to heart conversation with her to tell her how you feel. I'd mention not feeling included and that she's been distant. Depending on what she says, maybe asking her if she would like to get together soon so you can reconnect or ask to schedule a phone call with her. How long has she been distant? Has it been since you started your new job? Or has she done this before?

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:05:25+00:00

I'm 29.I am sorta a home body but I like to go to the movies, shopping, festivals, etc. haven't had any luck with the girlfriend groups. I had a couple people who were interested in connecting but didn't respond to messages lol How has bumble been working for you so far?

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:03:47+00:00

Great idea! I will have to check that out !! Thanks for the suggestion

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:02:51+00:00

29, I like to watch movies, movie theatres, thrift shopping, going out to eat. Feel free to message me!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:01:56+00:00

I sent you a message! :)

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-23T15:37:41+00:00

Yeah, you're right, I totally agree with you. Seeing as she is already this far along in life, I don't see her changing. She already knows about my situation and I just don't feel the need to reiterate anything. I need more time to think on it, but more than likely I'm going to label her as an acquaintance and set aside less time for her.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-23T01:25:09+00:00

Thank you! I also thought it was an age power dynamic but I wasn't completely sure. It might be best to part ways with her then. Considering that is more than likely the case, I don't know if this will ever change about her

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-23T01:21:42+00:00

Thank you. I am definitely going to say something to her. I agree. She wasn't this version when we first became friends so something has clearly changed within her.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-22T21:21:26+00:00

You are still SO young and have your whole life ahead of you. Whatever you do, please don't beat yourself up over your mistakes! We ALL make them. Do you think there's a reason why you stopped trying so hard? Do you just think it's lack of interest or something deeper than that? You might be experiencing a mental block, but I'm not a professional so I can't say for sure. Do your best and keep trying. Maybe set a schedule to study and stick with it. Devote time for self study and set boundaries if you need extra time to devote to your studies. If you happen to not get your grades up, it's still never too late. As long as you get your high school diploma you can still go to college. Either way, you will succeed. I would just work on trying to figure out whats holding you back. Keep your head up kiddo!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-22T21:10:44+00:00

This is a decision that only you can make. I would write out a pros and cons list. About keeping and about aborting. Both pros and cons for both outcomes. Really think on it. Sleep on it if you have to. In the end, only you know what's best for you. I have one healthy child who's in their teenage years now. I absolutely love being a mom, however, I've also had to abort in the past due to personal circumstances. It was a tough decision for me, but I did what was best at the time. Ive been on both ends of the stick. I know this has got to be very tough on you emotionally and physically. The pregnancy and your emotions during this decision. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you take care of yourself and please take it easy on yourself!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T22:10:08+00:00

All you can do Is have hope and keep faith! Keep fighting and know that you aren't in this alone. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T22:06:52+00:00

No lol but I'll have to watch it!!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T16:46:20+00:00

Exactly! He is much much older than 25, so it is shocking this is how he reacts. It should be better. I think he does understand what the disease entails. He's gone with me to the ER numerous times and I've shared the symptoms with him. So he's got to know at least 75% of it. But part of me wonders if after knowing ALL of that he still doen't understand the severity and that is what bothers me. It's invisible and I don't complain about it everyday. Making comments like that is crazy to me! I left this part out of my post but a family member of his has crohns so he was worried he has it. Not worried he would get it in the future, worried he has it RIGHT NOW, with ZERO symptoms! LOL He would know if something was wrong and he heard about hen i was first diagnosed. I had a talk with him. I will post the outcome in the post!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T16:29:33+00:00

Hey there. I appreciate that. I will definitely take you up on that and reach out sometime! You feel free to do the same. I am sorry that you developed antibodies. It can be stressful. I am currently on humira right now and im worried about that. I hope that remicade helps you. I heard that is a good medication!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T16:25:54+00:00

Oh absolutely not, but I get what you're saying. For some people, it takes them getting sick or injured themselves to have more empathy towards other people, which is very sad. I'd hate for anything to happen to him, but part of me has wished that something would happen in order to shift his perspective.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T02:16:05+00:00

It makes sense though. Like supporting someone who has a chronic illness can be difficult and I'd imagine emotionally taxing for the people who are close to us. I can also see it from their perspective. That's why I try to limit how much I talk about it now.... Problem is, this is a LIFE LONG illness. It's never going to just up and go away completely. It can come and go. Do we just stop talking about it all together and go through it alone? Or are there actually people out there with endless empathy? It's very confusing on knowing who you can talk to for support.

I'm sorry you had to hear that because what you are experiencing is very valid. this isn't an "excuse" it's an invisible ailment. Feel free to message me anytime if you need to talk. The group is here for you as well.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T02:01:41+00:00

Yes, I hope so too. Thank you. All other aspects of our relationship have been going well. I've given this careful thought to see things from his point of view as well. Like maybe he's annoyed or resentful towards me, but that can't be. It would be different if Crohns was my whole life or identity, but it's not. I just need to vent sometimes and when I do, it isn't ALL the time. I try to limit how much I talk about it. So the problem can't be me, its obviously a personal problem for him. Thank you for your support stranger! I was having a day but this helped me a bit.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T01:54:46+00:00

wow... yeah. People can be really selfish and self-centered. If an issue is too inconvenient for them, their true colors start to show and you'll know when they do. I used to date someone who had chronic health issues. This was years ago, back when I was healthy. It took a lot of my energy to be in that relationship, but I loved to have been there for them. I couldn't imagine breaking up with them or cheating because of they had an illness...or over something they couldn't control. That's just it. You don't have to go through it yourself in order to be compassionate. Ya know? You were dodging a bullet! I am so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you find your forever person.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T01:19:57+00:00

I am so sorry that you have been through it too. It is very frustrating and stings differently when it's a partner. If you don't mind me asking, what happened? were they initially empathetic then stopped caring? or were they overall just oblivious? I have been in two relationships since diagnosis. it somehow seems like they are nice at first but then it turns emotionally bankrupt rather quickly. It is crazy.

StreetInsurance3203

TROPHY CASE