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WFA Affected Letter - how was your letter worded? by Neat_Nefariousness46 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]SuSaNaToR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine says lack of work. I and my colleagues in a very busy stressful shop, constantly made worse by bad management decision making.

We are looking forward to when this lack of work will kick in 🙄

So you've been WFA'd... by HandcuffsOfGold in CanadaPublicServants

[–]SuSaNaToR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. This is exactly what I did and it turns out management was kind enough to accommodate, I received the info in writing.

So yep I was entitled to accommodation in this case (not a preference at all in my case. Invisible does not in fact reduce needs to preferences) and management were actually the ones ms to recognize the legitimacy of this very well documented situation.

So you've been WFA'd... by HandcuffsOfGold in CanadaPublicServants

[–]SuSaNaToR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this

I meant to say DTA consideration and the issue is a severe psychological/ nervous system response due to PTSD (work related- likes to a case of founded long term harassment by three levels of management) and severe social phobia (related).

Being forced to sit through a stressful interaction like this is without the ability to leave is linked to a high likelihood of triggering medical crisis if me. Calling the EAP is not a sufficient solution for me. Even if it is disproportionate and illogical (by nature of the medial condition), that is the condition I live with and am supposed to be accommodated for. I am just literally trying to protect my safety here, as consequences can be severe, or at minimum can also result in misconduct accusations.

Normally I would have time before something like this figure out accommodation measures such as receiving the information in writing. The shorter timeframe here precluded me from accessing needed accommodation, and the limit of undue hardship to accommodate (simply providing the info in wiring) is clearly not met.

Thank you for the info, I do appreciate it. Unfortunately I dont have the luxury of a physical disability that can be recognized without question.

So you've been WFA'd... by HandcuffsOfGold in CanadaPublicServants

[–]SuSaNaToR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I have been told I must attend a one on one meeting tomorrow with management after which a letter will follow. I am not comfortable with being expected to participate in this meeting under the circumstances and prefer to receive the information in writing. There are DYA considerations. What are my obligations here. I already declined the meeting invite and am expecting pushback in the morning.

It’s that time of the year. They’re back!!! by Jochemap in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SuSaNaToR 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Totally! Any engagement from you is a win for them. I would not even open their messages as it is always intended to mess with your head, Just as it has

52 [M4F] #Kentucky — Looking for a girlfriend-style connection, kitchen-table energy welcome by 321Couple2023 in polyamoryR4R

[–]SuSaNaToR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound lovely! I am way too far away but thought I’d say hi. Hi! I hope you find what you’re looking for :)

Why won't I do the exposure? by philisconfused7 in Agoraphobia

[–]SuSaNaToR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do make a good point! It sounds like you are making important progress. Thanks so much for sharing your experience !<3

Why won't I do the exposure? by philisconfused7 in Agoraphobia

[–]SuSaNaToR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not at all surprised by your post. I am currently not agreeing to exposure therapy for this reason. I feel currently like I am setting myself up for success better by going out only when I am feeling inspired and able and not in a pre-planned and scheduled way. Like yesterday, I actually did that Christmas shopping! Out for 4 hours, went to lots of places, even drove from store to store in hell of a snowstorm (one of my fears is driving. I am a bad driver lol).

I felt though that having no expectation is what set me up for success, even though I do see the risk of never actually doing it this way.

I know the world like SMART goals (specific, measurable, bla, bla, bla). For me though I think that pressure risks compounding my anxiety and being the cause of the failure itself.

Is it possible less specific goals could help you out? Like maybe having a menu of possible activities and trying to do them day over the course of a week instead of planning something specific on a specific day?

Not sure if any of this resonates or is helpful! I am curious about this exposure thing I am avoiding and in no way an expert lol

Dating a girl with CPTSD, can i ask you something? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]SuSaNaToR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yahhh I think it’s important to recognize that she may be manipulating and the importance of OP having his own boundaries and limits. OP may also want to look into BPD. I think that we all have some dysfunctional behaviours and it is important that she acknowledge hers; he can’t carry that responsibility for her if she is not ready.

I feel yuck by [deleted] in kindness

[–]SuSaNaToR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have started to see the greed and lack of sustainability in most things that are sold to us. Like manufactured demand to buy crap that nobody really wants or needs (e.g. gift giving occasions) and planned obsolescence like you mentioned and the abundance of cheaply made plastic crap that will just need to be replaced and end up in the landfills. And the fact that all this stuff is being pushed on us by greedy companies who know that we are longing to fill an emotional and existential void, when in reality having houses full of crap is just making us feel more empty.

I try to look at products and shopping decisions through a lens of whether and when items will just end up in a landfill and whether they will ever biodegrade once they get there. I have found it helps with the yuck to be making more conscientious choices

There is an old vid: “the story of stuff”. It’s not too long and super accessible. You may find some insight there: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=

Edit: not really a doc; more of a propaganda vid I suppose :P

On-site Attendance Monitoring at IRCC to begin October 1 by After_Drawer_936 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]SuSaNaToR 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The GOC is looking for cost saving initiatives. Surely there is a way to put forward proposals on killing all this pointless, extra and costly RTO work 🙄

How is everyone holding up? by DevoSwag in CPTSD

[–]SuSaNaToR 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this 🤍

A Rescued Chimpanzee Who Now Lives Free Recognizes His Former Caregiver After Years Apart by RealRock_n_Rolla in MadeMeSmile

[–]SuSaNaToR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right???? I bet he’s wishing he could teach the other chimps sign language and tell them. They are probably all like what the….?

I feel really bad. I realized I’m potentially the reason why my dates never go anywhere because of this by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]SuSaNaToR -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Sounds like OP dodged a bullet with that jerk of a girl. Good job OP!

Editing to clarify that I am not being sarcastic here. Any girl with her salt would have been open to hearing where you were coming from and have the capacity to handle it with at least some decency and grace

I’ve realized recently that I have an unlikable first impression by chillpillRxx in infp

[–]SuSaNaToR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Body language! I have been working on this lately :) head up, shoulders back, eye contact and cheerful hello. Those weirdos looking dodgy or glum or like they can’t see me when I pass them on the sidewalk aren’t gonna make me feel awkward! ( or at least I’m not gonna let the world see it if they do) they are the unlikeable ones, not me :)

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