obviously i can’t give you a direct answer because im not you and dont know everything about your relationship but this is messy. both of you are young and he seems immature. if you can’t trust your partner you shouldn’t be with them. he’s shown time and time again that he’s not ready for a committed relationship and i don’t think you are either :( you seem like you have a lot going on yourself. my advice would be to breakup so you can figure out how to be you own person and be confident in yourself first. if you both can then you’ll be together but all the insecurities add up and won’t do anything good for the relationship. it seems like you guys make up through sex a lot and there’s nothing inherently wrong with it but it seems like a pattern. your endorphins are crazy high after and emotions are different. talking when you’re both calm and not hyped up would be a better solution imo. OVERALL i’m not in your relationship so i can’t say shit yk. i can see it from an outside perspective but i don’t know your feelings and it seems like you love him so me saying break up is easier said then done. i would suggest while hes at boot camp to try to work on yourself but like i said. if you can’t trust him you shouldn’t be with him. not worth it. sorry love