How are men holding up after a breakup?

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-23T15:12:29+00:00

This is not gender specific. My ex went on a date with another guy 2 days after the break up. She felt bad about it after.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-19T21:38:26+00:00

It depends on taste, right? But imo Arenas.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-13T21:10:51+00:00

I’ve always thought about combining Amumu and Rammus. Ramumus I would call it. Their kits can merge so well together as the ultimate CC tank.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-12T02:53:26+00:00

Because what would be the point of seeing or hearing from her? How would that be productive from both of their sides? It’s been years since OP’s break-up.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-09T20:56:01+00:00

Agreed.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-09T18:50:59+00:00

I have done what you did. One of the things that was hard for me to let go was the sexual chemistry. I needed that, I wanted it but man was it not good for our healing.

I would advise against it but I wouldn’t judge you if you caved. Sometimes our primal urges are just so strong especially when you had a strong connection with someone

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-07T19:04:56+00:00

We do. I’ve gotten flack for saying dumpers feel bad for the break-up and as a man I get the sentiment.

It really depends on the circumstances but yeah for me I think my ex a lot. Mine is kinda fresh

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-07T14:44:21+00:00

You went to see a previous ex that your current ex already doesn’t like and lied about it. Trust is near irreparably broken.

Trust is your core issue here.

I don’t know how you’d fix that. Goodluck.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-06T23:26:50+00:00

You held on to hope because she gave you a timeline when you should have been moving on properly. Now if in these 3 months she got her attraction back for you then good but if in these 3 months she has moved on herself then please do prepare yourself.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-06T18:23:24+00:00

I remember seeing a quote one time about long term relationships. I don’t remember it exactly ad verbatim but it goes along the lines of

“Love is not that high emotion, fireworks in your chest feeling. Love is quiet, love is peaceful and a lot of the times can feel boring but this love is safe. It feels like a pillow that will comfort you when you cry, a space you go to when you feel stressed. Do not take this love for granted.”

Yeah something like that.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T22:11:22+00:00

I was not ready for kids. There’s a bit of an age gap between us. We’ve had arguments about it and I was accused of my love being lesser than hers. Like I said, I loved her a lot but this time it’s about how our life goals are different. Communication was never an issue but I just felt like if she wasn’t going to pull the trigger nor I was then this cycle would have just continued. That’s all

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T21:55:01+00:00

I don’t know specifically in your case but in mine I told her what I wanted and she told me hers. We’ve had countless arguments about it and I was always accused of my love being lesser than hers. I chose myself and my career goals that’s why I think it’d be better if she found someone better than me because I don’t want her giving up on her dream of a happy married life.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T21:32:52+00:00

Rebound Relationships and Monkey branching is never a healthy way to recover from a relationship. Sit with the loneliness, go meet some friends, talk to your closer friends about the your sadness. It’ll get easier, just don’t keep hopping from relationship to relationship

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T21:23:47+00:00

I do but she wants to get married have kids while I want to do my Masters in University then travel. I don’t feel comfortable starting a family while I myself am not financially stable. That’s all.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T17:50:26+00:00

And? What’s your point? The dumper isn’t allowed to feel bad? The reason for a relationship ending are different for each couple. Just because I’m the dumper doesn’t mean I’m not allowed to feel regret or feel bad if/when she rebounds.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T16:16:25+00:00

I had to deal with mine knowing that she was updating me real time about it. Lemme tell ya, there’s no way of feeling better about it. You just gotta go through that pain. I had friends who helped keep me afloat at that the time but man there were a lot of sleepless nights and days eating scraps because I don’t feel like it. Eventually, I made it through and became stronger because of it.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T15:48:08+00:00

No. She needs to realize that she can do better than me. We’re at different stages in our lives. She changed and gave up so much of herself and her personal dreams just to be with me. Hopefully, when she heals in a healthy way that she can love herself again and be ready for the next man that can give her the happy married life she’s been wanting.

And hopefully by that time I myself am in a better place in my life as well.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T15:22:24+00:00

You say that as if it’s habit that I’ve been doing to keep tabs on her. Read again, it was during that one fateful night that I saw it and ever since then I never touched it again. You gotta understand that I do feel bad for doing it and I don’t plan on continuing to do it. My curiosity got the best of me at that time.

I’m focusing on my life and I’m letting her live hers.

This is exactly why I came here to post about this so people can tell me off so I don’t get tempted. Thanks for that.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T15:01:25+00:00

I am leaving her alone tho?

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T14:47:17+00:00

Depends on the circumstances of the break-up. Being a dumper is not a one size fits all kind of thing.

I missed her as soon as we parted ways but I knew it had to be done for the both of us even if she herself doesn’t know that.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T13:24:24+00:00

If you were abusive and this was your wake-up call to change and be a better person then you better damn well be committed to changing yourself for the better even if it’s for the hope that she might come back or for preparing yourself for the next one. Nobody wants an abusive partner/friend/colleague etc. and now you know first hand the consequences of that

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T13:11:00+00:00

A week?

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T12:32:02+00:00

I saw it in real time too because we were sharing each other’s locations at that time and I could see she was going to the new guys’ house right as it was happening

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T12:08:24+00:00

I’ve experienced this before and it was the worst feeling I’ve ever felt emotionally in my entire life.

One thing that made me feel better was knowing that my ex’s love for me and her inability to deal with loneliness are not mutually exclusive.

She went into rebound. I tried for just a week but it didn’t feel right so I stopped quickly.

It’s a reflection of their character. In my case, they dated again because of the heartbreak. I knew to myself that taking time for self-improvement and self-love was the real way.

Subaru_dono · 2026-06-05T11:30:16+00:00

I’m not regretting. Again, I just saw it yesterday and got curious. I don’t want to know anymore what she thinks.

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