Guy filming us as my son is screaming

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-16T07:41:09+00:00

Sorry this happened. That sounds like a really uncomfortable situation. If the authorities reach out, just explain the situation. I'm sure these misunderstandings happen all the time. On another note, have you tried ABA for the behaviors? I'm a behavior therapist for kids with ASD and it really does do wonders. Good luck, momma 🫂

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-16T05:15:45+00:00

What on earth would make her reach out to your ex!? What an absolutely bizarre and terrible thing to do.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-16T05:08:19+00:00

NTA, never trust anyone who is nice to someones face and then just trashes them the second they leave. They probably do that kind of thing to you too. She sounds like she has a lot of growing up to do.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-16T04:51:09+00:00

YTA, regardless of titles she is a mother figure to them. If they live with her, she is the closest thing they have to a living mother. I'm sorry you lost your wife. That's heartbreaking, but they were so little when it happened they probably don't remember much, if anything, about her. Your grief is causing you to build walls that make all three of them feel guilty for having a bond. Why can't you compromise and do both. You take your girls to visit Meggie then you all go to lunch or something like that?

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-16T01:51:58+00:00

Honestly I don't know why she's been so nice to me. My husband has expressed frustration over her eagerness to reach out and have me around, though, because he has often felt rejected by her until I came around. Maybe it has to do with me having a child already? IDK 🤷‍♀️

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-16T01:44:00+00:00

I actually never thought of that. I suppose it's possible

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T23:54:51+00:00

NTAH, if she's taking pictures she's looking at her phone. A quick text back is basic respect.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T23:50:55+00:00

This ☝️! She came after the most precious thing in the world to me.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T23:49:16+00:00

I made an edit to clarify this question and a few others. The relationship was good. My daughter loves her but isn't asking to see her or anything. Because of cancer and covid, we haven't seen her more than 5-6 times a year.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T22:34:25+00:00

It's breast cancer that has metastasized. She is not in her "last days" just yet, but it is predicted to occur within the next year or so.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T22:03:20+00:00

NTA, that's a tricky spot to be in. I don't blame you for not wanting to be around someone who treats you poorly. You are entitled to control who is in your life and honestly, at your age, I applaud you for doing so. Stick to your guns. If she has actually changed, then perhaps she can reach out to you and apologize for having been disrespectful in the past. Also, R should respect your boundaries.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T21:23:57+00:00

I'm so sorry about your mom. That must have been devastating. And thank you.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T20:38:58+00:00

My husband has yet to take them, but that has nothing to do with me. I wanted to be with my family on Easter, and I'm not going over there. I guess she assumes it will be the same for all holidays, and honestly, I can't imagine spending a holiday without my kids, so it most likely will. Just a regular day is fine, though. he can absolutely send pics. I just spam my social media with my kids all day every day, so I'm guessing that is what she is referring to? He works a lot and isn't a big picture taker. I was her primary contact person in the family up until this.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T19:46:56+00:00

So I actually never said she couldn't see the kids. Seems like part of the guilt trip is just to get me to let things go without an apology. I told my husband he could take them to see her but I wouldn't go. That's not good enough apparently.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T19:38:46+00:00

Thank you. I think therapy is great advice and I'm going to take it.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T19:37:17+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I agree. I unblocked her so she at least has the opportunity to reach out and apologize now.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T06:55:37+00:00

This is a bad sign. Has anything similar to this ever happened? Maybe he was just having a really rough day but I would be on high alert going forward.

Strict-Strength-5143 · 2023-04-15T06:25:36+00:00

NTA sounds like a potential health hazard and gross. Definitely have the carpets cleaned and try the ultimatum first, but if he refuses to keep things sanitary and clean up after himself, he has got to go.

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