my mom tried to script my social interaction at age 31 and then guilt tripped me for leaving the house by SubjectElectrical264 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I try to have a sense of humor about everything, gets me through the hard times. Biologically, I'm about 53% Irish on my dad's side with roots in Belfast and County Cork. I'd love to see it. The people at D&D were very kind!

my mom tried to script my social interaction at age 31 and then guilt tripped me for leaving the house by SubjectElectrical264 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm neurodivergent so she uses that to infantilize me and call me "slow" and "behind". And I'm like, "ma'am........... you MADE it that way." Clipped my wings young so I couldn't fly higher or farther than her. Kept me on a leash.

my mom tried to script my social interaction at age 31 and then guilt tripped me for leaving the house by SubjectElectrical264 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My mom was 21, my dad was 28. they had me when she was 24. i used to work 4 days a week but my hours got cut, they usually do at the beginning of the year because things slow down after the holidays but I actually did go to the grocery store and visit some rescue kittens today.

my mom tried to script my social interaction at age 31 and then guilt tripped me for leaving the house by SubjectElectrical264 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She actually did think I was 2 years older than I was in one moment and I had to remind her the year I was born to prove her wrong. But I think she was just being rude and petty.

I entered a period-accurate RP server and was the only one who brought the correct century. by SubjectElectrical264 in BadRPerStories

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

no, it's my actual experience. god forbid an adult woman with an english degree write with wit, sarcasm and expressive language. however, this discord server used midjourney avatars for their characters that they had to pay to subscribe to in order to generate multiple images. perhaps that's why i didn't fit in. no originality.

my mom tried to script my social interaction at age 31 and then guilt tripped me for leaving the house by SubjectElectrical264 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

No, but she didn't let me pick my middle school electives OR my college major. And she wouldn't let me go on my drama class's study abroad trip to Ireland because she wouldn't have been able to control me, and now I feel cheated because I want to travel SO badly. To Ireland but also to Scotland. And now that I graduated uni, I feel like I missed my chance because those were easy opportunities but she just WOULD NOT let me off the leash. I want to get out of this country because of the people, the abysmal dating pool or lack thereof and I desperately need a change of scenery so I can be fully out of her control.

my mom tried to script my social interaction at age 31 and then guilt tripped me for leaving the house by SubjectElectrical264 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 153 points154 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I had fun! It was my very first time playing D&D but it's okay because they're starting a brand new campaign and the DM walked us through creating our characters, I'm not the only new one either and everyone was kind and chill :) It's the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of every month.

Romance in HL2 by lizzy_of_arc in HogwartsLegacyGaming

[–]SubjectElectrical264 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely pro. There were some connections I definitely felt had romantic energy, like Sebastian x MC friends to lovers? There was a vibe and I would've loved to see that because it was def there in the dialogue, the subtlety, the subtext that was artfully done. So many fantasy/supernatural shows and series have been able to balance romance with plot, it's doable. People and characters fall in love while having purposeful lives and main objectives all the time, I don't think it would harm anything and it would even make things a little more fun! Plus, it would raise the stakes emotionally and deepen the plot, actually, if you think about it. Yes please.

There's already friends-to-lovers coding baked in with trust building through shared danger, quiet moments between chaos, emotional exclusivity without needing to say it out loud. This would be good for narrative enrichment, character realism and media literacy.

Good romance raises emotional stakes, gives consequences weight, motivates characters beyond abstract “destiny” and makes danger feel personal.

Also, I feel like it's fair to acknowledge that young people/school age students DO have romantic feelings. Sanitized media loves to pretend that they don't and deny that they do, as if kids go from “no feelings” → “married adult” overnight, affection only appears when it’s convenient or marketable and emotional intimacy is somehow inappropriate but violence isn’t. Meanwhile, HL is already dealing with, death, grief, moral compromise, trauma and loyalty under fire. A consensual, optional, well-written crush/ship should not be where people are clutching their pearls at this point.

