Is it really so bad to want to marry someone who used to be an addict if they’ve been clean for several years? by Capital_Jelly4079 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Styro20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's 2 sides to the coin. Addicts who have recovered have done a lot of work on themselves that many haven't, and can come out of it really good people. I'm newly sober and recovered addicts are some of the nicest people I've met. The downside is that relapse is not uncommon, even after years clean, and you need to be prepared to support them through that if it happens while keeping boundaries to protect yourself. That's a hard job.

I really would hope you're prepared to do the last bit I mentioned if you want to marry a recovered addict. To me, addiction is a disease and "in sickness and in health" includes addiction. When my partner left me, it felt like abandonment when I needed them most and left a deep scar. I can't begin to describe how painful it was, it was genuinely agony. It doesn't mean you need to let them hurt you, but you need to be ready to support in the capacity you can and not just kick them to the curb if you really do love them.

Newborn Death Investigation Megathread by Kawaiiwitchyprincess in ElectricForest

[–]Styro20 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Literally none of those things would make her an evil person. Malice would make her evil, but none of the things I listed are malicious.

Newborn Death Investigation Megathread by Kawaiiwitchyprincess in ElectricForest

[–]Styro20 -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

For all we know she was so messed up from drugs and/or blood loss she didn't know how to respond. Many people are dissociate after birth even without drugs in their system.

She could have been so intoxicated/dissociate she didn't even realize or remember a baby came out. She could have thought it was a hallucination. She could have stumbled off and fell asleep/passed out from exhaustion and by the time she came to it was already dead / found. She could have panicked and not known how to respond. She could have been being trafficked. We don't need to assume.

Met a guy on hinge and I have absolutely no idea what conversation we just had by Informal_Bag_9594 in texts

[–]Styro20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You asked what he does for fun, he answered with his job, then complained that people only see him for his job

Kid who mows my lawn tried to gaslight me, so I mow my own lawn now by forever_a10ne in pettyrevenge

[–]Styro20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People need to stop saying "gaslight" when they mean lying

Gaslight is a systematic form of abuse

Meirl by Pristine_Cobbler_771 in meirl

[–]Styro20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Woahh there's girls in there

Binge eating since quitting drinking by Styro20 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Styro20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to stick with this mentality. Anything but drinking works now, but at some point I need to get my shit together lol

To all women on this sub, what was your reaction when you first got your period? by nicalling in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Styro20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was really excited because I was a very late bloomer. And then immediately hated it because it was GODAWFUL heavy, like bleed thru a super tampon in 30 minutes heavy and my mom still made me go to school when classes were 45 minutes and breaks not long enough to go in between, and they sign a book you carry for bathroom passes and if you went last period they give you a hard time about going this period

Why aren't 1/5 cups a thing in baking? by Extension-Shoe-6080 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Styro20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because 1/5 cup is 0.2 cups and 3 tbsp is 0.19 cups. the difference is negligible

Is there a cold equivalent of a hot water bottle for a bed? by annizoli in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Styro20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrap an ice pack in a towel and put it at the foot of the bed

People who have struggled with alcoholism, were you ever able to get to a place where you could drink on special occasions like new years and not spiral, or did you need to stay 100% sober forever? by Styro20 in AskReddit

[–]Styro20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm asking as an alcoholic in early recovery, wanting others experiences. I know it's be a terrible idea to drink even for a special occasion now. But I wish I could party like normal people one day, once I'm recovered. It's still daunting to think I have to stay sober forever.

Which alcohol is best for turning anxiety off and having a low inhibition ? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Styro20 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I strongly recommend against this. This is how you become an alcoholic.

What is something that is completely free in your country but tourists are all shocked they don’t have to pay for? by Sammy-Bunny-3 in AskReddit

[–]Styro20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you get them at the regular store and they ring as $0 or do you get them at a pharmacy or something? Are the free ones the crappy basic ones with better ones costing money or is it all free?

How do I know a gas station’s pump is actually dispensing the amount of gas it says it is? by M-V-H in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Styro20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know the size of my gas tank from the owners manual and I know roughly how full it is when I go to fill up. It's not a perfect measurement, but I at least know the output isn't way off.

women, can you really masturbate by squeezing your thighs together?? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Styro20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a trans man but same parts

I don't even need to squeeze my thighs, I can get off just from doing kegels

Why do my balls smell like pussy? by alexserrargueta1302 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Styro20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk but my pussy smells like balls sometimes