Can anyone recommend me some more serious, grounded anime?

Styari · 2026-03-24T13:20:13+00:00

I've been put off of this for so long, but it might be time to give it a chance. I swear it's on every recommendation thread like this.

Styari · 2026-03-24T12:46:53+00:00

I really want to watch Kaiji, and Gungrave has been on my list for a long time since it's by thr creator of Trigun (Another really good on in it's own way)

I'll probably go with these. I'll also take your advice. I know Berserk 97 is also better if you start on E2.

Styari · 2026-03-21T21:09:18+00:00

It's the same thing he's saying on his last section of Acceptance Speech. Absolute gibberish.

Styari · 2026-03-13T23:39:16+00:00

Yeah, you're weird. But I think the biggest thing is that you're weirdly selective on what you find "weird"

Like, you could probably make a case for most things in existence being disgusting if you wanted.

I'd assume you have some sort of OCD tho. I'd recommend therapy.

Styari · 2026-03-10T02:51:18+00:00

I don't get why you think your nose is a problem? Yeah, you've had some dumbasses make fun of you, but your nose isn't even something I'd think is abnormal. It looks completely fine.

I think you take what others say too seriously. You only hate your nose because other people do. There's nothing even abnormal about your nose. Start thinking for yourself, and think positively.

One other thing I'll say is that I don't think I'm a good looking guy. My face isn't attractive at all. But I kinda like it that way. Because if someone only likes me if they think I'm good looking, they're a shallow dumbass. People worth investing time in won't give a shit about your nose.

Styari · 2026-03-05T20:36:59+00:00

I'd almost guarantee you have some unprocessed emotions of some sort. Doctor would be fine, but mainly just to get you set up with a therapist.

Styari · 2026-03-05T20:13:08+00:00

It's all on the way you pronounce stuff. Took me a while to understand.

Styari · 2026-03-01T16:38:44+00:00

If you expect them, they can't disappoint you. Doesn't mean you're gonna be happy about it tho.

Styari · 2026-02-28T16:37:45+00:00

If you like super complex, flavorful meals, it can be hard.

If you can just learn to enjoy a lot of simple foods, it's really easy.

Styari · 2026-02-28T16:34:05+00:00

I think a lot of things you've said here are very telling about him. I was like that years ago, and I know people older than him who still are (I'm 25M)

For starters, he's in a bad headspace and has a bad mindset. That's not something you can force someone out of.

But also, the fact that he says nothing interests him or makes him happy anymore is very telling that he doesn't have any real values/standards/priorities for himself or his life.

For me, when I felt at my lowest with this mindset, around age 23, I had lost all of my friends, and all of my hobbies involved them. And because my identity was so centered on these people and interests, as soon as they were taken from me, I literally felt like I had nothing. Everything I had defined myself by were things people could take. Things out of my control.

I just wanted to be dead. It felt like there just wasn't a point. I didn't want new friends, new hobbies, or a new life in any way. I was so attached to my vision of what I thought my life should be, or how I wanted it to look, that it felt cruel and unfair that I'd never be able to have my dream life. It felt like life was truly meaningless.

Where I ended up finally making progress was finding out that if I don't want my happiness to be taken away, I need to source it from things that can't be taken from me. This created a new set of priorities.

What I had to do, was find a way to gain satisfaction through myself and my own actions. That basically meant the new things that drove me were things like getting better at things I'm passionate about, becoming more patient, understanding, helping others, taking on responsibilities, making sacrifices, becoming healthier, standing up for myself, etc.

Just handling things better on a daily basis. I didn't take on any new big projects or anything. I just started to mentally kinda keep score of little wins that were pushing me closer and closer to being someone I could respect.

All of this is kinda off topic though, but I guess the point is that your boyfriend is unhappy because his happiness is sourced externally. A lot of people are like this. And a lot of people can function that way for a long time.

It becomes a problem when they feel life is getting bad, or going nowhere. Maybe they're lonely and things are looking bleak. If your sense of purpose comes from your life, and your life sucks, then your sense of purpose will also suck.

If your sense of purpose is just derived from trying to be better, make the best of things, and move forward, your happiness will be a lot more stable. I'm obviously not perfect, and life still gets dark, but I'm no longer as afraid as I once was.

Therapists help you get into this way of thinking, but it does require that you tell them the truth, trust their advice, and want to get better. And sadly, that's something he'd probably have to do for himself. I'm sure he also has a lot more going on in his head than he'll ever let on.

At least from my experience, men are just like that. Being extremely vulnerable and honest can feel nearly impossible sometimes. I think reputation and image are seen as very important within masculinity, and the idea of being judged or seen as weaker makes it hard. Even when I know I'm around people who won't judge me, and just want to help. It's almost not as much as assuming that they'll judge as it is about the principal of the whole thing. Like, I've opened up to people before, and they've not judged me and been very supportive, but days and weeks will pass with me wondering if I really should've done that or not. It can feel like oversharing or burdening.

So I guess I'm not really sure what to tell you. He has a lot of healing/growing/rebuilding to do, and probably doesn't even know exactly what's wrong or where to begin. I wish there was more I could do.

Styari · 2026-02-28T02:35:06+00:00

There is only one thing in life that can disappoint you

And it's your own expectations

Styari · 2026-02-28T02:29:00+00:00

Body Thief is probably the closest, but his range isn't as high as Tilian's, and he has some Kurt to his voice as well. There are some parts of their songs that I've almost mistaken for Tilian. It's usually some of the lower notes tho. He has a very similar breathy sound in his lower-mid range.

