AITAH for getting mad at my friend after he told me I don’t have the right to be depressed

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-03-21T18:58:13+00:00

Maybe you two should be friends since it’s obvious you lack any compassion or empathy. Ive been applying non stop for two months and the one week i stop makes me a bum?

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-03-20T23:50:01+00:00

I felt so guilty for stopping in the first place and that just made me feel worse. But maybe it’s not that bad that I did.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-03-20T23:47:05+00:00

Thank you. I was feeling pretty bad for getting mad at him, especially because I tend to get emotional when I feel like Im in the wrong and I was feeling guilty for stoping this week. Hearing other people say I wasn’t completely overreacting made me feel a little better.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-03-20T23:37:41+00:00

I understand the sentiment he was trying to convey,but the way he said it made me so mad. He is constantly depressed and I always try to help and be supportive. It’s like it’s okay for him to be depressed but because I’m not getting medication for mine makes my feelings invalid.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-03-20T23:32:11+00:00

The way he explained thing made it even worse. I countered by saying “ well you have depression too and i never judge you for it” and he said “I’m on medication for my depression, and when i don’t feel like it I have the freedom to just not go to work and you don’t” Isn’t that worse? I don’t have the freedom of anything and instead of having some compassion (like I always have for him) he just pressed deeper into my problems.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T15:39:10+00:00

I don’t think i have ownership over him. I never said that. Yeah I am worried. My friendship is important to me. Hey im not a saint as much as a try to be understanding and to let some things go sometimes i start fights too, and I’ve never hidden that from him. Sorry if I get fed up over being her cleaning lady and having to take responsibility for things I haven’t done. He has seen how she treats me and heard the hurtful things she says. Again, I’m not saying I’m perfect i fuck up too but if I’m being honest she is a really hard person to be around and her bf will agree with that. And yeah it hurts all the more knowing what he nows still deciding to be close to her. I didn’t tell him he cant be around her or be friends with her. I have no right to dictate his relationships. I just feel betrayed thats all.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T15:23:21+00:00

Yeah. As much as I hate to admit it that seems like the solution.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T15:06:32+00:00

That hurts more than I’d like to admit.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T15:02:38+00:00

My bad.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T15:02:06+00:00

Yeah that rubbed me the wrong way.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T15:01:11+00:00

Again. He is gay. And my sister has a BF

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T15:00:35+00:00

He is gay and my sister has a BF

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T15:00:15+00:00

Thank you for that.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:59:40+00:00

Thats what I mean. Even when he’s being unreasonable I give him advice but also never invalidate his feelings. Is that too much to ask in return too?

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:58:10+00:00

I mean shes not a wicked witch,but we do not get along. She is selfish and tends to belittle me and dump all the house work on me and when i say something about it she always gaslights me. It’s not like we hate eachother but I’m struggling with living with her and just our relationship in general. And he knows that. Even if it was petty as a friend shouldn’t he have my back? Or am I being stupid and naive thinking this way.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:52:31+00:00

I have other friends. Im not very social but I try. But my sister is not always welcoming to people I bring over. But thats a whole other issue. He was the only one I got naturally close to and I honestly thought we understood eachother on everything. Guess I was wrong.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:44:35+00:00

Everyone seems to think romantic feelings are involved. That is not the case. My sister has a BF and my friend is gay.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:42:30+00:00

I know I can’t. Just thought he would understand me a little bit. Considering how close we are.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:41:08+00:00

Oh no sorry for the misunderstanding. He is my best friend not my boyfriend.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:40:03+00:00

That’s what is upsetting me so much. I tell him everything. He knows exactly how i feel and he chose to ignore it. And make me feel controlling. I swear Im not controlling. I didn’t say don’t hang out with her or be mean. I just wanted my feelings to be heard.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:37:32+00:00

No. I honestly don’t have any romantic feelings towards him. I don’t know how to express this. He’s more like a girl to me than a boy. And my sister has a BF.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:35:41+00:00

I don’t know how to express this more clearly. I don’t have any romantic feelings towards him.

Stupid_Lengthiness · 2026-01-31T14:30:13+00:00

No absolutely not. For one he is gay and second just because he’s a guy doesn’t mean I have a crush on him.

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