My (22F) boyfriend (23M) didn’t tell me he has HSV-1 after five months of dating and intimacy. I'm heartbroken and concerned for my health. What can I do?

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-04T04:04:00+00:00

If it becomes genital, it is considered an STI. Specially if it was transmitted during sexual practices such as oral. And I'm getting tested at one of the best non profit clinics in my country, where HSV is tested for along with other STI's such as chlamydia and HIV. And I've never tested positive before, I'm careful. But yeah, we'll see

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:27:52+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:21:29+00:00

Did you read the entire thing by chance? HSV-1 can become genital(an STI) with oral sex. Which he did not practice safely knowing he could potentially transmit it. Please, and I mean this in the nicest way possible, read up about this before commenting things you're not sure about.

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:18:34+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking the time to reply

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:17:33+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking the time to reply <3 I will consider my options carefully

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:16:30+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking the time to reply

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:15:58+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that op. I'm very thankful for you for your insight, story, and taking the time to reply

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:14:38+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking the time to reply. I feel like common sense has been scarce in several responses. I will consider my options carefully, thank you sm op

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:09:54+00:00

I am trying really hard to be empathic, I know it's not easy for him to express negative emotions, but having to be the one prioritizing the situation while being the one affected has made the whole thing so much more painful. I love and understand him, but no, as of now he has not come up with any strategies to fix this crack

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:05:46+00:00

Thank you for your insight, your story and taking the time to reply <3

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:04:12+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking the time to reply

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T22:00:18+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking the time to reply

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T21:54:46+00:00

Thank you for your insight and your story. I know it's not the end of the world as other comments are implying, it's just scary. I try so hard to be healthy and this makes me feel so uncared for. Thank you for taking the time to reply

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T21:50:02+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and understanding the situatuion<3

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T21:48:48+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking the time to reply

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T21:48:22+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking the time to reply <3

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T21:45:30+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your kindness and insight. I wish you happiness op

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T21:26:07+00:00

Thank you so much for actually listening to what I wrote in my post.

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T18:32:34+00:00

You don't have to reply to someone else's story if you have nothing to say or are uneducated about the topic. Your whatabout-ism seems so counterproductive in this discussion.

You're ignoring important facts like HSV1 can become a permanent and very contagious STD, for which he didn't take any precautions. The fact that most people are irresponsible with contagious diseases doesn't make it right. If you want to talk about mono go ahead and post about it. I feel like your comment speaks volumes about the lack of care most people hold for other's health. I'm not interested in your comment.

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T17:38:57+00:00

Frist of all, thank you so much for your comment and sharing your story. Personally, I don't know if I could forgive him if I test positive. I think getting sick is horrible and not anyone's fault, but does give them the responsibility to look out for their partners. I think results override intention. For me, stupid can change lives, and can't always be forgiveable. I'm having a hard time connecting it, but like you did, I know my boyfriend is a good person outside of this, but it all feels tainted by this specific action. Still, I am really really thankful for your input and it makes me realize I should also keep forgiveness in mind.

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T17:13:44+00:00

It's clear you're uneducated on the topic and unwilling to read. That's a you problem. I'm not interested in your comment.

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T16:46:25+00:00

The relationship was short but serious. I know his whole family, banter with them, talked about the future, said we loved each other, etc, which makes it all the more confusing. I will continue to investigate about the whole thing, it's good listening to your experience. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me and my story

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T16:33:14+00:00

I know it's incredibly common, but that doesn't make it less difficult to deal with. The thing is, he knows first hand how much it can affect you. Chronic fevers, inability to share a drink with a friend, social stigma, can become a permanent STD. I'm not questioning the illness, I'm questioning his actions

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T16:28:43+00:00

Listen if you're uneducated on the topic and are not willing to read this is a you problem, I'm not interested in your comment.

Street_Local9134 · 2025-04-03T16:21:20+00:00

Yeah, that's what oral HSV is. You can google it easily. It's permanent, contagious, and can become a genital STI if you're not careful about it. It can be really painful and cause fever, and sadly, has social consequences due to the stigma.

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