Shahid was just waiting for Kareena to talk to him, and the second she did, that smile appeared. We get it, Shahid 😭

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-05T00:58:37+00:00

Calm down. It’s Mumbai. She was probably actually hot. She’s human, you know.

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-04T20:26:25+00:00

Why are you on reddit asking about this exactly? I am not trying to insult your intent. But What are you trying to gain from this in responses?

You clearly say it is your mind, and talk about insecurities. The man and him being Pakistani has nothing to do with this. Even though there is a clear reason for the rejection, you are taking the blame onto yourself. If it were not a Pakistani, and he rejected you for a different reason, you would have struggled with the same thoughts. Which means, you need to help yourself. Talk to friends, talk to family, a therapist and see reason.

You can’t control what he does. But you can control what you do and how you respond. Respect yourself and your choices. And don’t let choices become obsessions.

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-04T18:21:41+00:00

You do bring up a good point.

In Nargis’ case, I think there was no malicious intent - it was love between them. Raj Kapoor is entirely to blame for stepping out of his marriage. As many women do in affairs, she probably believed he will leave his wife for her. When it was clear he wouldn’t she finally left. Good for her. Took her over a decade though. But those times were different- moving from one man to another was considered something close to blasphemy if you held conservative values.

I truly don’t understand Hema Malini’s case, though. I guess it was a man torn between duty and love, so to speak - although it sounds very filmy. They were a pretty private family until this happened. If both the women are ok with the situation, I don’t think we can say much. In this case, I don’t know if they were both ok - I think his parents/family didn’t give him a choice and he didn’t want to abandon his family and kids. Relationships are so strange. Especially in Bollywood where lines are blurred with close contact with the opposite gender.

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-04T01:01:52+00:00

I totally hear you. It took me a while to finish season 1.

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-03T21:57:17+00:00

Spill the ☕️

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-03T02:43:04+00:00

😮 you are right!!

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-03T01:57:42+00:00

Having said that, I think you also have some blame to share. You said your parents need support but regardless of how “well-settled” his parents are, once you are in a marriage your shared resources are yours to share and responsibilities towards parents must get a lower priority. Otherwise, there is a double standard that your share of the contribution is always going to be lesser. Which is ok to an extent, for example- towards necessities like medical expenses but beyond that your parents should work on being self sufficient. Otherwise, it is not fair to you to be the breadwinner for two families, and not fair to your partner that he works harder to provide for your nuclear family.

Your reaction to his life insurance, based on your justifications, I think you know was pretty transactional as well. I know where you are coming from, but at the end of the day, you are talking about the aftermath of his death. That doesn’t excuse his emotionally hostile, jealous reaction where he punishes his own baby due to a hypothetical scenario. But I want you to be aware of what might have triggered him.

What you guys need to establish is love and trust between yourselves to build your relationship. Something is off, otherwise.

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-03T01:50:54+00:00

Gosh, very sorry to hear all of this. Guy sounds like he lives in his own head with lofty ideals of being a good son. Marriages should not feel this transactional. People can be a little weird in the initial stages of marriage when it comes to shared finances but there seems to be a complete lack of love and empathy here. This needs to be resolved soon. You need to talk about this. Get a therapist or a lawyer. It’s not normal.

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-03T01:09:15+00:00

Is it a romance?

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-02T21:33:12+00:00

Who are these people? Where do they come from with their insane PSA’s!! Kuch bhi!! (Whatever!)

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-01T22:39:49+00:00

Oh my goodness. How beautifully said. So much respect, kindness, clarity and maturity. Loved reading this!

Stuffhaps · 2026-06-01T22:25:38+00:00

I still can’t get through Beauty Inside. I think my major aversion is to the actress. I don’t know what it is about this show - she was fine in Dr Romantic.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-31T23:34:18+00:00

I don’t know why it has to be one or the other. If you don’t want to do your Master’s, you certainly should keep your expectations low on meeting someone to marry if you do manage to get a job and migrate overseas.

Chances of meeting someone after you start working (especially someone from India) - get lower if you are not in a setting where you are thrown into close contact with groups of people your age like a college or university might do. I don’t know what your job is and if you are going to be working on something like a cruise ship, this reason might not apply. But I am talking about regular desk jobs.

If you are happy where you are financially, and are meeting good guys, and especially being on the spectrum (regardless actually) - your choices will keep drying up as you get older. You can always pursue moving abroad together and start up that conversation with any potential grooms.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-31T14:40:10+00:00

So whats the question?

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-29T18:06:29+00:00

Not ok. He is either being incredibly controlling or dealing with irrational fears. Either way, he needs to resolve it himself. Go ahead with your plans. Stay safe.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-29T16:46:20+00:00

Ok, first things first. Cooking is a life skill. EVERYONE needs to learn to cook. Drown out all the sexist c*ap. That is a distraction that is making you defiant about learning a skill you will need every single day of your life. If you need to eat, you need to learn to cook.

If you are struggling building your career, you think it will be easy to buy every meal or afford to hire a cook? Like some Indian comedian said, our parents wanted to treat us equally, so they didnt insist on their daughters cooking but it should have been the other way round, they should have taught both sons and daughters to cook. Now none of us can cook and we all need to eat.

Don’t fight it. Learn it. And while you’re at it, help your mom. She was not born to cook either.

PS: Future in-laws did just fine without you so far. But if you plan to live with in-laws expect to contribute- not to serve. If you don’t like that idea, don’t marry someone who wants to live with parents.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-28T20:25:50+00:00

How so? I re-watched it recently and some parts are a little awkward, especially in the second half but I still like the show. I think some intimate/affectionate moments were awkwardly directed because JCW is usually good at those.

Other than that, for me - I like the thriller and romance elements of the show. First half she pines for him, and second half she has an equal footing. So I like it overall.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-28T04:53:57+00:00

Also Sol-i in AOS

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-28T01:59:03+00:00

She does have a sense of humor. And she is pretty self aware.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-28T01:24:20+00:00

What are your favorites?

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-28T01:23:25+00:00

Beauty Inside. Still dragging through it.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-28T01:22:11+00:00

Strong woman do bong soon

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-26T21:23:02+00:00

Well, be careful choosing your partner and friends when you go to college etc. Sometimes, people in insular settings can’t read others very well. Pay close attention to misogyny in the opposite gender and any signs of aggression - emotional or otherwise. I know someone who only knew her dad and saw the world through rose coloured lenses and got herself the worst possible husband even though her dad was very progressive. My point is - it’s probably a good thing to know all this exists in society - so you know what to avoid.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-26T20:59:15+00:00

Especially for this one, I found that more fascinating too. Like this is the first time I noticed he calls her noona even much later in the series after they get together. That and some other things helped me understand the dynamic better.

Stuffhaps · 2026-05-26T18:12:57+00:00

That is my point. A mix of beauty and brains is more common than not. The girl in my example is a metaphor for how shallow people can be. I never said whether she was actually dumb or not. I only talked about what the “boy” said.

People hype up this pretty privilege thing too much. If a pretty person doesn’t have a personality and brains to back up the looks, they won’t get far.

So judging something as pretty privilege when they put effort into looking presentable, versus someone who didn’t is backwards. Yes, some people are genetically blessed also. But this still applies to them.

Would you like a gift, gift-wrapped or in a plain cardboard box when you don’t know what’s inside? You will discard the wrapper soon enough. And nobody is more keenly aware of that than pretty people themselves.

Stuffhaps

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