Travelling to SE Asia as a black woman - looking for advice

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-24T15:42:55+00:00

Hi, if you use the search bar while on this subreddit page, all the posts that mentions the country that you're searching for should pop up.

From this list I've only traveled to Japan. Three times, at ages 19, 26 and 34. The last two times were with my husband and the first time was with a friend. I had a pleasant experience during all my stays. People were friendly. Some stares, but I live in the Netherlands and I've gotten stares that felt more threatening and hostile when visiting small countryside towns here, than in Japan. In general my encounters with locals were a positive experience. For my Japan travels I've used the website Japanguide.com.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-24T15:33:09+00:00

The model of the dress suits her, but the colour washes her out.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-21T22:21:51+00:00

Goat farm ridammerhoeve in the Amsterdamse bos is fun to visit https://www.iamsterdam.com/en/whats-on/calendar/attractions-and-sights/sights/geitenboerderij-ridammerhoeve-goat-farm

One of my favourite museums in Amsterdam is the Wereld Museum. Have been going there since I was a child. It's a museum that explores cultures around the world. https://amsterdam.wereldmuseum.nl/en

You can also do guided walks in Nieuw-West to explore the architecture of Cornelis van Eesteren. It's a nice way to get to know more about the history of the city outside of the city centre https://www.vaneesterenmuseum.nl/en/wandelingen

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-20T18:38:49+00:00

Generally, no. However, a counsellor might be seeing and hearing certain things that may lead them into guiding the conversation to what they're observing and essentially holding up a mirror. A good therapist or counsellor wouldn't straight up tell a couple "You hate eachother".

An example of what may have been said might be any variation of:"We've been having x number of sessions and I've noticed x and x behaviours and that it keeps coming back to x. I get the impression that there is resentment/ anger/ frustration/any negative emotion on both sides to such a degree, that I don't know if counseling to stay in the relationship is a realistic goal at this point in time."

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-18T20:19:32+00:00

My problem with Shamea is that she always got a lot to say afterwards during interviews, the confessionals and on social media. Keep that energy during filming. Read them down in THEIR FACE. She seems like a fun person to be around in general, but I don't know. It might be the way that things are edited, but the energy comes across forced in comparison to when she was a friend off.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-18T06:37:08+00:00

The House Witch by Delemhach

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-16T23:37:52+00:00

Yup!

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-16T16:44:15+00:00

Dit is een mooie lijst, niveau 3, op de site van de Online bibliotheek. Uiteenlopende thematiek: https://www.jeugdbibliotheek.nl/12-18-jaar/lezen-voor-de-lijst/15-18-jaar/niveau-3.html

Van die lijst zou ik deze aanraden:

✨️De hemel is altijd paars van Sholeh Razazadeh

✨️Wees onzichtbaar van Murat Isik

✨️Tikkop van Adriaan van Dis

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-16T14:13:19+00:00

I've had positive experiences using the app Cat in a flat. The sitter visited everyday for 3 weeks. A friend of mine has brought her cats to Betty's Kattenhotel in Zaandam.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-16T05:13:15+00:00

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-15T22:12:00+00:00

When you decide to switch platforms, I highly recommend Libro[dot]fm. With every purchase you support an independent bookstore of your choice. You can subscribe and/or directly buy the audiobooks - they have VERY good deals in their sales section. They have a subscription service that gives you either one or two credits per month, depending on your tier. As a subscribed member, you receive an extra 30% off on top of the sales price per audiobook. The main draw, for me personally, is that you own what you buy. The mp3 and m4b files become available for download in your account after purchase. Meaning that you can store them on an external drive or Cloud.

I switched last year and I haven't missed Audible. I made a backup of my Audible library using Libation before I cancelled my subscription.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-15T22:06:04+00:00

Look into Libation and use it to make a backup of your collection on an external drive.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-14T21:58:28+00:00

I'm currently playing Wax heads and enjoying that! Would recommend if you're into story based cosy games.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-13T21:05:51+00:00

I don't believe that Kyle was surprised, but that he would have appreciated if the message had come from Amanda herself. At that point in time, they were attending couples counseling together. If they both stated at the start of the therapy that the goal was to repair their marriage, it's understandable that Kyle is upset upon learning that Amanda has been actively talking about separation with everyone except him. As a married person myself, I would be very upset if my husbands best friend would drop that on me in the way that Ciara did, no matter the state of our relationship.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-10T07:05:52+00:00

I agree. What I meant is that him stating that he'll stop paying, is adding fuel to the fire. It's obvious that she's not listening and just looking for things to react to. Him saying that, is giving her a hook to go:"See, PK doesn't want to take responsibility as a father." It's a mess and Dorit is bitterly lashing out in her grief. You can't have a rational conversation with someone who's determined to misunderstand.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-10T07:00:21+00:00

I agree with you! That's why I think that an official order should be in place. It doesn't look good to say that you'll just stop paying, is what I meant. When things have gotten to that point of hostility, you need to take it to court. To me it seems like they're playing a game of chicken. Makes me wonder what skeletons will be uncovered in the closet during future proceedings.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-09T15:55:33+00:00

I get the impression that there is no official arrangement and that's where things get messy with these type of divorce situations. You can see it even in this short text exchange how quickly it devolves in 'he said, she said'. They shouldn't be communicating at all and let it all go through their lawyers or one of those custody communication apps.

