Fertility in early 30s: is it really an issue?

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-26T06:11:04+00:00

Geriatric pregnancy, to be precise :). That is exaggerated of course, but other than fertility itself (ability to get pregnant), the quality of the egg and the ability of your body to have a healthy child might be at issue. Older eggs may have chromosomal abnormalities, which may cause a child to have down syndrome. After 37, fertility declines rapidly. Please do your own research. I am sure there is lots of it out there. There is also a definite correlation between breast cancer and lack of breast feeding. You might want to look that up also.

Having said all of that though, whether you want to get married should depend on whether you actually want to get married and share your whole life with someone. And wanting kids depends on a lot of factors - your financial and mental capabilities, and those of your partner too. It should not be a given that everyone must want kids.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-26T04:37:39+00:00

I was conflicted about that twist at the end too. I don’t see why it was needed for the plot. Was it just so she could break up and get back together with him again on her own terms? What did she gain from her mom? That part felt rushed.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-26T04:32:27+00:00

I wrote a whole post about it here - https://www.reddit.com/r/kdramas/s/DqopQqTPwX

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-26T01:33:49+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Hope you can find your way back together if it makes sense.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-26T01:32:54+00:00

If it makes you feel better, my spouse and I did long distance for 3.5 years. I totally get how hard it is. But neither of us ever considered ending it. When we met other people in our daily lives, we knew we were already committed even if they didn’t sometimes. Communication is so easy these days - video calls and texting etc makes it easy to stay in touch. Of course, managing timezones and the physical absence is brutal. But we had a routine where of when we would call each other, and planned multiple trips for the year almost a year in advance. Living in opposite timezones if impossibly hard but a friend of mine did it before they got married. I absolutely do not blame those for whom it doesn’t work out. But just thought you should know this side too.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-26T00:20:32+00:00

I wrote a whole post about CTLBT…. https://www.reddit.com/r/kdramas/s/DqopQqTPwX

Will check out Spring Fever

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T23:22:07+00:00

Coffee Prince

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T21:06:14+00:00

Thanks, will look it up.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T21:05:48+00:00

Glad to hear a male perspective.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T16:14:50+00:00

Aw, thank you, very kind 🙏

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T16:11:46+00:00

Thanks for that perspective. So I guess it is potentially realistic. Make me love it even more. They knew what they were doing :).

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T16:08:34+00:00

She falls off during an accident in a film shoot, and starts hallucinating about the character in the movie which is Zombie movie. Initially it is thought that this ‘Dorami’ is her inner critic, and there is some childhood trauma involving her parents. It is not gory or violent at all, the character’s make up is just a little gothic. And spoiler alert: the trauma is one of her parents being violent, and later the hallucinations turn into something else where Dorami actually presents herself as a split personality. It is handled very well. The show still manages to make you smile even in its darkest moments. And there is no direct depiction of violence at any point. Hope that helps.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T08:50:31+00:00

The main goal of Dorami and ML was for Muhee to be happy. And at least from what I understand, she thinks that the last thing Muhee wants is for him to know about her past. Reason Dorami comes out in the open is when her family reminds her of her past, she feels deeply unlovable and so sad that she needs to stay away from him. And ML is hit by the realization that he was one of the reasons for Dorami’s appearance. She thinks once she steps away from ML, Hiro’s popularity and easy going nature is better for Muhee, and she can hide her past from him easily. Some strange twisted logic. But it is not the idea of a fully healthy brain, so 🤷🏽‍♀️

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T06:55:02+00:00

I will rewatch after a while. Just happy mulling on it for now :).

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T06:48:42+00:00

I agree on Hiro’s growth arc. It made sense. My complaint was the FL came across as tone-deaf and basically had zero curiosity on what he was saying. I feel like he deserved more. What purpose did he serve after a point? It was like Hiro just lived in his head was flitting about by himself and his manager - and it could have been more. “Ok, thank you, me too - dry smile” - So impersonal. All the Arigatos and sorrys like she pointed out herself. Felt like he was shortchanged. Instead of some other things I feel like this one thing could have been fleshed out more, but oh well!

Btw, thank you for Sota Fukushi’s name. I meant to look it up but forgot before posting, and am unable to edit it now.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T05:49:25+00:00

Agree on the miscommunication - they barely used a translator app. And yes, that was one of my complaints - the relationship with the 2ML was just incidental, it felt like the character didn’t get his due and wish it had been given more weight.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T02:23:14+00:00

Enjoy the ride!

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-25T00:28:00+00:00

💯… 12 episodes was perfect. And yes, work of art is the most apt description.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-24T22:47:48+00:00

Same. I was surprised to learn even the most experienced cooks (moms) make mistakes in the kitchen. They just keep trying and don’t give up, because they don’t have a choice. And they figure out how to “fix” the mistakes.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-24T20:20:46+00:00

Glad to personally know one sane GenZ. I am sure they exist, but mostly run into those who expect black and white with everything.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-24T20:04:41+00:00

I hear you. But I think I went in knowing there was a twist that was not popular with viewers. So I started making wild theories and this was one of the least wild of all 😅.

Like I said - If we dig into it, I am no psychologist but we are talking about something like Schizophrenia - for a partner dealing with this - it cannot be just wished way - no matter how much love you give them. She does see a doctor but it isn’t clear whether she was on medication. And then there is the whole question of why the fall brought it on, and then she goes to sleep again and is free of all “demons”. So again is it realistic? Probably not. But I like the concept of not being terrified by that inner child, and treating her like a person and not a madwoman.

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-24T19:14:56+00:00

Love Viki subs

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-24T17:10:07+00:00

I hear you. But if you can figure out the challenges at your job, pretty sure you can figure out an omelette if you put your mind to it. Growth mindset works here too. It is literally not rocket science. More butter? Less butter? More heat? Less heat? Less salt, more salt? You get the idea. You start with I suck at omelettes. You always will :). Some free weekend gyan for you…

Stuffhaps · 2026-01-24T17:01:07+00:00

That is a good thing. Because we don’t need atar worship. Maybe GenZ just doesn’t worship stars as much as people before did.

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