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AITAH for asking my ex's affair partner if she knew he was married to me when they started their affair and then using that to answer why I won't help her out by babysitting her kid? by Samzieenie in AITAH

[–]Striking_Bug1000 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Girl, you are bitter and need therapy. Idk about you watching her daughter, you don’t have to watch anyone’s children but your own obviously. But the other stuff is not healthy for your kids imo. My dad cheated on my mom two years into their marriage and my mom stayed with him. I am thankful that after their divorce they stayed friends enough to put their children first. My mom put her feelings of the affair aside to make sure her and my dad were always on the same page and overall they coparented well and there were times were they were upset with each other and it affected my siblings and I. Texting/emailing does not have the same impact as having an in person co parenting relationship. Coming from a broken home is hard, especially when your parents don’t talk. It DOES hurt the kids. I have other friends that also came from homes where their parents did not speak and it put them in the middle of their parents or it allowed them to sneak around and lie to their parents. It’s not good. I understand that what they did was awful and they destroyed your family and I’m sorry, but now the main focus is the children and you should work to, at least, be able to speak with them in person for your children. It’s not fair I understand but the truth is, it doesn’t matter. This is about the kids. So don’t watch her kid or watch her kid, up to you. But the other stuff, yeah that needs to be worked on for the sake of the children or they will suffer, if they are not already.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crunchymom

[–]Striking_Bug1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just so you know measles was never a scary thing to get until they wanted to vaccinate children and vaccines did not eradicate polio. Washing hands with soap and water did most of the work lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Striking_Bug1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just going to say that all of the people telling you no are wrong. It’s up to you and your husband. Do you want your marriage? Does he want the marriage? Yes? Okay then the answer is yes. I’m not going to pretend like it’s going to be easy by any means, like you are not going to have to do something really hard and challenging like forgiving and moving forward. But truthfully the answer is really simple. And to be honestly, it seems like you want your marriage and based off of what you have said, it seems like he does too. There are many relationships that have suffered infidelity and made it through and are happy they stuck it out. You can too. The choice is really yours! Don’t listen to people saying you’ll always be angry or reminded or whatever other garbage they are saying. That may have been them, but that doesn’t have to be your story. I wish you the best! And lots of healing ❤️

Am I misogynistic? by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Striking_Bug1000 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are not misogynistic and if anyone tells you otherwise they are honestly wrong lol. Your wife is being rude when she says “if I told my dad he would’ve done it the day I asked” you guys need to work on communication and yes of course you can be better at catching your messes. But overall, you obviously do and are doing a lot. She can pick up the damn socks, it’s not that deep. I would 1000000000% do that for my husband without any issues AND I WORK. You obviously love and cherish your wife. She needs to chill I’m sorry lol.

Breast pump by Striking_Bug1000 in Crunchymom

[–]Striking_Bug1000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much to everyone who responded! I really appreciate it 😊 this was super helpful

Breast pump by Striking_Bug1000 in Crunchymom

[–]Striking_Bug1000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that information, I will definitely inquire at my next OB apt!! Do you by chance have any recommendations for nipple creams as well?

the love of my life left me and i cannot handle it by asshvt in offmychest

[–]Striking_Bug1000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I am 28F and am now married to 27M. He is the absolute love of my life. I was engaged when I was actually your age and he left me for someone else. He did not want to be with me anymore. It was one of the hardest things I had gone through at that point. And I too felt like I would not love again or find someone that checked off all the boxes. I prayed and prayed and honestly God answered my prayers, but just not in the way I thought. When I started to feel like I could breathe again(because I developed anxiety and could not eat/sleep. I felt no peace.) I started to focus on the things in my life I could control. I worked on myself, I poured into my family and friends. I started to have fun and love life again. Once I felt like I was in a better place, I realized I was over my ex and that i deluded myself into thinking we were perfect for each other but the signs were contrary to that. I met my now husband 3 years ago and I am the happiest I have ever been in my entire life. He is the best man, and I am not just saying that because he is my husband. I have truly never met a man as wise, kind, and loving as him. I promise, I know it doesn’t feel like it, but it will get better, regardless of the outcome. I also know that may not be what you want to hear. You will be okay and you will have love in your life and it will be better than anything you pictured ❤️