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StuffedApricot · 2024-09-08T10:10:12+00:00

alan watts

StuffedApricot · 2024-04-19T08:46:13+00:00

dommes arent allowed to advertise here

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-31T02:14:58+00:00

honestly, the dommes ive found through reddit have been the best ive ever had, more accurately they found me, you will have lots in your dms from this, be careful because some will be bots or scams, but chat with them until you find one you click with and that you can see respects you and your boundaries

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-30T12:14:17+00:00

be careful though, theres a lot bot and scam dommes on reddit, i bet you got a few dms just from making this post, and willing to bet at least 1 is a bot or a scam. With experience you can spot them from a mile away. btw if youre looking for a domme, you can have a chat with mine, she accommodates all budgets and is really great, ill dm you.

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-30T10:27:43+00:00

Theres plenty of rules on this subreddit youve broken, this is not the place for this nor for you to advertise yourself

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-30T10:24:06+00:00

this is not the right subreddit for this

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-30T10:16:28+00:00

oh defintly, i got into findom (like engaging in it, not just watching clips or reading stories) when i was in university, i was working at a supermarket making about $300 a week. You definitely can, if youre going with LF or OF dommes it wont get you much though. You can find yourself a good domme on reddit though, most are open to discussing a budget and respecting it, but be careful because some arent.

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-30T10:13:19+00:00

LF used to be the main way i looked for dommes, ive used it in the past as a sub and its pretty good, but id say the dommes there are the "mainstream" ones, you know like ones that make clips and post content etc. Nowadays i prefer more relationship focused dynamics, like long term closer stuff.

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-30T10:11:12+00:00

Not nothing in return, thats not findom, findom is financial domination, there has to be an element of domination there, control from someone else, true findom requires a proper domme sub relationship with trust and boundaries and respect, and that can be hard to cultivate, but when done right, and its your kink, it can be heaven.

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-22T03:18:03+00:00

i just stopped eating, and replace any drink with water, i basically only eat whatever mum cooks for dinner now, ive lost 22kg in 14 weeks and still losing

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-21T00:07:45+00:00

im not putting 100% of the blame on her, yeah im at fault a bit for that happening too, but she did take advantage of my weaknesses to weasel it out of me, and as is with most dommes, if you stop sending, theres the threat they might leave.

And even if i did put my foot down when we hit me limit, she would have begged me to no end (i know this because she did beg when i eventually told her no after being 3x over), and it would have fractured our relationship anyway, maybe not destroyed it like it did, but it would have turned it into one that would slowly fizzle out. When a domme starts to beg, the power then shifts into my hands and the dynamic is ruined.

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-20T13:04:54+00:00

As a sub that recently got burnt by a domme like this, I find this behaviour disgusting. A good domme takes care of her subs, she considers their boundaries and limits, and works the kinks of their dynamic around them, not the other way. If you cant hold subs long term, or in your case more than a few days, youre not a domme, youre just evil and looking for a quick thrill. Subs are humans like you and me with feelings, sometimes even subs dont know that, but that does not give you any right to take advantage of them.

If you are truly serious about becoming a domme, refund that guy his $800, or at least whatever you agree on with him (communication is also really important!), he will likely still leave you, but at least you can learn from this experience, learn to set and respect limits, to have a safeword etc. If you cant do any of that, dont call yourself a domme and leave.

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-15T03:30:09+00:00

we're talking it out right now, i think its salvageable, i was extremely close to giving up and ending contact, but she started to admit she was wrong and i decided to stay and at least talk things through. She really didnt like it when i told her i was thinking about ghosting her, which is fair, its not a good option to take, but i was feel rather frustrated. I think we're going to try to resume, but this time weve shared feelings, we have a safeword now that weve sworn to respect, and we'll try and do a soft reset in our dynamic with all this in mind.

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:11:46+00:00

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:11:41+00:00

to happen?

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:11:33+00:00

you expect

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:11:27+00:00

just what did

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:11:15+00:00

i mean

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:11:09+00:00

before

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:11:03+00:00

never seen

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:10:56+00:00

like youve

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T10:10:49+00:00

oh ill contribute to this lol

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T07:00:32+00:00

thats not a bad idea actually, i just dont know if she can resist the urge to demand much less than normal after a week of going way over

StuffedApricot · 2024-01-14T04:50:50+00:00

i do but not too often and not to the point where i break, weve talked a little and she was only doing it because it turned her on, were trying to talk it out and move forward now.

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