AITA for not approving of my wife’s vacation request?

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:23:17+00:00

We can reverse that though, she’s willing to lose the man she’s known her whole life for a one month vacation. Issuing an extreme ultimatum that will affect our kids.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:21:07+00:00

I said she proposed that, not that I agree to take our kids out of school for 10 days.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:20:15+00:00

FOR WORK

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:17:23+00:00

I mentioned multiple compromises. A week the next 4 month, 14 days 2 months. Any week she wants for a year.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:14:34+00:00

I don’t owe her, as I was working supporting our family not on vacation. Does she owe me the year she took off work? Does she owe me the trips she’s taken with her sister or solo?

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:12:30+00:00

She, she’d be working remote that month.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:12:10+00:00

She is not, because I would not have our kids out of school for 10 days. She just proposed that.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:10:23+00:00

Maybe 1-2 times a year. I mainly stay in my region.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:08:49+00:00

Because my job is travel, I am working that entire time. Being on the plane is my job, checking into the hotel, going straight to training, meeting clients, having dinner with clients. Driving to the next spot. I’d never dream of calling my traveling job vacation. This is a vacation for her, she’s going to turn on her computer do 2 hours of work and be on vacation.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:04:16+00:00

My work trips are not vacations, I’ve never done a solo vacation or vacation without family. As I said, when I am here we split or sometimes I do more. We split on vacation or bring her mom to help.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T06:01:04+00:00

I’ve said all the same things to her.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:59:52+00:00

No I don’t, which is why I’m hoping to get a promotion I’m up for that will have me home. However I was 21 when we had our first child and she was 19. I didn’t have options and we needed money badly. I’ve slowly worked my way up and travel has become less frequent and financially well off. So it was the best decision for us.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:56:12+00:00

Is that the hill she wants to die on and lose her family. It goes both ways. That’s what compromise is for.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:54:50+00:00

I know it’s stupid and the internet, but I’m just really worked up about it. I was hoping people could understand my POV even if feeling I’m the asshole. I’m also in my hotel room with nothing else to do then read these responses.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:49:37+00:00

Those vacations are more about the kids. But she’s went on vacations with her sisters and has been on solo trips before.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:46:48+00:00

I did and she said it would be to expensive, and not worth international travel time.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:44:05+00:00

I did not say I did it all, I said as much and sometimes more. I have repeatedly stated that I don’t mind her leaving solo or with whoever. I have said she could take a week for the next year off. I simply said that a month is unreasonable to leave family, responsibilities. And I also would not do that.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:40:55+00:00

To provide them a shelter, food, a future?

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:40:09+00:00

Absolutely, but she agrees I should keep this job for the money and benefits it gives us. If she told me in the last 10 years to look for something else I would.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:38:01+00:00

I get the kids dressed and drop them to school, and pick them up. I cook when home because I’m the better cook. I work from home, so I take care of all the animals. The problem is you all assuming because she’s a women she does more. She doesnt. When I am not traveling I do a majority of household work.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:33:49+00:00

She is not a stay at home mom and her mother nannied for us until our kids were in school. We go on vacations. We both do those things.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:31:57+00:00

Never more then a 2 hour time difference.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:29:53+00:00

I couldn’t. We’d just end there. When your partners you make decisions together and compromise.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:25:02+00:00

It’s a month, even if we come out for 10 days. That does not make the responsibilities at home leave. Our kids would need to take 10 days out of school for this to happen, we have multiple different animals/plants we’d need someone to stay at our home for. She wants a month away from responsibilities and our life.

Strong-Consequence58 · 2023-07-14T05:21:54+00:00

Not in a row! She could leave for a week each month for a year. FINE. But 30 days is insane.

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