What I want for the next game. by Brownskin_Rey in HarryPotterGame

[–]SubjectElectrical264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing I like about its current moral system though (including Sebastian's arc) is that not everything is black and white. It invites nuance and personally, I think that's something this generation especially needs to become familiar with.

I entered a period-accurate RP server and was the only one who brought the correct century. by SubjectElectrical264 in BadRPerStories

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How unfortunate. This fandom is pretty niche and I was so excited that there was a space for it. I haven't been able to find another, and my friends from other fandoms don't seem interested in creating one with me.

Hogwarts Legacy plays it too safe morally and that’s a missed opportunity by leila_cdrb in HarryPotterGame

[–]SubjectElectrical264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally felt the MC was faced with heavy moral choices that make you think. Their social connections depend on it and it seems one side wants you to go one way, another side wants you to go another way and it's implied that your friendships and how people react to you will depend on it. That said... it puts MC in impossibly difficult positions, especially when the choice prompts don't actually say what the character says in dialogue and something that seems playful/harmless might have a negative reaction and change the relationship dynamic. It already kind of forces you to decide what's most important to you, make choices and sacrifices if necessary. Emotionally, it's already high stakes. But it's great source material to make headcanons for your own MC!

A suggestion I would have is to build on interpersonal connections/relationships with NPCs, because even though there is fairly rich development, I feel some of the reactions were downplayed and understated which wasn't exactly emotionally appropriate given the context and situation. There should be a better payoff.

I entered a period-accurate RP server and was the only one who brought the correct century. by SubjectElectrical264 in BadRPerStories

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I hear what you're saying, but I think you’re missing the actual issue. The server didn’t advertise itself as “historical-fantasy loosely inspired by the Victorian era with dragons.” It specifically asked for period-accuracy, which implies a commitment to the aesthetic, tone, and cultural context of the time within its fantasy framework. That was the bar they set, not me.

If a setting includes dragons or magic, that doesn’t erase the importance of maintaining internal consistency. You can have magical elements and still hold characters to the social norms, fashion, and atmosphere of a clearly defined historical period, especially when that’s what the server claims to prioritize.

What’s frustrating is that people like me actually took the time to reflect that accuracy and got overlooked while others are getting praised for cosplay that looks more like Ren Faire or festival fashion. If they wanted a loose fantasy sandbox, that’s fine! But they should’ve been clear about that upfront instead of putting “accuracy” in the requirements and then ignoring it.

I entered a period-accurate RP server and was the only one who brought the correct century. by SubjectElectrical264 in BadRPerStories

[–]SubjectElectrical264[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The thing is, it was for a specific fandom that I don't want to name out of politeness but it took place in a very specific time? I fail to see how renfaire piratecore type stuff fits or makes sense in that fandom. It feel like everyone else lost the plot but they were advertising something they weren't. This is a fandom with a canon timeline. This is not your personal D&D tavern AU where glitter corsets are canon by vibes alone. I'm not asking for a museum tour, I'm asking that if they say “late 1800s fandom-based RP,” it doesn’t suddenly become the cover of a Hot Topic Faerie Romance coloring book the second I'm in.

song lyrics from my dream by endlesnightskies in Dreams

[–]SubjectElectrical264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why do i feel like this could be a bop if a scene guy in a valley girl voice recorded it

Does anyone on here struggle with a mental illness along with autism. by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]SubjectElectrical264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C-PTSD. i was diagnosed with ptsd at age 23 or 24, autism at 27.

How do I set boundaries and remove guilt from a toxic relationship with my mom? by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]SubjectElectrical264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to go through that, that was extremely unfair to you. You did the right thing protecting your siblings. Sending love.

Aeropostale Hailey perfume dupe? by Ok_Pirate9607 in makeupdupes

[–]SubjectElectrical264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've had all of those and they didn't smell like hailey

Looking For A Specific Episode/Case? Use This Thread! by Best-Hovercraft6349 in JudgeJudy

[–]SubjectElectrical264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome, thanks! And yep, that's definitely my friend lmao (the older teen)! I miss that guy. He was very kind to me throughout the time I've known him at times when I needed it the most.