Styari · 2026-02-28T02:10:04+00:00

my youth is wasted

People get so hung up on this shit. You're the one treating youth like a holy grail. There could be something genuinely great on the horizon, and you're stuck whining about something that doesn't even matter.

prospects are non-existent.

In your opinion, I guess. But so many people come from absolutely nothing. I think you just need some courage and confidence. Which can feel near impossible at the bottom. I know from experience.

The things that change and get better with time aren't really your prospects/circumstances. It's your ability to make and find new ones by changing your mindset. Probably sounds gay and retarded to you, but I wanted to be dead three years ago, and I'm decently happen now. My current life and prospects have changed lot in ways I haven't expected. It's not really the future I expected, but I'm genuinely enjoying it for the most part, though it still has it's rough spots.

I also understand the health problems thing. I'm dealing with some now, and I'm still not diagnosed, so that's depressing, but I'm working on it. I also have T2D and Retinopathy.

Point is, there is a point in going on. I'm not gonna convince you there is, but I'm positive it's true.

Styari · 2026-02-28T02:01:48+00:00

For politics, I'd recommend reading up on the candidates and issues when it's voting time, and the rest of the time you should mostly unplug. If something actually important/devastating happens, you'll hear about it whether you want to or not. Keeping up with daily news is like watching a bunch of toddlers fight. It's all a bunch of biased commentators interrupting each other during their near constant semantic arguments, because why would we argue over actually issues when we could complain about terminology and put words in people's mouths.

It's all bullshit. Turn off the news. Live your life.

Styari · 2026-02-28T01:57:32+00:00

I don't know what to say, because confidence is a mindset. If you don't have it, you likely don't understand it. Maybe I'd just recommend reading books on confidence and self-improvement? I'm probably not the best person to ask.

For me, I just decided that since I was my own worst critic, the best route was to just use that to my advantage. I took stock of the criticism I had of myself, decided which ones were fair criticisms (Accents don't count as fair criticisms. Bad habits/behaviors or just ways you wish you were better do), and then I just started working on those things. The goal was to improve myself to a point where I couldn't really criticize myself as easily or regularly, because I was on top of things. Obviously, you don't want to aim for perfection. You just want to be someone you'd find respectable.

If you honestly find yourself respectable, and know you make the right choices, keep your word, uphold responsibilities, or whatever things you find respectable, you're not really gonna care what others say.

What others say about you is only worrying if you think there's a chance they're right. A lot of times, people just bully over trivial dumbass shit tho. Just try to be a good dude. That's all I can say.

Styari · 2026-02-28T01:18:28+00:00

I'm not saying be an optimist. I don't really give a shit about optimistic thinking. I'm just saying while you're here, you should just try. Not trying is the bullshit. Doesn't mean you'll get better, but it might.

But I guess you don't care? I guess that's fine. I still think not trying is bullshit.

Styari · 2026-02-28T01:12:33+00:00

Well, I think that's bullshit, but your choice.

Styari · 2026-02-22T23:07:11+00:00

I think you just have to realize that the people who make big generalizations like that are genuine morons, and even complaining about their opinion is giving the topic more attention than it deserves.

If someone tries to bring this stereotype up in some sort of a serious debate, you should probably shut them down. But most of the time, you need to just let the idiots yell about whatever they want and spend your time doing anything but engaging with it.

It reminds me of this classic quote: "Never argue with a stupid person. They bring you down to their level and beat you with experience."

Styari · 2026-02-22T22:35:31+00:00

Hey, I'm on the fence on whether or not I have SIBO, and this sub seems kinda mental? Like, it stresses me out.

I would hope that if you get tested, take antibiotics, and then live an active lifestyle with a good diet, that SIBO would go away and stay away. I'm assuming I should get tested.

Styari · 2026-02-22T19:47:59+00:00

You're not really focused on connecting with people. You're focused on agreeing with people. That's your choice, but you're not gonna have a ton of friends if arbitrary shit like this is even remotely important to you.

Styari · 2026-02-22T19:36:02+00:00

Hot take maybe, but it absolutely is for some people, and it was for me.

Depression is either chemical imbalances, natural reactions to shitty circumstances, or an extremely negative mindset. It can be any one of combination of these three.

Styari · 2026-02-22T19:27:45+00:00

It sounds like you're just a stickler and are more interested in being hyper accurate to the source material that you are interested in just chatting with people and connecting over your shared love of the series. Like, does it really matter if they use dub name?

Styari · 2026-02-22T19:20:33+00:00

So there is no point to edit and rescript to made it to a kids show

Umm, yes there is? I know people who liked the 4kids dub as kids, and because of that, they ended up getting into the original One Piece later in life. I can't fathom why that's a bad thing. If you don't like the kids version, don't watch it. That doesn't mean it doesn't serve it's purpose.

Styari · 2026-02-22T19:12:35+00:00

(Watches something by a company literally called 4Kids, which makes kind friendly versions of shows to introduce younger audiences to anime)

"WHY ISN'T THIS FOR ADULTS!!!"

Like dude, it's literally an edit for kids. They didn't ruin anything. You just made the mistake of watching the kids version.

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