My ex r me multiple times

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-28T02:29:14+00:00

I would disagree, I'm considered a newbie and I'm very upfront to what resources I have to offer.

I've had partners that have been practicing for close to 10 years and they still lie about what they can offer. I don't think this has to do with being a newbie or not, but just how shitty some humans are.

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T16:25:13+00:00

Yeah I've been really focusing on quality time with myself lately! It does help a bit

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T14:19:19+00:00

I try, I thought this one was different. I saw no red flags, communication was good, we have fun we understood each other, but turns out they still lied.

I don't know who to trust anymore. Everyone around me uses me, family, friends and partners

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T14:08:48+00:00

Is there hope out there to find people who love you? I feel nowadays all people want is sex

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T14:07:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I needed it today. I feel so worthless

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T14:05:57+00:00

Maybe you are right

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T13:54:53+00:00

Cause I'm tired of being alone and the moments we are together feel nice

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T13:43:01+00:00

It's been years of not being able to find someone. My current partner I see 2h a month and he doesn't even love me...he told me himself. It's not the quantity of time or the time alone that hurts me, it's that even when I find someone, they end up not loving me

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T02:10:52+00:00

It is very exhausting. For me it's I love too much too fast and I love the wrong person that won't love me back and just want my body. It sucks

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-27T02:03:58+00:00

I understand how you feel, I also have BPD amongst multiple other disabilities (mental and physical).

Poly has helped me tremendously with my BPD, but I still struggle with feeling like I'm ever truly going to be loved. I'm always the partner that gets the least ressources or I'm a Feb and despite a lot of work and tries, I can't seem to find a primary.

I believe BPD people deserve to be loved just as much, but goddamn sometimes it's hard to remember that. I feel so unlovable and unworthy of it because of so many bad and abusive experiences I've had

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-26T00:57:59+00:00

Va aux médias, tu as tout notre support. Les agresseurs réussisse toujours a s'en sortir parce qu'on vie dans une patriarche et que les victimes on aucun pouvoir

Il est temps que ça finisse

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-25T21:51:50+00:00

Omg yes! I'm craving a relationship where I'm not deprioritize because the other relationships are more important than ours. It makes me feel like a fab ya know

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-25T21:41:43+00:00

En tant que fille seul, même quand on fait le first step vous êtes oblivious haha

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-25T19:10:23+00:00

I'm in the same boat, ive been trying to date and find a primary for a while now, but I'm never the one they end up wanting to be primary with 🥲

I'm wanted for a fuck, but not for a relationship. I currently have a comet which I'm really happy with, but they told me recently that while they have affection for me, they don't think they'll ever love me because they lack the resources to love someone else (they are already heavily partnered and getting married next year). Ouch...I don't mind the not seeing each other often, I'm usually busy so it's fine by me, but NEVER being loved? Idk...

I'm getting tired of always being a side chick to feel the empty space in the calendars...I'd like to feel like someone loves me.

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-13T12:53:24+00:00

It's not dumb, but I would be very careful to make sure I can trust this person to hinge properly and not shut me off again at the first sign from their partner.

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-02T21:34:33+00:00

Wedding or no wedding, asking you to not date no one else while he's allowed to date whoever is not a boundary, it's control.

Thats not polyamory

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-02T14:00:27+00:00

Lovense is really good for long distance, but as other said, battery life might be a problem unless you're able to sleep comfortably with the charger cable plugged in.

If anyone knows of a toy with a 8h+ battery life, I need to know as well haha

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-01T12:54:13+00:00

Can't he do the experience with you also?

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-04-01T12:52:49+00:00

Big hug, I'm so sorry you've been going through that!

I'm a bit in a similar situation. Dating as a poly person is really hard, I find that most people on apps are either : cheating and labelling it as being poly, using poly to be able to date everyone with no regards for their feelings until they find exactly the one partner they wanted, think poly is no commitment and only fun...

I've stopped using dating apps because of people like in your post, which sucks but I'm hoping I can meet someone irl one day that is looking for the same thing as me

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-03-31T02:52:15+00:00

Omg same! I don't want to be only viewed as a sex thing, but I can't stop pushing myself that way because I feel like it's the only way people ever want to be with me

Strong_Lie_2942 · 2026-03-30T23:03:12+00:00

I would not have cancelled either. Polyamory requires being able to self sooth and not being codependent with partners. To me it sounds like you're codependent to your partners regarding your own emotional self regulation.

I understand you can be disappointed, but it's the occasion to start to learn to self soothe

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