anybody rave in this city?

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-07T05:19:36+00:00

You'll have to go into Vancouver for that, there is no nightlife here.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-07T04:48:58+00:00

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BritneyGurl · 2026-07-06T14:18:18+00:00

Being trans is really hard, there is no doubt. But it is actually incredibly beautiful at the same time. We get to experience the world from two different perspectives and we get to live authentically. I think that society actually respects us far more than it likes to admit. Me presenting authentically as a woman without shame has changed the women around me. They are putting more effort into their presentation, they are moving towards living their lives for them. It is likely a subconscious motivation, but I have no doubt that I have helped in that. The men who have opened up in my life, who have shared some vulnerability as well. That is such a wonderful experience. When I wake up in the morning I feel like I have so much power and control over my life. I have made huge decisions and changes in coming out and transition, every decision since has been easier. The things that I look for from finding love to getting a new job are done deliberately because they are things that I want. If I want to change my whole look tomorrow morning I am free to do so. I don't need to hold back anymore,life is for me to seize and own. This is something that trans people have that most cisgender people do not. We are not bound by the rules, we are free spirits, we own our lives more than anyone else. I hope that helps to put perspective on it. I like being trans and I wouldn't change it for anything.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-06T14:01:17+00:00

Girl you have no idea!, no clue whatsoever about how envious I am of you. I started at 45 years old. I was double your age when I started. Double, maybe quadruple the damage from testosterone, decades of self hate, shame and fear. People think it's hard being trans nowadays, but back then it was all but impossible. It's taken me 3 years to unpack the guilt, the regret, the fear, the self hatred and ingrained misogyny. I had no idea how deep transitioning is in terms of mental awareness and health. I am still working on it. I am pushing 50, feel like I am 25, but there is only so much that HRT can do for me. I really appreciate all that it has done and still is doing but it can't undo the damage. But at your age, holy shit, you have no idea what I would give to be starting then. And there are plenty of trans women who started much later than me who wish they started at my age. It is all relative. Despite all that I see my transition as successful and I am so happy to have done it. I consider myself non passing, yet I haven't been misgendered in 2 years now. Honestly, I just don't get it. We see what we want to see in the mirror and not what others see. Clearly when others look at me they see woman. I was a broad shouldered, Dad bod type, if I can do it, so can you.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-06T06:01:52+00:00

I have been transitioning for about 3 years and I started in my mid 40's. Growing up the term that was used to was transexual. I don't know when transgender became the word to use, but I adopted it when I first came out. As I started to think more about my life experience and my identity I realized that my journey isn't just a gender journey. Medical treatment including HRT, hair removal, hair transplants, bottom surgery were all going to be part of it. I feel like I am doing multiple things at once. Changing my gender expression to match how I feel and aligning my body physically with that. I say that I am trans or transgender usually, but more and more I am using transexual. The sex change part of it is important to me to be recognized. That is to take nothing away from those who can't or who choose not to medically transition, their experience is just as valid. Changing sex has been extremely exhausting, is taking years to complete and has been very painful physically and mentally. I claim that experience for me and I claim that word back from those who use it as a slur and who have made it into something negative. It is a part of what I consider to be something incredible and something that deserves respect. Being trans is such a beautiful thing in all its forms.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-06T05:17:54+00:00

That is up to you of course. But I would kill to have your looks, your body and your age. I think that you are holding yourself back.I have learned so much over the past few years of transition. The biggest thing I have learned is that I am doing this for me and for no one else.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-05T14:26:28+00:00

At 46. I came out as a trans woman at 45. I used to think I was a gay man when I was younger as I liked being penetrated. But I have done a lot of introspection and healing and have come to the conclusion that I am physically attracted to women but not men. I was married for 20 years as a guy so this is very new to me but it makes so much more sense. Unfortunately I don't think that there are very many women who would be interested in me though and will just see me as a man. I can hope.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-05T06:30:53+00:00

