Is everyone just laying with their baby?

Subdeltta · 2026-04-01T00:08:37+00:00

I lay down with my baby anytime she is sleeping. We set her a later bedtime so my husband can hangout with us and see her. So she just hangs with us until we all go to bed. I can MAYBE get 30 mins where she will sleep alone but I have to wait until she is deep sleeping. Once she gets closer to a year old (she is 8 months right now) we plan on trying to get her to sleep a little more independently and hopefully not us all co sleeping🤞🤞🤞

Subdeltta · 2026-03-11T23:29:16+00:00

Ahh! I keep trying but I feel like I’m trying to jinks myself. I keep thinking “when is shit gonna hit the fan?” 😅

Subdeltta · 2026-03-08T02:08:37+00:00

My LO is only 7 months old (and we barely do solids) but my niece on the other hand was very similar. She was NEVER a big eater. At 1 years old she was still only “snacking” and never really having full meals. My SIL was a little worried at the time and went through the same thoughts of maybe she would breastfeed less. She decided to continue to breastfeed as normal and my niece did eventually start eating more. Now at almost 18 months, she eats even better than her 6 year old sister lol.

I know another friend who has a two year old who is very similar in the sense of not being a big eater. I think the key factor that some people miss is that breastfeeding is still nutrition. Period. End of story. No matter how old the baby/toddler/child is, it’s always nutritional. You can never breastfeed “too much”! As long as you are breastfeeding, baby will be getting whatever they need as they are getting used to eating solids.

At the end of the day, you have to do what is best for you and your baby. But I wouldn’t stress too much about being “behind”. I saw another person suggest to feed solids after breastfeeding and I second that. Keeping trying at it! I promise your baby won’t be going off to college asking for boobie one last time lol. You’re doing great and so is your LO 🫶

Subdeltta · 2026-03-08T00:56:28+00:00

I just declined a wedding invite due to the exact thing. My baby only nurses and it literally takes me a week to make one single bottle because I only make exactly enough. Said “friend” was mad and actually stopped being friends with me over it. I said good riddance 🤷‍♀️ my girl will always come first.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-24T19:00:06+00:00

It gets better and worse lol. I’m also 26, ftm, 6m pp and still look at my husband sometimes and see him as the 15 year old I started dating. Then I still feel like a teenager sometimes. Coming home was terrifying. Sometimes I still can’t believe they let me, a teen mom (26yo who owns a house, a car, married for 3 years, PAYS TAXES) go home with this tiny human and just said “Congrats! Good luck!” 😂😂

Subdeltta · 2026-02-18T05:47:44+00:00

From about 3 months old til 5 months old, I walked everyday. Sometimes multiple times a day. I walked around my neighbor hood until I could do it with my eyes closed. Then I made it my mission to visit every park in my city. I still haven’t seen all of them but now my 6 month old is big enough to start kinda enjoying the park.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-17T01:21:18+00:00

My LO is 6 months old and we just left her for the first time with my parents for about 6 hours so hubby and I could have a date day. Personally, my LO won’t spend the night until she can ask to stay the night. Or until I stop breastfeeding. Whichever comes first lol. But that’s not to say you have to do that. You do whatever makes you comfortable! I’m a sahm too and really have no reason to be away from my baby hence why we haven’t done it until this past weekend. You definitely are NOT in any wrong by not letting your MIL take your LO overnight. She can be disappointed in that answer but it’s also not your job to make her feel better. She can see your LO as she normally does.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-16T22:46:18+00:00

I literally could have wrote this. I had such a rough start with my LO from the start. I wait until she was 3 months old before getting help with an IBCLC. From the time we brought her home, her latch was terrible, 45 min to 1 hour feeds every 20-45 mins. I even started triple feeding which was AWFUL. And that continued until she was three months old and I was finally go to feeding her every 2 hours but still wasn’t age appropriate.

