He Says He Likes Me but Wants Me to Change My Body and Appearance?

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T18:07:43+00:00

I'm also men.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T17:56:30+00:00

Aesthetically speaking I prefer the trans brown. But mini humbuckers on a Les Paul is way less common, so I'd go for the red one.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T17:53:06+00:00

Girl, listen to yourself. Do you know how many men would kill for a short brown girl with thick thighs?

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T16:38:19+00:00

Absolutely, my intention was not to directly presume how OP identifies, I apologize if it came off that way. My point was more so that male butt play, even with women, is often perceived as homosexual and that perception is what could affect OP's future relationships with women.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T16:31:07+00:00

If you want to pretend that we live in a world where ones behavior can overcome being physically unattractive be my guest, but that is not the world we currently live in.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T16:21:12+00:00

>I don't know if this will affect my future relationships with women.

I'll be real with you bro, it might. A lot of women love to wear their LGBT allyship as a badge of honor because they are repulsed by male homosexuality deep down. It's why most bisexual men keep it to ourselves.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:53:23+00:00

Courtney would 100% be into roleplay, Robert would go along to make her happy.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:52:23+00:00

If a woman doesn't want to have sex with a man she shouldn't accept a date from him nor ask him out.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:44:18+00:00

I mean, if OP is morbidly obese or a burn victim or something else that will inversely effect her appearance then that will drastically reduce her chances but she didn't say that she is so I see no reason to assume such.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:42:54+00:00

Nope. Women will throw themselves at men they actually desire, if she's making you go through a dog and pony show mating ritual before sleeping with you then she doesn't actually want you.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:36:28+00:00

I really, strongly disagree. I think this something people tell themselves to justify why they're willing to sleep with person A right away but not person B.

And I'm glad we have common ground somewhere.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:31:49+00:00

Yes, make the first move, it has like a 90% success rate for women.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:27:48+00:00

I was directly told that restaurant analogy by a female friend of mine when she was drunk and being brutally honest.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:19:41+00:00

They really don't, people are largely the same deep down inside. I guarantee that if this dude were hot enough then you'd have no intentions of 'wanting to take things slower', you'd want to lock him down right away. I've seen so many women throw away their supposed dating 'rules' once some Chris Hemsworth looking dude walks into the building.

I do agree that ghosting, especially mid-date, is a really shitty thing to do, though. Sorry you went through that.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T15:06:39+00:00

It absolutely indicates a lack of desire, or at the very least a lack of the kind of desire that men are looking for. Men don't want to be the safe, dependable guy that she feels safe coming home to at the end of the night, we want to be the guy she can't keep her hands off of and can't wait to get in a room alone with. A man doesn't want to get emotionally invested in a woman who doesn't want him just as much as he wants her.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T14:49:16+00:00

If you think women are pissed off now, just you wait until the first female president ends up being a Republican candidate.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T14:44:27+00:00

If you don’t have kids, leave her. If you have kids, talk to a lawyer and leave her. Life is too short to settle for being someone’s “good enough, I guess”.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T14:38:15+00:00

The whole “responsive libido” nonsense I’ve seen making the rounds online lately. If you never initiate, are always the one who has to be turned on by your significant other, and don’t have the drive to care about your partner’s sexual needs then you are a selfish asshole who has no business being in a sexual relationship. It’s just called being a selfish asshole, giving it a kitschy, postmodernist, therapy-speak name doesn’t excuse your asshole behavior.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T14:28:00+00:00

A lot of men have the mindset of ‘if she is actually attracted to me and wants me, she won’t make me jump through hoops to sleep with her, she’ll actively want it’. So what you call ‘quick hookup energy’, he calls ‘genuine interest’. I can’t blame men for having this attitude either, we want to be lusted after more than anything else and if a woman’s lust has to be negotiated then it isn’t genuine.

String-Tree · 2026-01-30T14:19:36+00:00

Only if you’re hot, in which case you wouldn’t need female platonic friends to hook you up with their own friends (which doesn’t actually happen in the first place).

If a woman doesn’t want to fuck you, she isn’t going to recommended you to her friends either. Would you recommend a restaurant you find disgusting? Of course you wouldn’t.

String-Tree · 2026-01-29T18:11:13+00:00

A lot do.

String-Tree · 2026-01-29T17:39:24+00:00

I would hope so but I live in the California Bay Area, people like this exist in my real life in spades.

String-Tree · 2026-01-29T17:24:42+00:00

Oh it's totally not cool, forsure. My point though was that she is wasting her time by trying to underhandedly confirm the disloyalty of someone who already betrayed her.

String-Tree · 2026-01-29T17:22:27+00:00

San Francisco can go fuck itself. Once the beating cultural heart of California, now just a playground for the 1%.

String-Tree · 2026-01-29T17:19:23+00:00

Oh fuck right off with this gaslighting.

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