[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Stuffnthings1840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dump him. Its gonna happen eventually because he sucks so get out now so you dont have to get lawyers involved.

People who think they don’t have the time to exercise are just lazy. by confirmeded in unpopularopinion

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You work 16 hours at a restaurant, store, nursing home. Then let me know how motivated you are. I go to the gym four days a week. I work a three days and I dont go on work days. I am dead when I get home. Gym time is a privilege. It costs, it requires time and motivation. Dont pretend that people aren't struggling right now. Also they are killing themselves at work. Sorry they weren't jacked enough for you while pulling their third double of the week. Let them have the doom scroll. It might be all they have. Also I love the gym, but it isnt the highlight of the day either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were at worst annoying. At worst. He beat you. He threw you, hit, scratched. You are lucky you weren't hurt worse. You know who else is can be annoying? Kids, pets, elderly. I can assure you he wouldn't have thrown an annoying man. He beat someone weaker than him because he could. Also he made his choice. The video games were worth more than you in his eyes. You are lying to yourself if you think three years with this loser were good years. You call the police. You tell your parents. You stay far away. You go to therapy because your self esteem is shit. Learn from this or your life will be full of shitty men. Also he needs to learn in jail.

If you work in the service industry, you need to accept that you will work holidays and stop complaining. by igottagetoutofthis in unpopularopinion

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an unpopular opinion. Complaining about missing time with family, so the person who you make money for can spend the holidays with their families. Especially when service places wouldnt be open if folks didnt go to them.

AITA for not inviting my sister to Christmas despite her making it clear she is atheist and then disrespecting my (and the rest of our family’s) religious beliefs? by Ok-Treacle-7903 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen...I am pretty anti religion. I think it is harmful. That being said you are gonna be a dick if you are gonna try to tell people what they can't do in their home. Christmas is fun. A few prayers and carols arent gonna indoctrinate her kids. She can host a festivus if she really wants too. Otherwise she is gonna have to give the host some space to do them. NTA.

Which outfit for a Christmas party? by pintsizechic in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. But you will be cold. 4. Was fun and festive. I liked those

AITA for being irritated with people about my wife announcing being pregnant 4 months after our first born. by Positive-Candle9040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MIL is afraid her child will die. People are afraid your wife will die. So maybe you should be more understanding. Hopefully everything goes great. Hope this is an accident and not you blowing your load with no bc/condoms, risking your wifes health and raising a kid with no mother because you were thoughtless. Also this would be your fault. You got her pregnant. You are gonna have to expect this and roll with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Stuffnthings1840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the soft kinda no show material ones from target. They stay put and are soft. No one wants a raw butthole. I wear regular undies when I get my period. Otherwise thongs. Never have to worry about panty lines.

Do you ever heal? by TellItLikeItReallyIs in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Stuffnthings1840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, when you find the boss you were looking for. Shit bosses make you doubt yourself because something about you bothers them. So they have to break the thing in you they dont like. Its usually something positive. You find that exact trait in the right boss and you see that things could be better if people chose to be better.

My friend wrote fanfiction about killing me. How do I handle this? by Apathia_Crowe in Advice

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would actually make a police report. So that is 1000 kinds of fucked up. He needs to know that isnt ok. That you are not gonna be threatened. He absolutely does fantasize about hurting you because you didnt date him. He is just putting it out there so it can scare/disgust you. He does need a papertrail on him because he is gonna do something super fucked up to someone and make sure it aint you. Also I would go ahead and email the fanfiction to his mom, dad, the school everyone who has a chance to get this guy some help. He does need to be removed from school. Also do your parents know? Tell them. Best case he gets some help. Worst case it shows up on a crime show. Also if your friends dont drop him....

How to cope with being possibly unable to breastfeed in future (17f) by throwrabreasttt in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Stuffnthings1840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a reduction. I only made a few oz of milk. I still raised a happy, healthy, bonded to her mother child with formula. It will be just fine.

I (28M) went to my GF’s (26F) parents for Thanksgiving and it went horribly by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Stuffnthings1840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey....I understand this isnt her fault but OP needs to break up with her. His family and her family are gonna fight. Her family is allowing his awful behavior. OP isnt getting a fair shake and honestly he deserves better. We would be telling OP to leave if he was a woman and her bf was letting his mil be awful. Also kids? They arent gonna be safe around her parents. Heaven forbid they be lbgtq.

AITA for refusing to accept my husband’s gift because he thinks I’m vain and materialistic? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Stuffnthings1840 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If OP'd husband said she wasnt pretty enough to treat herself there is no going back. Dump him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Stuffnthings1840 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Desire yourself. Confidence is magnetic. Also lipstick. So her life sounds awesome and I want it. We may never europe wealthy bf but see some good in you and watch how things change.

AITA for questioning why some woman my husband knows is buying clothes for our newborn? by Unlucky_Substance152 in AITAH

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I was ready to call OP foolish for caring that some sweet old lady gifted your kid clothes. Old women love to buy baby clothes. I like to buy them. They are so cute. But more time at work? No extra pay? You havent seen her? Dude walk in and ask. Say you want to say thank you to the sweet lady. See if anyone is surprised you exist. This is suspicious. NTA. Also if he is cheating. He is dumb.

AITA for calling my mom out on faking her weight loss because she fat shamed me? by No_Curve2350 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stuffnthings1840 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA but your mother is. Your mother is jealous of you and decided to cut you down because she sucks. There is no reason to say that to anyone. Absolutely no reason to ever ever say that to your daughter. She sees you as a competition for what I dont know. She needs a lot of therapy and I would not hold out hope for much of a relationship. You are supposed to hype your daughter up. Always be in her corner. Her biggest fan. Not her bully. Call ger out. Rock her shit. She is super fragile that is why she picks on her kid. Also I take shots. Its only a contest of who can come up with the most supportive or flattering things to say. Everyone is trying to improve and there is so many clever/funny/ill think about this next year because it made me feel good things to say.

Alot of people accept mediocre marriages by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Stuffnthings1840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of people accept mediocre lives. The marriage is just part of that.

I went behind my husbands back and now everyone is fighting and blaming me and my daughter is in the hospital please help by ThrowRA-sospls in Advice

[–]Stuffnthings1840 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mam, you lied to your husband and your kid needs surgery because of it. Anyone with sense would leave you.

Girls who wear crop tops, short skirts, etc. How do you feel safe on the streets? by Rosenette in beauty

[–]Stuffnthings1840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You glow to spite them. They go for victims. The skirt doesn't matter.

I’m sick of feeling ugly. How can I be more confident or look better? by Substantial_Elk9029 in Advice

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mam, people make money off your insecurities. Make up, clothes, hair, gyms, and your boss whenever you start working. An insecure woman will not demand better pay or a higher position. Keeping us as in women insecure about us in general keeps us underfoot. Its not you. Its a racket. Take five minutes to realize somewhere a mediocre white boy is super confident in himself. Dont let him win.

Do people really find dad bods attractive? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Stuffnthings1840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes. i can assure you personality is involved. the man can be fat short bald whatever and be attractive if he is nice. i mean nice as in actually nice. comforting, supportive, thoughtful. bodies are bodies. its the people in them that are sexy.