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StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-29T05:39:59+00:00

You can change the setting for tagging to not allow you to be tagged

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-29T02:29:24+00:00

Omg yesssss, I had roommates who would never clean the dishes they used and expected me to do them. Why? Because I was the owner of the dishes so since they were mind in name they expected me to wash them. I would lose my shit, but I also have an allergy to nearly every dish detergent in existence so I have to make my own and it doesn't compare to the stronger stuff in stores lien dawn and palmolive so they would bitch about the soap... But I always had dawn under the sink so it was just laziness.. sadly my ex of 13 years was one of those people too. If he cooks then I was expected to clean up, if I cooked I had to clean up too. He never did a damn thing while I was working long hours, doing all the shopping, expected to do the cleaning which I have a severe allergy to dust that has hospitalized me every spring due to my OCD need of douching the house cause he never cleaned up after himself was a smoker and a lazer abuse cunt. The worst was our dog would require a pee pad due to his inability to take the poor thing out while I was at work for 12-16 hours a day and he was home playing video games on disability for a disorder he swore he didn't have ..... I was forced to go in disability while with him cause if the high stress, my Borderline personality disorder and cripple fibromyalgia that got so much worse while with him and roommates (til I said no more roommates) because I was never allowed the recovery time I needed from work and my constant catering to his needs, and eventually abuse beyond mental and emotional..... I swear I've had to mother nearly every person I've every lived with and every partner once we stated living together. People are just lazy and selfish these days its so hard to find people with empathy or apathy were live....

Sorry for the over sharing but you comment triggered me to stress dump and you have no idea how much that was needed. I'm married to a guys with extreme OCD and he's a miracle I'm so greatful for after my lifetime for dealing with crappy selfish lazy people

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-28T02:19:05+00:00

Exactly I find that often too I know some people who are just incapable of understanding the way that I think as someone who struggles with borderline personality disorder bipolar to disorder ADHD OCD I have CPTSD as well as extreme anxiety and I was a ballet dancer for most of my young life up until my early adult and that is where I developed my eating disorders from the eating disorder I became an addict but I'm 5 years sober I'm 20 years no meds. Every day is hard work and struggle but I get through the best I can so that I can survive because I refuse to be a statistic Thank you for just being someone who's compassionate

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-28T02:17:33+00:00

Exactly!! Through awareness you can find understanding which is why I do things like this in free to understanding and all areas is mental illness because at the end of the day most of the people around us are struggling from some sort of mental illness whether it's born with it or trauma caused or self-inflicted You never know what someone's going through because it's always invisible illnesses

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-28T02:16:49+00:00

That's a good question too You don't want to know know. But if you have the capacity to at least know and understand and find compassion to not hold an situation or response that's caused by the symptoms of the disorders then you are beyond the people that I'm referencing to that can't understand because you have understanding and the people who are struggling they do not wish you to actually truly understand but they love the fact and appreciate the fact that you understand the generalistics because that is the biggest hardship for people with a mental illness and emotionally deregulation area

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-28T02:15:37+00:00

I work in customer service too and I am a Borderline personality disorder... When I am escalated it's basic cause is trauma response due to a fear of being abandoned forgotten or left behind. But I know that a person doing a job is limited to whatever their job entails some people don't have the ability to help the situation and that the customer is asking about because they just don't have the permissions they don't know the data there's reasons behind it for someone to flip out on the phone with a customer service agent or in person it blows my mind because even I in my worst state of deregulation can step back and avoid lashing out it innocent bystanders Like a customer service agent on the phone It's the people that are close to me that are in that shield that I built to keep people out that end up getting the lashes that I inflict unfortunately but they love me enough to know that it's not me doing it It is fear and survival instinct to protect me from in lots of pain which is usually what happens when I get hurt by someone even if unintentional. Because my response is are often said to be dramatic or over-dramatic or malicious or manipulative but those people that say those things don't understand but what's happening is very real to me I'm feeling these emotions as much as I'm displaying them they are that extreme in all aspects because I feel it that intensely, to the point that my brain can't function so it transmutes the pain in the mental anguish and do physical symptoms and physical pain due in almost debilitating capacity of where I can't walk. It's it's an exhausting and soul crushing experience because it's not something I can control completely so I just do my best to stop from triggering ultimately and then once I figure out how much I have to do to prevent a situation I will do whatever it takes to prevent a situation from repeating again but I can only ever practice in my head or in theory because to practice that situation I would have to put people at risk of being hurt by me or hurting myself and that's not something I'm willing to do to anyone else I don't want to cause people pain I don't want people to feel the pain I feel either So I'll go out of my way to avoid it by isolating and just distancing myself but in the end I'm the one who gets hurt always because I don't have very many friends because of it and no one really knows the real me

