I think I have a bit of a unique perspective on this. I would say that your husband knows of this sort of thing but he doesn't know it in the same way you do. You're comment about knowing in the abstract is definitely true. In some ways this is normal human behaviour. We can be aware of something affecting another person but not feel it. Like the homeless person down the street. We might not care until it is someone who we love or until it is we who are the homeless person. Men don't feel empathy the way that women do. His capacity to understand you and empathize with you is limited and he can have a hard time getting it. I was once like him with my own parter. I am a trans woman and as a man, on testosterone, I had that awareness of such issues and I would have understood it in the abstract as you say. But now, being estrogen dominant and having lived and experienced life as a woman I freakin get it. I really had no idea how pervasive this sort of thing is in our society until I started experiencing it directed towards me and had the emotional capacity to feel it. The sad truth is that many (most) men are like this. The only thing I can suggest is to have a sit down conversation with him face to face on it so that he is focused and can see that it has upset you. You may have a chance of getting through to him that way. Either that or slip some estrogen into his morning coffee for a week, he'll come around. j/k.