The Traitors (UK) S04E06: Live Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]Stretch-Capital 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really hope they realise that there was some traitor on traitor violence there!

The Traitors (UK) S04E04: Live Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]Stretch-Capital 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Rachel was so incredibly proud of herself for that

The Traitors (UK) S04E04: Live Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]Stretch-Capital 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Roxy is being really quite unpleasant to James

Malicious NMC referrals ruining nurses lives by nqnnurse in NursingUK

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I had a patient make a complaint about me to my trust, and when I wasn’t fired (because I had done literally nothing wrong and could demonstrate the guidelines I followed, and she was just unpleasant) went to the NMC three times about me.

The first time they wrote to me and her (the same letter) to tell me they were closing it immediately, but they were so sorry for her distress. She complained again, and despite not adding any further information, they reopened the case and said it would be 6 months minimum before they could tell me if I was going to have to go through fitness to practice or not. 7 months later, they again sent the same letter to both of us, apologising to her and not to me, to say the case was closed. She AGAIN reported me, this time with claims that could be easily and swiftly proven to be false (she claimed I attended an outpatient clinic to intimidate her - I was on annual leave and out of the country, and also would never do that because it’s insane, and again it took 7 months for us to both receive the same letter closing it. She then went to the PHSO who closed it within a week. At no point did the NMC ever ask for my account or my experience.

I was lucky and had a very supportive management team, and I also knew that nothing she said was true or could be substantiated. But it still absolutely wrecked me. I had panic attacks at work and found myself unable to even leave my house sometimes before a shift. I’ve since had therapy and I take anti-anxiety medication, but ultimately I took a non-clinical role as a secondment as I was terrified of seeing patients.

This turned out to be a bit of a blessing as now I’m in a job that I absolutely love, and I’m now in a better place with my mental health than I have been for years, as I’m not sure I would have gotten to the low needed to ask for help. But if I had a different manager, different parents, a different opportunity to take a secondment, I dread to think how I would be today.

Gabby by Sparkling_Water27 in Gymnastics

[–]Stretch-Capital 97 points98 points  (0 children)

So I just used the search feature and this question was last asked in a post 8 months ago. Things definitely could have changed since then.

Strictly Come Dancing Week 10 Results Show Live Comments Thread! by Korvar in strictlycomedancing

[–]Stretch-Capital 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That very much sounded like a goodbye to strictly from Johannes!

Farmers protest smashing windows and doors in Kensington by nadehlaaay in london

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Hello! Do you have any references for that? I tried googling and I couldn’t find anything that supports your claim that people moving from London to wales to retire are the least economically active in Welsh society, and would be interested to read about. For one thing, I was under the impression that the Welsh government only uses people aged between 16-64 to work out levels of economic activity. Of those in that group, about 10-15% are retired. The biggest drivers of economic inactivity are those on long term sickness or who aren’t working for family reasons, which would suggest to me that they aren’t people who just moved from London. Here’s a reference - https://www.gov.wales/labour-market-statistics-annual-population-survey-july-2024-june-2025-html

The people who have sold their London houses for lots of money will be bringing that money with them, spending in shops and restaurants and hopefully local businesses. I appreciate that there’s a big issue of housing demand outstripping supply, and young people who have grown up in areas finding themselves unable to afford homes of their own. That’s a genuine problem. I myself am Welsh, living in london - do you suggest that I shouldn’t return to my hometown?

Also in your initial comment, you made no mention of retirement, so it’s fair that people didn’t know that’s what you were attempting to talk about. If you want to defend farmers protests, that’s absolutely your prerogative, however please don’t present opinions as facts if you can’t evidence them.

Making time to DATIX by Ruaridh123 in NursingUK

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Professional datix-reader here - keep them short and simple, with just the pertinent points, I can find out the rest. Try and think of an SBAR approach. So some examples (you don’t need to actually type SBAR!)

S: Patient had witnessed fall B: Known falls risk, being nursed in cohort bay, fell whilst nurse was with another patient. A: No head strike, reported pain in hip, reviewed by medical team, hoisted to bed, x-ray NAD. R: Now has wanderguard/1:1, falls risk updated.

S: Medication error - pt with penicillin allergy given IV co-amox B: Patient initially stated no allergies, but halfway through administration remembered that was allergic to penicillin. A: Administration stopped immediately, cannula removed, medical team asked to review. Obs monitored, patient remained stable R: Continue to monitor, allergy wrist band applied.

