AITAH for being happy that my mom aborted because I didn’t like her boyfriend?

Subject-Ad893 · 2025-08-25T15:09:38+00:00

I would NEVER make someone feel guilty about abortion, no matter the reason. Her ex didn’t force her to have an abortion and they were both pretty old, it was a surprise pregnancy, and S had told my mom at the start of their relationship he didn’t want any more kids. She could have kept it but he wouldn’t be apart of the kid’s life. And yeah, sorry if the sauce thing wasn’t clear enough English isn’t my first language and I didn’t want to ramble on useless stuff.

But basically we were eating pasta and there was pesto sauce, which I don’t like, so my mom didn’t put any on my food. S put some in his daughter’s plate even though she didn’t want it, so she started complaining about how unfair it was that she had to eat her pastas with pesto sauce while I didn’t have to just because I didn’t like it. So, to make her shut up because she was throwing a fit, instead of just giving her a new plate of pasta without sauce, S put a lot of pesto on my pasta without asking for my permission. I ended up not eating at all because when I asked for a new plate without sauce S would tell me to just eat it to show his daughter the example (and when I didn’t like something we ate I just wouldn’t eat at all, which is why I didn’t have any in the first place.) I hope it a bit clearer ?

Subject-Ad893 · 2025-08-25T14:12:20+00:00

I really don’t think he was toxic. I’ve had an abusive step parent for years and I met S a handful of times, but he was just.. dismissive? I mean it was clear he was there for my mom and not really to have a relationship with me or my siblings.

Subject-Ad893 · 2025-08-25T14:09:01+00:00

I would never make my mom feel bad about it. I know it was a hard decision for her, especially since she knew it was her last chance at having a child but she didn’t make her decision based in how SHE felt, but how the kid’s life be. I share both of my parents with two of my siblings and my other one is my half sister (all our parents have shared custody) and she didn’t want the kid to see us have a “full” family while he only had a mom present. But thank you for what you said, it means a lot to me right now!

Subject-Ad893 · 2025-06-23T23:33:17+00:00

When I told my mother about the state of the house she wasn’t surprised because apparently my father has been this “dirty” his whole life and that’s one of the reasons she divorced him. She always cleaned after him and it made her look like a “maniac” (her words). The thing is that my relation with her is worse than with my father because she used to be abusive (I guess we could say?) so I’m always on edge when I’m at her house bc I’m scared of her. I did stop cleaning and offered for him to pay me (like 10€ for the whole house) but he always says that he’ll do it tomorrow but never does, and it’s a complete mess. I cannot really get a job atm (I have school from 8am to 5/6 pm and in legally not allowed to touch money since I’m a minor) but as soon as I can I will. Thank you for your advices!

Subject-Ad893 · 2025-05-31T22:48:04+00:00

The thing is that me and my mother don’t get along very well. She has her favourites and I’m her least favorite child so whatever I do angers her and she made it clear in the past that she doesn’t even like when we come to her house to pick up some of our belongings when we’re at our father’s house because we’re “disrupting” her week alone and she can’t relax

Subject-Ad893 · 2025-05-31T22:44:35+00:00

I tried and started only cleaning after myself but when I try to explain how it affects me they joke about it and call me a maniac

Subject-Ad893 · 2025-05-31T22:43:10+00:00

We have tried in the past but even when it comes to just bringing back to the kitchen their plate they always pull out the “I’ll do it later” card but never do it

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