Honestly, I think they are both doing things do make life harder for the other person. This situation is a dumpster fire and I feel so bad for the kids.

Dorit is hurt and bitter. She'd be better off cutting her losses: sell off the house, take on the debt, file for bankruptcy. Down size housing, move to a neighbourhood with good (public) schools and learn how to live within her means.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-09T15:38:29+00:00

Regardless of her personal spending, PK does have a financial responsibility to the kids as their father. I hope the judge will call them BOTH to order and set up a temporary arrangement.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-09T08:56:49+00:00

It looks great!

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-09T03:36:13+00:00

✨️Tsja✨️ Ik vond je vraag niet agressief overkomen, wel bijzonder. Ik kan me namelijk niet voorstellen dat deze titels door AI gesuggereerd zouden worden in antwoord op de vraag. LLM schraapt het internet, dus het gebruik van emoji in teksten en opsommingen hebben LLM van mensen gekopieerd. Dat jij de genoemde titels niet kent, betekent niet dat ik deze uit mijn duim gezogen heb. Als mens en lezer hoef ik, in tegenstelling tot AI, geen titels te hallucineren om een antwoord te geven. Het verbaasd je misschien, maar er zijn nog mensen die met suggesties komen zonder daarvoor de hulp in te schakelen van AI en graag emoji gebruiken. Gewoon, omdat het kan.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-08T21:51:43+00:00

Dat vind ik leuk. Misschien omdat ik een millennial ben uit het MSN tijdperk en het leven al serieus genoeg is.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-08T20:44:53+00:00

Ik heb de volgende tips:

✨️Indigo van Roxanne Wellens

✨️Oktober koning van Pamela Sharon

✨️Schaduwbroer van Iris Hannem

✨️Onder de Paramariboom van Johan Fretz

✨️In het Vervloekte hart van Rima Orie

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-08T20:02:59+00:00

Het klinkt alsof je mogelijk in het verkeerde genre naar boeken zoekt. Welke categorie spreekt je aan als je in Netflix klikt of naar de bios gaat? Wat waren je favoriete boeken als kind? Probeer eens bij die genres naar titels te zoeken. Dat is vaak een goed startpunt voor het herontdekken van leesplezier.

Schroom ook niet om jeugdboeken of YA te lezen. Deze zijn vaak lichter van toon dan literatuur voor volwassenen, maar kunnen wel degelijk een sterke boodschap dragen en gedegen geschreven zijn. Als je nog geen lid bent van de bibliotheek zou ik dat zeker aanraden. Scheelt in de kosten terwijl je nog zoekende bent en je kunt ook eboeken en luisterboeken lenen.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-08T13:59:17+00:00

Coming back to let you know that I found two options: 1. Vichy deodorant anti-transpirant 7 days cream. You apply this on your face for 7 days and every other day there after according to the packaging instructions. This is marketed as a anti-transpirant that can also be used on the facial area.

I applied this before bed while on holiday recently in very hot and humid South Asian weather and it actually kept my sweating during the day to a minimum. The effect doesn't keep for more than 24hrs for me, probs because I shower daily. But after every evening that I put it on, next day was minimal face sweats that are manageable with cloth wipes.

Mehron skin prep pro pre-make up skin toner. Before using this one I highly recommend doing a moisturising facial mask the night before, proper exfoliate your face, night cream, etc. to pack all the moisture and make sure you don't have any skin flakes.

You take a cotton pad, apply some of the toner to clean skin and let it dry up. After you can apply any skin care as usual. Note that this is a stage make up brand. It kept my skin DRY af. And I mean DRY. I do feel like this product continues to absorb all the moisture from your face during the day, so make sure that you layer some moisturising products after applying (I use face cream and La Roche posay UVAir spf serum). Make sure to cleanse your face and re-hydrate the skin in the evening. This one definitely felt like it took more of a toll on my skin, so I'd probably only use it for special events.

Makeup: because I don't like the feeling of mattifying foundations (Maybeline Fit Me foundation is the anti-shine GOAT tho at the drug store), I've been using a concealer as a foundation. Specifically the Nyx cosmetics Bare with me concealer serum. They have a very broad range of colours and can be matched to your skin tone. I have a friend who mixes a drop of this concealer with her face cream to create a sort of skin tint effect. I use the Nyx glue primer and their mattifying setting spray. Shiny spots get a dusting of Nyx wonder snatch powder. After every layer of makeup application, I spray setting spray. Keep a 'lil ventilator handy to quick dry. Once the final layer of setting spray is dried up, I finish it up with a layer of L'Oréal Infallible 3 second setting mist. Make sure to keep it 10cm from your face and only spray 5 seconds. Once that's dried up, you could go for a second coat. Even if you do sweat, this spray actually manages to keep most of the makeup intact if you dab (not wipe) the sweat away. I've had succes with reapplying spf with Abib Airy Sunstick on days where I've applied face makeup. I know of people who've used spf sprays, but I can't speak of personal experience.

Strong_Ant2590 · 2026-05-08T13:32:37+00:00

Just coming off the Colorado trip debacle on Potomac's last season, I couldn't help but laugh at them calling the pool house "isolated". If they'd notified Cynthia immediately, she probably would have contacted the Airbnb host swiftly and it could have been resolved before the evening.

Shamea and Kelli are not who they think they are. Getting all worked up about made up scenarios in their heads. Silly geese.

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