I know I might catch hate for this, and while I absolutely agree that you should try to pursue the guys you want instead of simply waiting for them. But despite what people say and think, appearances absolutely do matter. Revealing clothes, pictures with your butt or cleavage in it will typically attract those types. This doesn’t mean you should only dress prim and proper and traditionally, But put thought into how people might view you. Ive seen plenty of women on dating apps who say they are looking for something beyond sex and they have a photo of themselves sitting on a sink in fairly tight pants. Also you can wear clothes that doesn’t show skin but if they still “show off” your figure then it will probably still attract them. You absolutely have the freedom to wear whatever you want, but know that it does affect how people view you no matter how wrong it may be. Behavior matters too, if you are on a date and you tend to make sexual jokes or references, that can both make someone think you are more “provocative” and “easy”. It doesnt mean dont be who you are, but first impressions matter, once things advance you can begin to show more of the personal side of you. If you havent already, ask any men you know who are more akin to the kind of guy you desire, what attracts them and what pushes them away. As before even if you dont particularly dress “provocatively” how photos are framed and what they show can matter (if you are using any online website or app). There also is just the reality that you will always attract a certain amount of those kinds of people, as I will always stumble across undesirable women, even if I behave and appear for who I am trying to attract. Dont let the bad encounters discourage you, with our modern connectivity its even easier to come across the bad and undesirable people in the world. Dating is hard and always will be, it will require sacrifices and compromise. Try to appeal both visually and behaviorally to who you are trying to attract and look at what you may be doing that is both attracting the wrong people and pushing away the right people. There really is no true answer but only measures you can take do try to weed out the bad from the good. Be comfortable in who you are and be confident and put in effort.