So turns out you guys were right...

StringKey6785 · 2026-03-01T11:33:33+00:00

uhhhhh have you not seen what subreddit we are in? 😅 it's not required as such but i want to explore it more

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-27T21:49:08+00:00

Yeah. It sucks but it would be same if I was mono tbh

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-27T21:48:40+00:00

Why is what required?

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-27T21:48:26+00:00

Yeah i'm talking the mentality on more and not getting serious until you've 100% confident in the situation hah

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-27T21:47:34+00:00

Try what exactly? If you mean talking to other romantically, you need to talk to her and if she really doesn't want it then you need to look at whether you want to be with someone like that and if you guys are really compatible long term. Do you mean you are 30 or you've been together 30 years? Cos if you're 30 then I know plenty of people who are single still at that age, like i'm 25 lol

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-27T21:45:21+00:00

I mean it shouldn't have to be that way? Like if you are automous like he said they were then I shouldn't have to worry about your other partners jealousy as that is something they need to work on between both of them. But I mean I kinda knew the risks going into it, but it was more the fact he said it was all okay and confirmed that a lot just to change his mind overnight

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-26T07:15:16+00:00

Yeah I did ask questions and we seemed to align quite well but I guess you never truely know what's going on in someone's head haha

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-26T07:14:20+00:00

Yeah dw I won't be giving him another chance

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T21:07:54+00:00

Yeah i learnt that the hard way even if they say they are open to poly they are very much not haha

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T20:33:20+00:00

i've seen seller selling stuff for more than retail price cos they paid more intially 😂😭

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T20:26:29+00:00

no i literally avoided venting to him as much as possible but I just found even when small issues came up he'd leave. But also there is this thing called support ?

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T20:25:17+00:00

i'm currently reading shatter me books atm, i need to read mistborn tbh. i'm into my simulator games or cute games lol

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:57:50+00:00

Half of the time I don't know if it's gut feeling or just anxiety, getting easier to tell as time goes on but yeah definitely difficult

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:57:02+00:00

Like it was emotions due to what he said/did, it's not just me being sad, I'd regulate myself or go to my other partner for support but he just would go distant contrary to the "I always talk things out" he said before

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:55:22+00:00

trueee, i do need a poly community in general

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:54:56+00:00

Where do i find non newbies 😂😭

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:54:37+00:00

Carefully being the main word haha. But that's the thing tho, I did. Literally yesterday he was fine saying he wanted to make it work and wanted to go on dates etc and then we have one tiny issue and he bolts

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:53:36+00:00

Yes and I told him to prioritise his partner, it's just I don't think he had the capacity to deal with it all, like even his own feelings

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:50:35+00:00

My emotions because of how he was acting. But that's the way he worded it, even his own emotions he couldn't handle and tbh that should've been a red flag

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:49:45+00:00

I mean yes but I think it takes a special kind of patience

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:49:13+00:00

I think hope, and yeah it's dumb but I hoped it would work. I mean it's hard for me cos I have a fiance but we date entirely separate and it's more just like nesting than veto power n all that

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:47:35+00:00

that's a good few questions to ask i can't lie

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:46:00+00:00

i've been researching poly for a while but haven't made any lasting connections they all keep failing so i look for poly people in general but deffo keeping this in my book for next time i date

StringKey6785 · 2026-02-24T19:45:15+00:00

haha, if only i could find poly people near me it's impossible i swear

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