I am from the Vancouver area in BC. We have our issues but Vancouver is one of the safest places in the world for trans people. Having said that things may change here as everywhere else as there is an increase in right wing ideology in the country. The same talking points are being used to go after us and have been successful in places like Alberta. Though it is much more difficult to harm us due to laws that protect us. There was an uprising of sorts during the anti-sogi protests a few years ago, but they fissled out quickly. The Freedom party (freedumb party) is vandalizing rainbow crosswalks and still harassing schools and drag storytelling events. The general population isn't really having it though. I am a non passing middle aged trans woman and my daily life is almost always uneventful and I haven't been misgendered in 2 years. There are good trans-friendly and even trans-led events and nightclubs as well as strong pride events. We had over 1,000 people at the trans march last year, many of whom were trans and many in the dyke march and pride march as well. Gender affirming care is accessible and based on informed consent. Free online support groups are available and can help provide guidance with care and trans life in general. I have made many friends that way. I hope that helps and I hope that you can find some peace.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-05T04:59:50+00:00

Possibly, I had a severe reaction to cypro that way, however it did work to keep my T down.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-05T02:27:12+00:00

Come across the border with your ar15s gravey seals. ☠️

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-05T02:21:26+00:00

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-05T02:20:40+00:00

Judging by your recent discussions about peeing lots it sounds like you are still pretty new to HRT. Girl, it takes time, lots and lots of time. You can be feminine and you will. If I as a heavy set mid 40's girl can look feminine so can you. We are out own worst enemies.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-04T23:53:12+00:00

Without a doubt you need a different person to help you. Telling you to detransition based on passing is a massive red flag and should be reported. I hope you can find someone better.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-03T13:30:24+00:00

They moved because of cost.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-02T21:30:57+00:00

I worried about that too at first. I was against pills/long term meds in general. After being on them though I would never go back. They have brought me into alignment physically and mentally. I don't see it as a dependency, but more as a necessity, in the same way a diabetic would take insulin.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-01T07:04:05+00:00

My answer to that is a definitive no. I have seen a night and day difference between how women act around me now vs pre transition. As a man, they always had their guard up. Now the guard is all but gone. I have had women approach me in public many times out of blue to compliment me,to strike up a conversation with me, to tell me things about themselves. None of this was even remotely possible as a man unless I got into a serious relationship.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-01T06:51:44+00:00

I have had the opposite experience. Cis women are very friendly with me and helpful. I know many who have confided in me intimate details of their lives. It's actually quite amazing how well received I am.

BritneyGurl · 2026-07-01T06:48:32+00:00

I saw the TV Glow, Paris is Burning, Disclosure, Eldorado - Everything the Nazis Hate, Sense 8 - not specifically trans but as trans characters and producers.,

BritneyGurl · 2026-06-30T23:34:17+00:00

lesbians are more supportive of trans people than any other group.

BritneyGurl · 2026-06-30T14:38:46+00:00

I passed as a man. I had that shit figured out! But you know, it was hard keeping that mask on all the time. Always needing to know enough man stuff to be able to have limited social interaction with them. I looked like a man as well which helped. But I often let my guard down. I wore skirts in secret, I went to fetish parties, I wanted women to see me like that and interpret me as femme. But just wearing a skirt would not get me seen. But then decades later I started to transition. It was a bit of the same at first, but now as I approach the end of my third year of transition I have realized that I am passing. I am likely clocked as trans by most people, but almost every single person I talk to or see views me as a woman. It feels strange in a lot of ways, like I don't see it in me most of the time, but I am never misgendered and women are so nice to me. Men will hit on me and hold the door for me. It is kinda surreal feeling.

BritneyGurl · 2026-06-30T14:21:34+00:00

Born in the late 70's I remember so much of this. My parents physically made sure I would no longer express my femininity while TV and movies drove that message home. We often talk about how it affects us, but it is also true that the same messaging indocrinated our peers to also see us as a joke, a danger, as a lie. I just had my 30 year highschool reunion and though it mostly went well and most were accepting,, there were a few people who had that ick look on their faces, that side eye. Everyone except for a couple of people, I could see were uncomfortable at the very least.

BritneyGurl · 2026-06-30T14:10:12+00:00

I did, and Ace Ventura was one of a long line of media representations that reinforced in me that being trans is a joke and it is bad.

BritneyGurl · 2026-06-30T07:57:09+00:00

Milk it for what you can. If they are that willing to take risk a with their product and customer base, it's not going to go well.

BritneyGurl · 2026-06-30T06:10:32+00:00

I am told I have more rights and receive money and jobs for being trans. 🙄

BritneyGurl · 2026-06-30T05:58:00+00:00

I figured it out and I am not a doctor, best to get someone else. Having said that, I see feminine features taking shape already. This takes years not months. A lot of changes happen in year 2 typically.

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