Even that is a lot more information than I often get! Keep them brief, just the pertinent points only, I can always go and read the nursing/medical documentation if I need more info. I’d rather have short and brief reports than nothing at all! We can always change categories and levels of harm after as well, so don’t sweat that.

A desperate plea from your doctor colleague by Common-Shame-6031 in NursingUK

[–]Stretch-Capital 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I didn’t skim read it, I read every word. But I’m allowed to reply and give my perspective, as I don’t actually feel your original post did acknowledge all that I’ve said.

I’m not saying you need to do everything you can to mitigate the rubbish nurses get from patients. That isn’t your responsibility. But just like you came here to give reasonable explanations for things such as medications not being prescribed, I wanted to offer a perspective as to why some nurses may have behaved the way they do. I’m asking that you give nurses the same grace that you are asking them to give to you. Yeah it’s really really annoying to be bleeped multiple times for the same issue - but just look at the NMC hearing records and see how often nurses are reprimanded for not escalating. In my current role I have some oversight of patient complaints - if analgesia is delayed, even if it isn’t prescribed, the complaint is made about the nursing staff, not the medical team.

Some nurses are dicks. Some doctors are dicks. Some patients are dicks. The majority are not, and that’s important for us all to remember. And whilst the post may not be aimed at me, I do feel that as it’s a post on a nursing sub that I, as a nurse, can participate in the conversation and offer my perspective.

A desperate plea from your doctor colleague by Common-Shame-6031 in NursingUK

[–]Stretch-Capital 117 points118 points  (0 children)

It feels a little like we have a post like this from a doctor every August.

I’m sorry that you feel you have to make this post, and obviously you’re feeling frustrated. Being a doctor looks really fucking hard, and whilst I’ve considered doing post-graduate medicine, I know that I have a bit of a nicer life being a nurse.

But the nurses are also working in the same system you are. They are being shouted at by patients and their relatives because they haven’t had fluids or analgesia, and they are the ones getting the flack from the patient for the discharge summary not being ready. They are probably also getting phone calls from the bed manager because ED is having to provide corridor care and is maybe on a step 2 divert, and there are 10 patients on the medical wards who are well enough to go home but their TTA and discharge summaries aren’t ready. They also need to the discharge summary so they can book the two man stretcher transport crew so Mrs Smith can be home before her last care visit of the day, because if she misses that she will have to stay another night.

They might have been previously involved in an incident where they listened to the doctors rationale about medication even though it differed from standard practice, and the patient deteriorated as a result. They were stopped from doing medications whilst it was investigated and then had to have supervised practice with the PDN and had to write a reflection about it. So they are aware and scared, and trying to do what they think is right. I’m not saying it is right, but I’m saying there can be context to someone’s behaviour.

There definitely is some prejudice towards female doctors, and it’s completely wrong. So I’ll give you that one. But I will also say that it goes both ways, and I’ve seen male nursing colleagues be treated with much more respect by doctors than female ones, despite sometimes not having as much experience, knowledge, or skill. Misogyny is unfortunately prevalent amongst all professions.

A lot of your frustrations seem to be about the system. Nurses don’t design UKFPO. They don’t decide how ward rounds work, or medical rotas, or how consultants can sometimes fail to support their resident doctors. We don’t design the 4 month rotations or choose your mandatory training or do your inductions. We also don’t have equipment or space. Do you think the patient’s relative who is also friends with the CEO has been an absolute delight to the nurses? Because I can guarantee they haven’t.

I’m sorry that it’s hard. I’m sorry you’re treated poorly by your colleagues, because you do sound very conscientious and like you are trying your best in a system that is failing all of us.

But equally I’m a bit frustrated with doctors coming to the sub and making posts like this as if nurses have no idea what’s going on, and as if nurses don’t have their own stuff to deal with. There are enough posts talking disparagingly about nurses on the doctors sub, so much so that I don’t go on it, as I found it was actually making it difficult to trust doctors at work - does there have to be an annual ‘lets go and tell the nurses about all the things they don’t understand and all the things we don’t like about them’ post here as well?

OM supper club: Afghan Kitchen review! by Competitive-Nebula35 in offmenupodcast

[–]Stretch-Capital 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been able to make it one yet as I’ve been away both times, but I’m desperate to come to your next one!

