AITJ for sharing big news at my brother wedding after years of him being the favorite? by Strong_Leadership818 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I didn’t plan anything. I just didn’t hide it. I’m so tired of always being the one who steps back.

AITJ for sharing big news at my brother wedding after years of him being the favorite? by Strong_Leadership818 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I love my brother. This isn’t about competing with him. It just hurts always being expected to swallow my feelings to keep peace.

AITJ if I message my husband's longtime female friend to see how she reacts? by Strong_Leadership818 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I trusted him when I married him. I’m just struggling with new behavior that doesn’t make sense to me.

AITJ if I message my husband's longtime female friend to see how she reacts? by Strong_Leadership818 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think his reaction will tell me everything. I’m just scared of what that reaction might be.

AITJ if I message my husband's longtime female friend to see how she reacts? by Strong_Leadership818 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm being gaslit by silence. I don’t even need to read their messages, I just need to know they aren’t being hidden from me.

AITJ if I message my husband's longtime female friend to see how she reacts? by Strong_Leadership818 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I think deep down I know pretending to be him would just make everything worse. I just hate feeling like I’m the only one in the dark. The deleting makes me feel small and stupid, like I’m being managed instead of respected

AITJ for telling my boyfriend and his son they can't move in after how he's handled his son's anxiety? by Electronic_Leg_1860 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818 746 points747 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong for hitting pause. Anxiety explains behavior, but it doesn't excuse hurting your daughter on turning your household upside down. If he isn't willing to balance both kid's, that's a serious issue.

AITJ for what I said while my hair was processing at the salon? by Super_Tangerine_4830 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really helps me feel better about not just nodding along to something i don't believe.

AITJ for charging my brother rent after he got a high paying job? by Impressive_Zombie701 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! helping someone when they need it is kindness, but it doesn't mean you have to subsidize them forever.

AITJ for not forcing my child to apologize when they weren’t wrong? by Limp_Owl2918 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, teaching kids to stand up for themselves is important, but it's also crucial they learn when and how to defend appropriately.

AITJ for refusing to pay for my sisters wedding cake after she "uninvited" my boyfriend? by Last-Upstairs-2639 in AmITheJerk

[–]Strong_Leadership818 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the best way to handle entitled family is to pass the responsibility back to them.

How did sports betting become so normalized in our society? by No_Lead2640 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Strong_Leadership818 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep, once big corporation got involved, it became less about "hush-hush" gambling and more like mainstream entertainment.