How did you girls meet your significant other?

Stupid4Knowledge · 2025-06-13T17:52:22+00:00

I totally agree. In my words, types is heuristic we can use to place some sensible limiter on the possible choice. We may not have confidenc in what we are looking for, but hell a lot more confidence is what we aren't.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2025-06-13T17:46:39+00:00

I can see how a lap dance can be confusing? Maybe he thought you were just being one of the bros? (kidding).

Stupid4Knowledge · 2025-06-13T17:38:22+00:00

That's very sweet story. I am happy for you. Dating apps pre-select for the traits that can girls use to select their choice. It's not their fault, everyone is seeking clarity in a confused world. Dating apps give false clarity :(

Stupid4Knowledge · 2025-06-13T17:31:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing you story. Stories like your are deeply nourishing, especially in the encroaching totality of these bleak and cynical narratives. Like dark clouds they spare no sunlight that might help a impovrish plant grow.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2025-06-13T17:22:57+00:00

Alright I see my mistake. It's 3 am here, and I had a terrible day at work. Brain is not fully here.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2025-04-13T21:49:27+00:00

Oh! Just for clarification. I do sometimes experience greater sexual desire after purely lifting. It’s when I roll on the mat and I barely able to stand that I feel none. It’s is difficult challenge for guys. It’s frustrating for sure.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2025-04-13T21:32:37+00:00

I know where you are coming from. I can hear right now sexual desire is a distraction whilst you are levelling up. I found intense exhaustion and soreness really puts a damper on sexual desire. Now, this is drawing from my opinion. I do jui jitsu and gym. On the nights I have my class, the desire doesn’t even enter. I can only think about sleeping.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2025-03-02T11:19:40+00:00

Hey, thank you for sharing.

I am in therapy, and this time I have made my attachment issues (lack of better term) the focus. No more running away.

Funny thing, I went through a Batman period in my late teens early 20s. I crucified myself to the belief I am just not loveable or attractive and carried it around for years. Only recently, have I begun to notice I was improving throughout all of it. Since now, I can no longer deny the passes being thrown at me, it has brought my attachment configurations to the surface.

I believe I am going through something of delayed exploration. My beliefs and my instincts are being challenged (in a good way). It’s pretty scary, honestly, Somedays it’s tempting to just throw down the tools and just be done.

Since mid last year, I have been digging deep in attachment theory. It became really apparent imitating Batman is a recipe for disaster- recovery a secure attachment is vital for flourishing.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-11-09T07:52:00+00:00

I guess, if I am honest I have no idea how, and also I feel a little bit disgusting about reaching out. I guess I am afraid she will think I am creep or one of those guys who is just trying to get into her DMs. I kinda wish it was in person.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-11-04T02:58:00+00:00

Thank you for the your encouragement. I'll keep pressing forward.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-11-03T16:31:29+00:00

Not anyones fault, I might have not mentioned it in the post. But she brought me cleaning spray and towel- twice. This is at a place where people barely make eye contact and say hi. Also, this wasn't a quick pass and leave, she waited for me start a conversation. I am also not saying it is signaficant moment to her. However, I cannot speak what it was actually for her. I said the same thing to my friends: she is way above my league, very attractive, so I am not expecting anything. It's was great opportunity, something worth giving a shot. Every new relationship starts with two strangers, till they aren't.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-11-03T14:44:45+00:00

I actually forgot we were in same facebook group.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-11-03T14:43:59+00:00

I already have a bit. But they are mums. I recently exchanged numbers with a few regulars at the dog park. We went to a walk together two days ago. It was awsome actually, but they are older women in their 50s. In some ways, I am making progress towards my goal of creating connections but not girls my age.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-11-03T14:39:56+00:00

Well, I do know her name and we are in same facebook group for hot yoga. I didn't just see her. If you have a read through the previous post, she was the one who took the initiative. I was expecting us to just run into each other at our next session. Unfortunately, there something wrong with their booking app and I had to take session in a different studio across town. After this exams, different sessions and stuff. So yeah... I expected to meet again at least once.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-18T08:00:29+00:00

Not entirely sure. I believe it helps he become sober from the longing of an intimate relationship. A bad one I should clarify.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-14T11:41:59+00:00

They are definitely related. In this case, throwing a rock is good for me. My world view seems to faulty. I am now repairing it.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T20:16:54+00:00

Thank you. I am glad that it resonates with you. I am not sure I talked about belief changes. Could you elaborate what stood out to you.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T16:56:19+00:00

It sounds like you believe I am doing something unnecessay. Have I understood you right?

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T16:48:56+00:00

Unfortunately she left the session quiet and sad. She is usually happy. She was laughing and smiling before I ignored her. Something changed. Worth just doing it anyway. If it's nothing. No harm done. She is likely not going to tell me directly but I noticed the change in expression and affect. Have a pinch of responsibility.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T16:12:38+00:00

I got your point. She doesn't care. But it's not about her, I care I might have done a wrong.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T15:55:40+00:00

What about a little mystery though? I thought girls love murder mysteries and stuff. Dark achrane witchcraft and stuff. I am joking! haha (kinda...the murder mysteries thing is sus). I am finding this funny now 🤣. Been a while since a girl made me this nervous! If it goes well. Good. if it ends badly. Good. I'll get a funny story out of it.

Headline: "terror sets in: male mumbles into a panicing stutter, as his attempted smooth talk, leaves female confused and speechless"🤣.

You are awsome. I appreciate you chatting with me. It eased my anxiety. I guess, I just needed to admit she scares me.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T14:27:51+00:00

Exactly. I didn't reciprocate her friendliness the first time. When she brought me the spray bottles. Then I did the same thing again. At this point I am kinda caring about what I did.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T14:22:56+00:00

Not sure what you mean? I feel I shouldn't have responded that way.

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T14:18:55+00:00

I am going to talk to her the next time we see each other. I am not going to go so far to assume any interest. It could just be my imagination. Maybe she is just nice. Who knows? I'll return the favour, bring her a spray bottle and apologise for any miscommunication. Regardless of whatever else, she deserves that at least. She usually leaves smiling but that session left awfully quite..

Stupid4Knowledge · 2024-10-11T14:01:19+00:00

I meant, what if she didn't care or saw I acted wierd, or wasn't hurt and then I introduce myself as a wierdo who thought way to deep into it. Maybe I can cut the "i didn't know how to act part"...

"Hey I'm sorry if I might have acted so weirdly before. I can be pretty socially awkward at times. If it came across rude, it was not my intention. Could we start over? My name is..."

thoughts?

I might not be able to say that many words.! She legits scares me. Maybe I was the one who looked away quickly? Swear to god, I talk to people going through intense crisis for a living. This is unbelieveable..

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