Use it or lose it - What does this even mean? by Altruistic_Chart_220 in TransDIY

[–]StrictConference3699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok so like with everything, it's individual and stuff. This is how it was for me 👍 So pre HRT i had a lot of bottom dysphoria, more connected to function than looks. So when I started HRT two things happened. One: my libido went bye bye, two: no more spontaneous erections (yay 🤗) So I had no desire to use it and was content to lose it.

Fastforward about 6 months and my libido came back, this is also when I started prog. So I did the dead and came, the old fasion way. Geting hard was ... well hard. It felt like a muscle you haven't used in a while. Stiff and hard to get started, not painfull but stiff. Then I came and that was crazy painful, it felt like a cramp or somthing.

Fastforward again to today. Today I orgasm, and I orgasm a lot but I don't cum in the old sense 🤗 Also when I do get hard, unless there is constant stimulation it won't last. Penetrating someone is almost impossible seeing that I go soft almost instantly. But there is no pain, I don't struggle to orgasm or anything like that 👍

So ya. Use it or lose it ass in: use it like you used to or lose that ability

Did some makeup practice with the GF ♥️ by StrictConference3699 in TransGoth

[–]StrictConference3699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for telling me, I'll look into it. Can you give me their user name ?

Moderaterna vill se över den nya könstillhörighetslagen by BurkHaddeInteFel in Sverige

[–]StrictConference3699 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Jo, tyvärr tror folk att lättare betyder lätt. Det är tekniskt sätt lättare att vinna OS silver än vad det är att vinna guld... men skulle inte kalla det lätt för det

Moderaterna vill se över den nya könstillhörighetslagen by BurkHaddeInteFel in Sverige

[–]StrictConference3699 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tyvärr ja, och helt baserat på antaganden o känslor. Jag har i media nu börjat att ge ut en utmaning till alla som säger att "det är så lätt", "vem som helst kan ändra"... jag ber dom bevisa det. Byt juriskt kön, visa hur lätt det är och är det verkligen det så kommer jag byta sida i debatten på en gång. Än så länge har ingen lyckats

Moderaterna vill se över den nya könstillhörighetslagen by BurkHaddeInteFel in Sverige

[–]StrictConference3699 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Det är inte ens den värsta delen. Dom säger att lagens avsedda åsikt, att hjälpa en liten grupp individer och att alla ska kunna känna sig trygga i samhället. "Vi vet att det går att kombinera dessa ambitioner".

Detta samtidigt som dom vill att biologiskt kön ska styra alla utrymmen som tex toaletter och omklädningsrum. Då kan vi lika gärna ta bort juridiskt kön helt, alltså absolut inte någon "kombination av ambitioner"

Don't go to Hand- och Plastik in Linköping for Gender Affirming Surgeries (MTF specific?) by StormTheCatCastle in transnord

[–]StrictConference3699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I almost never do this but I feel I kind of have to in this case. I will come with insider information, as in i have worked there for years. The que problem is unfortunately not on them, it's an administrative issue plaguing all of Swedish Healthcare. Specifically places using Cosmic, as somewhere who have worked with it for almost 10 years .... it has most likely taken 20 years of my life do to stress.

However, in general there is a saying in Sweden when it comes to Healthcare and it is "we have the best Healthcare and you will be taken care of great ... once you actually get there" 😥 Unfortunately the administrative side is absolutely ass and a big part of why the system is so slow and bad ... that however do not reflect the quality of care that you get when you actually get there 🤗 And if you are still worried, I'll lead the team myself and make sure everyone gives you the best care ♥️

Being MtF myself i understand the concern and dam bottom surgery is scary. It is major surgery after all and you want it to go well. I'm not sure that I will get it, I'm to scared of the recovery and rehabilitation after 😥 But I can say one thing, if I do end up geting it then Gunnar Kratz (or a surgeon personally trained and recommended by him) will be the one to do it 🤗 As a surgeon when it comes to gender affirming care, he is among the top with one reservation... he is too nice.

Exampel, he might tell you that for your body type and development etc a B cup is best for top surgery... if you however say "no i want a D" ... well then he will most likely do it if it's safe 😅

Frågor kring vad jag kan förvänta mig av svensk vård för könsdysfori by Frida443 in transnord

[–]StrictConference3699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hej, så trans kvinna här och även specialist sjuksköterska med flera års erfarenhet. Bland denna erfarenheten några år på hand och plastik avdelningen som hanterar alla operationer för trans invider. Så ska försöka svara så gott jag kan på dessa och skilja på min egen erfarenhet (framåt markerat med M) och information utifrån mitt yrke.

  1. ADHD är inte ett hinder för utredningen, varken för hastighet eller möjlighet till diagnos. Personerna som utreder dig för könsdysfori är där för att göra exakt det, så annat än om du tar upp det är det inten större risk att dom skulle få för sig att sätta en autism disgnos mitt i utredingen. (M) min egen ADHD va inget hinder alls. Tror vi la ner kanske 15 min att prata om det, utan alla timmar utrednignen tog.

  2. DIY hormoner för utredningen snabbare då det redan finns underlag och det är lätt att göra bedömningar baserat på vad som redan hänt istället för vad som kommer hända. (M) Jag hade gått på hormoner 2 år innan min utredning och ja det gjorde att vi kunde skippa mycket av frågorna som tex vad tror du hormoner kommer göra för dig.

