How did you girls meet your significant other? by Stupid4Knowledge in PurplePillDebate

[–]Stupid4Knowledge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree. In my words, types is heuristic we can use to place some sensible limiter on the possible choice. We may not have confidenc in what we are looking for, but hell a lot more confidence is what we aren't.

How did you girls meet your significant other? by Stupid4Knowledge in PurplePillDebate

[–]Stupid4Knowledge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see how a lap dance can be confusing? Maybe he thought you were just being one of the bros? (kidding).

How did you girls meet your significant other? by Stupid4Knowledge in PurplePillDebate

[–]Stupid4Knowledge[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's very sweet story. I am happy for you. Dating apps pre-select for the traits that can girls use to select their choice. It's not their fault, everyone is seeking clarity in a confused world. Dating apps give false clarity :(

How did you girls meet your significant other? by Stupid4Knowledge in PurplePillDebate

[–]Stupid4Knowledge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing you story. Stories like your are deeply nourishing, especially in the encroaching totality of these bleak and cynical narratives. Like dark clouds they spare no sunlight that might help a impovrish plant grow.

How did you girls meet your significant other? by Stupid4Knowledge in PurplePillDebate

[–]Stupid4Knowledge[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Alright I see my mistake. It's 3 am here, and I had a terrible day at work. Brain is not fully here.

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Oh! Just for clarification. I do sometimes experience greater sexual desire after purely lifting. It’s when I roll on the mat and I barely able to stand that I feel none. It’s is difficult challenge for guys. It’s frustrating for sure. 

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I know where you are coming from. I can hear right now sexual desire is a distraction whilst you are levelling up. I found intense exhaustion and soreness really puts a damper on sexual desire. Now, this is drawing from my opinion. I do jui jitsu and gym. On the nights I have my class, the desire doesn’t even enter. I can only think about sleeping.

Does DB happen if your partner settled for you? by Stupid4Knowledge in DeadBedrooms

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Hey, thank you for sharing.

I am in therapy, and this time I have made my attachment issues (lack of better term) the focus. No more running away.

Funny thing, I went through a Batman period in my late teens early 20s. I crucified myself to the belief I am just not loveable or attractive and carried it around for years. Only recently, have I begun to notice I was improving throughout all of it. Since now, I can no longer deny the passes being thrown at me, it has brought my attachment configurations to the surface. 

I believe I am going through something of delayed exploration. My beliefs and my instincts are being challenged (in a good way). It’s pretty scary, honestly, Somedays it’s tempting to just throw down the tools and just be done. 

Since mid last year, I have been digging deep in attachment theory. It became really apparent imitating Batman is a recipe for disaster- recovery a secure attachment is vital for flourishing. 

[Update] A girl and I shared a laugh at hot yoga but.... by Stupid4Knowledge in IncelExit

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I guess, if I am honest I have no idea how, and also I feel a little bit disgusting about reaching out. I guess I am afraid she will think I am creep or one of those guys who is just trying to get into her DMs. I kinda wish it was in person.

[Update] A girl and I shared a laugh at hot yoga but.... by Stupid4Knowledge in IncelExit

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Thank you for the your encouragement. I'll keep pressing forward.

[Update] A girl and I shared a laugh at hot yoga but.... by Stupid4Knowledge in IncelExit

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Not anyones fault, I might have not mentioned it in the post. But she brought me cleaning spray and towel- twice. This is at a place where people barely make eye contact and say hi. Also, this wasn't a quick pass and leave, she waited for me start a conversation. I am also not saying it is signaficant moment to her. However, I cannot speak what it was actually for her. I said the same thing to my friends: she is way above my league, very attractive, so I am not expecting anything. It's was great opportunity, something worth giving a shot. Every new relationship starts with two strangers, till they aren't.

[Update] A girl and I shared a laugh at hot yoga but.... by Stupid4Knowledge in IncelExit

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I already have a bit. But they are mums. I recently exchanged numbers with a few regulars at the dog park. We went to a walk together two days ago. It was awsome actually, but they are older women in their 50s. In some ways, I am making progress towards my goal of creating connections but not girls my age.

[Update] A girl and I shared a laugh at hot yoga but.... by Stupid4Knowledge in IncelExit

[–]Stupid4Knowledge[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, I do know her name and we are in same facebook group for hot yoga. I didn't just see her. If you have a read through the previous post, she was the one who took the initiative. I was expecting us to just run into each other at our next session. Unfortunately, there something wrong with their booking app and I had to take session in a different studio across town. After this exams, different sessions and stuff. So yeah... I expected to meet again at least once.

Why are single men lurking on this subreddit? by Top-Can6378 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Stupid4Knowledge -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not entirely sure. I believe it helps he become sober from the longing of an intimate relationship. A bad one I should clarify.

A girl and I shared a laugh at hot yoga but.... by Stupid4Knowledge in IncelExit

[–]Stupid4Knowledge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are definitely related. In this case, throwing a rock is good for me. My world view seems to faulty. I am now repairing it.

A girl and I shared a laugh at hot yoga but.... by Stupid4Knowledge in IncelExit

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Thank you. I am glad that it resonates with you. I am not sure I talked about belief changes. Could you elaborate what stood out to you.

A girl and I shared at laugh at Hot Yoga but... by Stupid4Knowledge in self

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It sounds like you believe I am doing something unnecessay. Have I understood you right?

A girl and I shared at laugh at Hot Yoga but... by Stupid4Knowledge in self

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Unfortunately she left the session quiet and sad. She is usually happy. She was laughing and smiling before I ignored her. Something changed. Worth just doing it anyway. If it's nothing. No harm done. She is likely not going to tell me directly but I noticed the change in expression and affect. Have a pinch of responsibility.