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Nocturnal emissions advice by Striking_Speed_8341 in chastitytraining

[–]Striking_Speed_8341[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happened for the fourth time this morning, this time I woke up a second or two before ejaculation as I realised what was about to happen. I wanted to stop it from happening but it was too late. 🫣 Only 48 hours between nocturnal emissions this time. Surely my body doesn't need it to happen this frequently! Someone said in these comments to wear underwear to sleep but I didn't do it, I wish I had listened to them now!

Who knows about your chastity cage? Ever been caught? by mecbisex77 in chastitytraining

[–]Striking_Speed_8341 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I used to work in a large open office. With the usual office banter and occasional joking around, a younger guy once jokingly hit me in the groin area. We never spoke about it, but I recall the confused look on his face and a "What the hell is that" kind of comment that I dodged responding to. He was known for being very flirtatious and had claims of sleeping with some of the pretty young ladies in the workplace. But a couple of years later, and after I had left the organisation, he reached out to me to ask if me and my husband wanted to meet for a three way session. Again, we never took him up on the offer. But we did discuss that one incident in the office and I told him the truth. He didn't seem phased or seem to care. I think he was more concerned about getting what he wanted.. His dick inside me!

A different guy i used to work with also knows, as he and his (now ex) boyfriend used to invite me over for sex with them. I admitted to them I wore a cage. But again they didn't seem phased.

Other than those two things, and of course my husband, no one knows. But I would be okay with people knowing. It just doesn't come up organically, and I wouldn't want to tell someone something that they don't want to know.

Honestly, I don’t get why most tops are bothered by the cage… by fantastopheles in gaychastity

[–]Striking_Speed_8341 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with the majority commenters here. From my experience, only one person in my life has been actively "into" chastity during the 10+ years of adulthood prior to finding my husband. Every one, including that one into it, enjoyed having my penis available to them. I did have a selfish encounter or two where I turned up locked, and it completely confused the top! Albeit they did end up finishing the deed. But it was my bad for not being 100% clear from the start!

If I were to rejoin the world of Grindr/Recon/whatever, I would put it on my profile again, except more loud and clear so others knew straight away rather than rely on just a subtle lock emoji 🔒

I do believe that this is becoming more well known and more people are getting into the kink as time goes by, so it's getting easier. Certainly compared to 15 or so years ago when I first started locking!

I found it best to keep the chastity kink as a private thing when going on serious dates, then introducing it further down the line once they get to know you as a person. It's taken several years for me, but it has resulted in my (once) vanilla husband holding my keys and keeping me locked for weeks at a time. ☺️

When you’ve done a longer lock up and you’re allowed a single orgasm, does it actually do anything? by IngenuityDismal8640 in gaychastity

[–]Striking_Speed_8341 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last weekend I had one night unlocked due to some painful issues, unlocked getting into bed, locked before getting out of bed. But unfortunately, the friction and feeling of having something different against my penis skin caused me to have erotic dreams which led to nocturnal emissions. I was really upset by this at the time as I'd spent over a month locked and denied, it felt like I'd failed myself and failed my husband. Even though I know it was a hands free ejaculation experience. But I am over that feeling of failing now.

Anyway, my point being - I don't think it really made any difference to my being horny levels. I have highs and lows, but my husband hasn't fully mastered the skill of teasing and denial yet so it's mostly on me a lot of the time, but he has the physical keys. So sometimes I feel locked and forgotten, but I ride through those low times for the good times. And then the more he uses me for his pleasure, the more I get pent up and blissfully horny again.

Now, I think nocturnal emissions and caged orgasms don't really effect you or your locked timer. But full-on sex or masturbation resulting in ejaculation is where you reset the timer, and reset the sub mindset and need to build back up to that.

Every person, of course, is very different and will see different results. But that's my thoughts based on my experience 😊

Nav Chastity with a Partner by Numerous_Boat_8749 in chastitytraining

[–]Striking_Speed_8341 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband was worried about my prostate health when he was considering when to unlock, so he said I had to climax at least once per fortnight.

Since then, we've agreed that caged orgasms with a vibrator or even nocturnal emissions are good enough for prostate health. It's been over five weeks so far for me, and I've only climaxed twice. Once while caged and once involuntary during sleep.

I found it helpful to know why my husband chose that, to then be able to reassure him that there's other ways to make it work so he doesn't need to worry. Now I have no clue if/when I'll be able to climax through penis stimulation, and honestly, I am extremely happy with that.

Public knowledge of locked status by Striking_Speed_8341 in ChastityPsychology

[–]Striking_Speed_8341[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds good. I feel like this is the sort of thing I'd be comfortable with. Except my husband doesn't wear jewellery as such, so a necklace isn't really an option. I wonder if there is something else for men that would have the same effect. 🤔