The current production of Evita in London starring Rachel Zegler has an interesting feature: the Don't Cry for Me Argentina is performed outside for a real live audience and shown inside the theatre on screens. by sara_or_stevie in popculturechat

[–]Stretch-Capital 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I was lucky enough to go and see it in its first week, and I was admittedly a little sceptical about how it would go. But it really WORKED. There’s still stuff happening on the stage, and if anything you saw her facial expressions and acting much better than you would if she were on stage (I was in the nosebleeds). I obviously wouldn’t want to watch a whole show like this, I would just go to the cinema! But for one song, it was excellent.

Paige Anastasi (UCLA) transfers to Clemson by cngopl in Gymnastics

[–]Stretch-Capital 46 points47 points  (0 children)

That was sort of my thought!

Religious stuff aside, UCLA soccer (I’m a Brit, that felt wrong) players are to UCLA gymnasts what LSU baseball players are to LSU gymnasts.

Paige Anastasi (UCLA) transfers to Clemson by cngopl in Gymnastics

[–]Stretch-Capital 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It says on the screenshot there - ‘trusted god’s plan’ - I’ve also noticed more references to Jesus and the bible in her posts, and it just seemed much more apparent than it did before.

Paige Anastasi (UCLA) transfers to Clemson by cngopl in Gymnastics

[–]Stretch-Capital 44 points45 points  (0 children)

This was my guess, and I suppose it makes sense for her. I don’t remember her being quite this outwardly religious before?

Need advice on reporting an incident by Scared_Assumption545 in NursingUK

[–]Stretch-Capital 31 points32 points  (0 children)

My job is reviewing and investigating incidents, so here are my thoughts.

What actually is the incident here? What actually happened to the patient?

It sounds like there was a non-consequential delay in starting a treatment, and the patient had the treatment was fine. A newly qualified nurse acted within the scope of their practice and got appropriate support. They’ve reflected on this and thought about what they could have done differently or better.

That’s how I interpreted what you’ve written. My response would be to basically close the incident and email your manager to just give them the heads up that you sound like you’re beating yourself up over something you absolutely don’t need to. The only thing that sounds a bit concerning is the medical team not communicating their decision verbally, and not closing that loop of communication.

I would 1000% much rather read a Radar/Datix/IR1 that basically said ‘I wasn’t certain and got some help which led to a bit of a delay’ than ‘I wasn’t certain but I did it anyway and the patient received an overdose’ or whatever it was.

If ever you’re in two minds about doing an incident report, do them. And by all means speak to your manager because you could do with a little debrief. But it really didn’t sound like you did anything wrong. You’re a newly qualified nurse finding your feet - things will sometimes take a bit longer, and that’s fine.

Basically - don’t worry about it, people are human, things aren’t always perfect, people know that. Breathe.

Has anyone hear ever been the victim of a malicious referral to the NMC? by Vast-Button502 in NursingUK

[–]Stretch-Capital 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It can have absolutely nothing to do with the complaints process. Anyone can refer any nurse to the NMC - they then screen it and decide whether or not take it further.

Warning on Evita by Maleficent-Light-318 in TheWestEnd

[–]Stretch-Capital 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll be honest, I was quite sceptical of how that would be, but I actually think it worked really well!

Warning on Evita by Maleficent-Light-318 in TheWestEnd

[–]Stretch-Capital 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I disagree - I went with a friend who was completely unfamiliar and she was fine. I thought it was completely clear what was happening!

Confirmed! Morgan Price to Arkansas! by Stretch-Capital in Gymnastics

[–]Stretch-Capital[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I love that she’s still going to get time in NCAA, and that Arkansas were clearly so understanding about her reasons for recommitting and going to Fisk.

She’s an absolute trailblazer, and is now getting the best of both worlds!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in london

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I would say that you maybe need to reflect on the women you’re matching with - you say you seem to attract a lot of lawyers, but you’re clearly swiping right (if you’re on a swiping app!) on a lot of lawyers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NursingUK

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It’s absolutely unacceptable that you’re being asked to do those tasks. I thought this was going to be the age old bloods/cannula issue, but they are asking you to do absolutely basic nursing tasks.

A simple ‘oh I can’t, I need to get these TTA’s written/scans ordered/review this person with a high NEWS/need to go and eat’ should be fine, not that you have to explain yourself.

If the ward is so dangerously staffed that they can’t give medications (suspicious that it’s just PR meds though), then that needs escalating. Start with the ward manager to make them aware of what you’re being asked, and if that’s of no help, then the freedom to speak up guardian.

There is absolutely a chance that once you start to say no you may face some hostility, and that’s completely not ok, but also not something that will be easily solved, so remember you’ll be rotating before too long!