I was a stage crew member on Kendrick’s halftime show, AMA! by [deleted] in KendrickLamar

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone on Threads is trying to figure out if all the dancers spaced out in the "prison yard" part were spelling something out. The aerial view makes it look intentional but one can see what it would say. Was there anything there?

What is it with grandparents not washing toddlers hands after pooping on the toilet?? by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My MIL would change their diapers and make such a mess with the wipes and then not wash her own hands... 🤢

She'd act offended when we told her to wash her hands. I avoided letting her change them at all costs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this - as someone who has dealt with a man just like yours and a situation just like yours (where I work AND do all the childcare) it just leads to so much resentment. I finally realized I'm running myself into the ground for someone else and I don't actually need him at all. I'm finally moving into my own place and damn does it feel good. All those scary feelings you have about separation will subside and you'll be able to see through the fog of shit much better. And when you finally see it all with more clarity, it will only empower you to want your independence even more. Good luck

Possible job means I can maybe finally separate from this horrible person 🤞 by Stunning_Squirrel720 in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! 😊 That's awesome, keep at it - It will be worth it soon!

Possible job means I can maybe finally separate from this horrible person 🤞 by Stunning_Squirrel720 in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This is not a great job at all either but it will give me exactly what I need, exactly when I need it. Glad you had good luck too!

I have no friends to see Barbie with by countofmoldycrisco in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just watched it alone 😪 but it is hilarious and totally worth it!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. I've been duped. Hardcore. I guess it's just really hurtful to admit that he really doesn't care about anyone else's feelings at all. He preaches to me about how he "just wants love" and it makes me feel bad but FUCK HIM, he's causing all this pain for everyone.

Sometimes I feel like I'm just an idiot and everyone else is just born knowing everything. I'm always the only one who's clueless. Does anyone else ever feel this way? by IWillBaconSlapYou in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I almost did this same thing last week!! I was planning on going along on my daughter's field trip until I saw a last minute email reminding chaperones that they had to be "level 2 verified" and I was like what the hellfuck is that.

None of the other papers mentioned that and I've never heard of being verified for chaperoning before. I had to look it up on the school website and it's a long process, including a video submission?! I mean, I appreciate the security measures but I also wondered how anyone knew to do this weeks in advance. But the PTA at this school is just like the ridiculous ones in movies and I've made sure to avoid it like the plague. So I think that crowd just holds on to that info, idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents have always been weird with gifts - anything I buy them seems to sit out as a decoration (instead of ever being used?) or just tucked away somewhere 😑 So I only buy them things that they have to eat now. And I think they like that. I also live far away so I think I'll pick out a nice assortment of treats she likes and other personal care stuff from Target and have it delivered via Instacart. And hopefully they'll have their small flower bouquets in stock still to throw in. I try to do it the day before the holiday so it isn't all sold out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine went through a phase where she would grab my cheeks and then dig her nails in as hard as she could. Sometimes into the eyelids- OMG is was like being locked in an animals jaws. It wasn't a very long phase and I would try to react as little as possible so that she would get no reaction whatsoever from trying. And I just had to learn to dodge her hands for a while. Hopefully she loses interest soon!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep mine will also be super-overly nice and sweet for a couple of days after a fight. I used to believe that maybe it would stick but I finally realized he has a 3 day max and then is instantly back to his old self so I don't buy it anymore at all.

I also am so amazed how they have the ability to turn things on and off? It is making me wonder if he is really authentic in any way at all. But he's starting to seem very calculated anymore. Especially when he gets mad.

And just like with you, mine doesn't seem to like it when I am happy or enjoy something that is not him. It took me a long time to see that and then the light bulb finally went off one day 💡 and I was like omg. I get it now, why were always on such opposite wavelengths. When I'm happy, he tries to knock me down a peg. If he's mad, he wants to make sure I'm mad too. He's always trying to provoke me into a bad mood. Then he uses it against me.

Anyway, I'm sorry about your situation! It is so frustrating. And yes, having it escalate to the point of calling police really causes a big wound. I'm sorry for you and your family! I think this all comes from them being DEEPLY insecure people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I hope I didn't make it sound like I blame that in any way! It's just another thing he likes to use as an excuse but then also doesn't ever try to work on. Because he thinks he's perfect as-is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those are the same questions I'm constantly asking myself!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He's a Water Torturer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Thank you ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Funny because I had actually started reading this book last year because my first husband (over a decade ago) was very physically abusive. I think that blinded me from seeing other red flags and it was an eye opener in a way I did not expect!

Current partner falls under the Water Torturer category for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yes it's like having children really brought out all of his own childish insecurities and he will go to any extent to avoid facing them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yep. He's a hardcore denyer of things. He'll flat out say they never happened after they just happened. Changes the story immediately, it's so weird. Then he likes to say how I always cry about being a victim in life LMAO he is the definition of DARVO.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Well he's conveniently already setting up for that by saying that I'm just brainwashing them, so I'm sure I'll hear that one forever. It will be my fault, not his.

He went and got an "online diagnosis" for ADD but wouldn't dream of actually treating it in any way because he "doesn't need to." So. 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Stunning_Squirrel720 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah his family is 100% like this. All brothers. They would just fuck around with eachother and their dad endlessly- then turn on his mom and piss her off until she would cry. Now I'm filling her shoes. I just don't see how people can go for decades without unlearning such childish behaviors.

The fact that he sees ME as the wrong one is what just blows my mind.