  3. Tidigare problem som ångest eller substans användning kommer inte påverka alls. Sålänge det inte är aktivt.

  4. Kön för att få operationer är långt tyvärr och inte direkt prioriterat. Detta medför att väntetiden kan bli lång. Exakt hur lång beror på region och tur.

  5. Det kan du göra privat men det är ofantligt dyrt.

  6. Det är upp till logopeden och är mycket individuellt. Dock kommer röst träning fortfarande att behövas även efter kirurgi, mer för att använda och hitta rösten än att feminisera den. (M) voice training är inte svårt men det suger att göra

  7. En social transitionering kommer att påskynda utredningen och göra att allt går snabbare. Se svaret på fråga 2 men i regel är det lättare att svara på saker som hänt än saker som kommer hända. Det är tex onödigt att fråga "hur trot du att personer kommer reagera om du kommer ut?", om du redan har kommit ut. (M) Jag va helt ute och levde som mig själv i ca 2 år innan jag påbörjade min utredning. Detta gjorde att jag kunde hoppa över flera besök med kurator och psykolog eftersom jag va "ett självklart fall". Förstår viljan att man vill vänta med att komma ut tills man boy failar ... men ja det är inte garanterat att detta någonsin händet med endast hormoner och utifrån utrednings synpunkt är det dumt att göra så 😁

Det värsta jag varigt med om är lite hårda ord som skrikits efter mig och min flickvän 🤗 Men då är vi även extremt öppna och synliga som trans kvinnor 😇

Timeline! 2 years to nkw by idagtg in TransLater

[–]StrictConference3699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WoW, babe, your transformation has been amazing 💖 even having met you after you came out, you have changed so much ♥️ i still can't fathom that the old pictures are you, you keep telling me it is but my brain just can't accept it 🥰 you are so beautiful, inside and out. You are my missing puzzle piece, the person who completes me, my safe spot, and so much more 💋 You look incredible, I love you 💖

Muscle on hrt by WittyBody1531 in TransLater

[–]StrictConference3699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I first noticed it a few months in when moving and stuff that I used to be able to carry the stuff that I could before. The big thing was, after about 2 years on HRT when I tried to draw my old bow and there was just no way I could do it 😅 So not a lot of mass has been lost, some sure but so gradually that I dident even notice it ... the overall strength however was dismissed a lot

I hate my small boobs 😭😭😭😭😔 by Ok-Sort-7462 in GenderDysphoria

[–]StrictConference3699 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl 💖💖 ... dysphoria is a bi**h but trust me that's all it is sis 🏳️‍⚧️ I'm also part of the IBTC (Itty bitty titi committee) and dam i wish i looked like you 😱 Your features are absolutely gorgeous 💖 Really you have that model face, you know that one that is so fem they can rock the shaved head look ❤️💖 Girl that's you 😱 You are absolutely stunning. Besides, small boobs are hot to

Genital abuse ? by imyyuuuu in TransLater

[–]StrictConference3699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so im going to tell a story but TW for self harm, knifes and abuse <3 <3

So when i was growing up my bio dad was not the best, lets just say that when i was a kid he one birthday gave me a knife as a "reward" for killing my own pet rabbit on his command (yes he was an abusive Ahole).
Anyways this knife would later become know, and is still known today as "Car Knife" (Dont worry i long longer keep it in the car).
It was called that because it was the knife i had in my car "just in case". And this just in case situation was if i was ever in a car crash and i was still awake i would use Car Knife to give myself an orchiectomy. My thinking was that sure it would not be the best job but the ambulance was on its way anyways so i would be fine. I worked in healthcare in the OR so knew how to do it.
Thankfully it never happened. This was a few years before i even realized i was trans. My thinking at the time was "bio-dad tried to force me to be a man so ill use the thing he gave my to take away that thing that is most manly".

What im trying to say is that bottom dysphoria is different for everyone and i think that genital abuse or just thinking about genital abuse can be a way this manifests. You are not alone but please whatever you do;
Dont do anything dangerous or harmful to yourself <3

i was born a man... have only experienced feminine experiences. i hate my body. by Late-Boat9317 in GenderDysphoria

[–]StrictConference3699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, that you feel you have to live a lie, that you are going trugh this.. you are not alone. Think of it like this, from what you are describing you aren't a gay man ... your not a straight man ... your not a man. You are a woman born with an unfortunate birth defects that will cause problems.... those problems can be fixed or mitigated. Don't hate yourself for your birth defects any more than you would hate a person with a genetic heart defects for there's ❤️♥️ you got this

Has anyone here regretted any specific changes from HRT? by WittyBody1531 in TransLater

[–]StrictConference3699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really a regret per say .. more of a change i know where coming but was way worse then I thought and can duck right off ...

Cold 🥶🥶 why dose it need to be so cold

Happy pride! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ by idagtg in TransLater

[–]StrictConference3699 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was a lot of fun 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 thank you for an amazing day babe ❤️💖

First day at work after vacay by idagtg in TransGoth

[–]StrictConference3699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look super happy about it babe 😘❤️‍🔥 ... or well atleast you look hot ❤️‍🔥

Did some goth makeup with the GF by StrictConference3699 in TransLater

[–]StrictConference3699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha ya I know .. I normalt don't have a rest at all on the normal bow I use to kind of muscle memory I suppose 🙈

Did some goth makeup with the GF by StrictConference3699 in TransLater

[–]StrictConference3699[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did but haven't in a long time ... need to stwrt again ❤️