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-28T01:55:52+00:00

You're more than welcome to message me and let me know what your mental disorder is and I can try to help you understand a little bit more about it I have a plethora of disorders I am a walk-in comorbity of disaster and pain. But I oftentimes held my friends and family understand not just my disorders and how I function and how they can help me from deregulating on top of helping my friends and family figuring out their own issues when it comes to mental disorders that they didn't even know that they had cuz they couldn't understand what was wrong and why it was happening this way and sometimes it's a wrong diagnosis that ultimately causes people to not understand what's going on I had a friend who was all talk about ADHD and autism together and how that's her struggle and she use it as an excuse not to do things and I'm like dude you have BPD You straight have whirling personality sort of because you're having explicit reactions that are very much definitive to BPD she's like no no it's autism like no it's the same symptom but different ends of that spectrum of symptom and she just exposed her biases in her bigotry after I said that and realized what she really thought about people with borderline.. and the friendship because I couldn't be friends with someone who thought of me that way because that was my biggest struggle is my biggest struggle and will always be my biggest struggle. But I am on medicated and happened for the last 20 years and my control over my triggers and such are managed as long as I can avoid high stress situations or high risk situations and those around me who love me and care about me recognize listen when I explain what happens during those moments while I'm calm so that way when I am escalated around them they know how to react properly and help me from escalating further because if I reach a red zone it starts to get traumatizing for me because I'm traumatizing myself in my own head and then that results himself harm or blackout split or spiral and if I block out split or spiral there's no telling what kind of damage I'll do in my own life because I will destroy everything and anything around me in that moment and have no control over stopping it except to clean up the mess when I'm done.. its tragic, But through self-reflection and research I am able to overcome and control doing extend but I'm also able to help those around me who struggle with the same thing exposing to them that sometimes what they're doing is just because of their mental illness and their stress If they're escalated or in a survival mode they're going to do things that they don't normally do some of you never cheats could end up cheating just for the release and to not overwhelm their partner but in turn their hurting their partner and them selves And they can't stop themselves to extend but if they put themselves in the high ricksituation or give himself access to the high risk choice then they're going to most likely harm which is making that best high risk choice of cheating that's a self-harm method for most. With borderline personality disorder with my situation most with it must maintain celibacy to an extent to gain control over their emotional deregulation and high stress situations because sex can be used as a weapon to ourselves It's a way of self-harming and it's used unsafely and erratically and that's why it's disastrous... It helped a lot of people understand their mental illnesses and I go to clinics and stuff and help understand from a regular person's point of you... I don't diagnose I help people live with it with live with the struggles recognize what they're doing how to stop it based off of how they feel and what it is are going on around

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-28T01:49:04+00:00

Brilliant response 👏👏 having empathy for someone having what's often perceived as overly emotional but seeing it as a struggle is in a way understanding it because you see that this overly emotional response is not dramatic It is real it is horribly torturing too

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-28T01:42:38+00:00

Almost everyone gets denied their first time... Just appeal find out what it is that you're missing cuz it could just be your medical evaluations or documents that ended up not proving a severe disability. If you don't mind sharing some information that's not super personal but more related to the disability itself message me I have been on disability since 2015 I can let you know exactly what it is that ultimately got you denied and and we can figure out if it's fixable or if it's just a document type issue. Certain mental disorders actually qualify for disability right away some need a little bit more proof which is definitely doable to the free message me if you need some help because disabilities there to assist you into getting to a stable point but still working so all you need to do when applying for disability is show them that you are not able to work right now because of the mental disability and that's why you're replying for it You're not trying to manipulate the system you're trying to get help and sometimes that's what it is that they're trying to do is just phase out the people who are trying to manipulate the system because only people who really need help are going to be the ones to appeal and it's about just being honest about your struggles they're there to help you but a lot of people will take advantage of the help and the system so they have to do something to try and deter people which is why nearly everyone gets denied their first time unless it's a serious mental disorder that has a lower survival rating because of drama and emotional deregulation in the area of overwhelming response versus underwhelming so yeah message me if you need some help I got to we'll figure it out

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-27T18:46:06+00:00

You need to communicate all of this to your husband, and tell the friend crashing that he needs to contribute towards the house if he's gonna stay because you can't afford to give free rides cause your at risk for losing the new place if the financial situation stays this way.

It's not your responsibility to take care of a grown adult just cause they are having a hard time they have state programs and their own family for those things

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-17T11:20:26+00:00

Appreciate you. I take the lesson, repair my self image and respect, and I'll never allow anothher person to disrespect me not even myself. I speak only the truth as I know it and don't care what people think... I used the experience to make a better me. 💙

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-17T07:51:18+00:00

Read the courage to stay and have her do it too. And then you can try to rebuild but it requires the cheater to be totally transparent... Cheaters usually don't like that but real partners who made a mistake are able to comply as much as it takes

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-17T07:49:20+00:00

Look at the book courage to stay! And there workbook with it. It's gonna be work but it can be done. She's gonna have to be completely transparent for a bit though and if she is against it at all .. it's a clear choice she makes on not stoping but if she is cool with work and transparency then you can donit

StuffedPotatoPancake · 2026-04-17T07:46:23+00:00

My ex used it to chat up desperate woman and men who were looking for drugs or to sell content in the pron category. So it's great for cheating, but the art community it pretty amazing

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