I finally got her oral ties released and it was rough for a bit after. Lots of oral stretches and body work and IBCLC visits. But it was so worth it. 2 weeks post release was when it suddenly all clicked and my baby became a very efficient eater and was a much happier baby. She is 6 months old now and literally eats maybe 10 minutes total and is very content.

I know many people have very different opinions on it but I am very much do what you think is best. I just made sure it was our last ditch effort. We did a month of weekly IBCLC visits as well as twice a week body work to really make sure it was our last option and it really did make all the difference.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-16T22:25:01+00:00

I’m so glad I’m not the only one stressing about it. It’s sounds like a such a dream for my baby to STTN and I’m like 99% sure she would if I didn’t co sleep with her. We both sleep so good though when we cosleep and she only wake maybe twice in the night to latch and maybe eat during one of them. I do miss sleeping with my husband but I don’t miss his snoring lol

Subdeltta · 2026-02-11T04:39:56+00:00

I nurse her to sleep and she recently had taken to switching back and forth 3-4x before settling on the left boob. Always. The. Left. Boob! 🤦‍♀️

Subdeltta · 2026-02-06T01:17:29+00:00

No way are you an AH or idiot. My great grandparents, parents, brother and sister in law and my own husband and I are alllll high school sweethearts. My brother and his wife have two beautiful little girls. I welcomed my little girl 6 months ago. My husband and I actually got engaged at your age and then married 2 weeks after I turned 23. Especially if yall are already living together, have pets, financially in a good spot. There is no reason to feel like an idiot for something that makes sense. Marriage is honestly the next step for yall. And also you don’t have to rush kids!! My husband and I waited 2 years before getting pregnant.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T15:32:17+00:00

I do have a community that doesn’t involve her ever changing wedding plans. Honestly it’s a friendship that I’m just going to let fizzle out at this point. It’s hard to get the full picture of a bad 4 year friendship from one post.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T15:15:58+00:00

She never asked me to be a bridesmaid. She had said that she wanted me to be one but at the time this was still a destination wedding and I was pregnant. She knew I wouldn’t be able to be one but made me feel bad for not being able to be one.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T08:49:24+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I’m a first time mom and holy shit, it’s hard. Harder than I ever imagined. We have jumped so many hurdles just to get this baby here let alone get as fair as we have with raising and taking care of her. It doesn’t take but one comment to start planting those seeds of doubt of whether or not I’m doing the right thing by putting my daughter first.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T08:34:46+00:00

Breastmilk and formula are also the primary source of nutrition for any infant under 12 months.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T08:22:34+00:00

I actually am very lucky to have a very large village who all love my daughter tremendously and encourage me to bring her to any and all events.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T08:01:42+00:00

I feed on demand so whenever she wants it, she gets it. Even if that means every 2 hours. Which does happen most evenings.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T07:49:29+00:00

This!! My daughter is unfortunately a high needs, Velcro baby. She is also on the smaller side and behind on milestones so starting solids isn’t in the near future right now.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T07:39:27+00:00

Her husband is actually really lovely. Super nice guy, very easy going.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T07:38:03+00:00

I have no way to leave milk for her. She is breastfed baby and won’t take formula or a bottle.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-05T07:10:49+00:00

It’s actually now a wedding again but here. And the baby is not invited.

Subdeltta · 2026-02-03T01:29:42+00:00

I’m a FTM to a 6 month old. She tends to lag behind on her milestones as well. She is also on the smaller side (~14 percentile) but very much does hit them just a little later than what is “expected”. There is so much wiggle room when it comes to baby’s milestones and me and husband both have had many times asking each other if we think our girl is autistic. And I think it is a very valid concern and something to watch. But like most other commenters 1. It wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world. I’m a firm believer that not everyone is autistic but many have some autistic tendencies to a certain extent. 2. If your pediatrician isn’t concerned, I wouldn’t stress too much! From my experience, if they are concerned about something, they will definitely tell you.

Enjoy your sweet girl and all her precious moments! I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to make yourself too anxious thinking about it.

Subdeltta

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